I hear from a lot of single baby boomers.

The stories they tell me are filled with drama and inexplicable misfortune and yet…they still believe in LOVE.  Against all odds, these wonderful, gifted, precious people hang on to the dream that their TRUE LOVE is out there somewhere….waiting to be found.

If that is you….I believe in you and in your dream. So, dear reader….if you want to know how the Universe can serve you in your search, here are some practical steps:

1.  You have to get clear on what you want. I can’t tell you how many people I talk to have a devil of a time telling me what it is they want in a partner.  Take some time and allow yourself to explore exactly what your life will be like when HE or SHE is here.  Where will you go to eat?  What will you do on Friday nights?  Be detailed.  Dream.  Create an your ideal relationship and write it down.  The Law of Attraction is waiting for you to get clear on what you want! continue

Every now and then, there is a bible scripture comes back to me at just the right time.   One of these is “God places the lonely in families.”  I don’t remember where it is exactly but I do remember when I read it for the first time.

I was going through a particularly difficult time and living in a city with no immediate family, I was pretty lonely.  I had found  a local bible study group, can’t tell you how I even heard about it, I just began attending.  What I found there were people who were kind to me, very kind to me. I enjoyed the bible back then, as much as I enjoy reading Abraham Hicks today.  I remember having the identical passion over the ahas I got while reading.

“God places the lonely in families.”  No wonder that one still feels good.  It is true, you know, while the relationship between you and a female relative may be rocky, there is a very good chance there is someone in your life right now who is the same age as she is who is treating you awfully nice right now.  continue

You look hot and you know it. New shoes, new makeup, new dress. Mani and Pedi with hot wax treatment. You spend the extra twenty minutes to look just right. You walk out to living room and he says:

“We‘re late, are you finally ready?”

What?

Isn’t this the same man who told you how beautiful you are every time you went anywhere, even to Home Depot? Do you miss his compliments? Do you miss how he used to look at you?

It is not unusual for your man to fall into a flow of day to day life where your appearance is not the most important thing to him. Try not to assume anything or read anything into his misstep.

Instead, take some action and get yourself noticed! One of my client’s mantras is “Why is it always up to the women?” I know, I know, but think of it this way. He doesn’t know how much this is bothering you so you need to let him know. When you can start to get compliments from other people and enjoy them, the pressure is off of him to be your sole provider!

Meanwhile, here are three action steps that will get you into the flow of compliments that are already all around you:

1. Ask for compliments. This is a radical idea, not for the faint of spiritual heart. Start your day asking the Universe, the Divine or whatever you call your higher power to send you people who will compliment you. The Law of Attraction LOVES an assignment like this. You ask and then just watch what happens as you go about your business. Try it. Getting compliments always feels terrific and they don’t have to just come from your man!

2. Compliment yourself. This may sound a little loony to you, don’t blame you for that, but it really works. How can we expect compliments from our men when we don’t even appreciate our own looks? Tell yourself how hot you look and do it out loud. Amazing how a week of this will feed your need to feel great about yourself!  Can more romance be far behind?

3. Compliment random strangers. Think how great it feels when someone notices your new haircut or shoes. Plan on complimenting three strangers a day on something you admire. Watch their reaction; see if you catch any delight or self-consciousness.

Think of giving compliments as planting seeds. The more you plant, the more luscious fruit you will reap. After one week of your new complimenting habit, re-evaluate exactly how you want your man to respond to your fashion choices and how you look. Then tell him kindly and directly how his words make you feel. If you don’t need all your complimenting from him, he just may surprise you!

I received this email message today and wanted to share it with all of you!!

It is amazing what is possible when a woman gets her head and her heart on the same path!

Hi Cat,

I don’t know where to begin !!! But on October 24th, I started going to the swing dance society … remember how much fun I have dancing?

Well, I met a man who was so sweet I asked him to dance with me. The Universe had been at work on all angles and behind the scenes and my life has been completely changed!

OMG, remember how I have been so happy just being single, getting to know me and all that good stuff … I am way beyond that right now and am having the time in my life.

He and I seem to be such a good match so far. Don’t really know where all this leads to but he’s originally from here in Ottawa, but is now retired, living in Kentucky and spends half the time in Colorado, where he works for his nephew for a whitewater rafting/outdoors supplies company, then visits Ottawa once a year.

Cat, I’d never thought this was going to happen so soon, but this man seems to fit the “script” I’ve been writing about!!! The one thing even more interesting is that he is 15 years older than I am and yet we’re at the same intellectual level, spiritually he is way ahead of me as he’s been in that world for over 30 years.

So I have so much to learn yet. He even sings and plays the guitar!!! That’s just a bonus actually, but is so endearing to me in a big way;)

He soooo GETS ME!!! It’s so easy to be with him and we’re just so in tune with each other. We even found out that we lived in each other’s neighbourhoods at different times, so there was really no way for us to meet beforehand … just close enough to even bump into each other at grocery stores!

There’s so much more I would like to share with you … but I am just as high as a kite right now!!!

Yeah, that first kiss was well worth the wait … he’s such a wonderful man and I can’t wait to introduce him to you. I actually gave him the link to the recording that you did for me!!! He’s so interested in my world, my boys seem to be taken too and soon, we’ll be on a different level.

I’m so excited about this whole new adventure … I’ve never felt this way before with any of my ex’s, and I am so lucky to be feeling this way at this stage in my life.

Patience was all I had … I knew that I was getting close. I was refining my list and just before meeting him, I had said to myself that my script was so good and “I am sooo worth it”!!!

We’re so connected at a level no one has ever been with me. He helps me keep grounded, while both of us are feeling so high.

Your work is amazing … you could certainly use me as your testimonial!!!

Celebrating love with you,
Belita

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