The 2010: The Destination of Your Dreams
by Debbie Ford

It’s so easy to make promises about the year ahead. You will follow your diet, be more financially responsible, be kinder to your spouse, spend more time at the gym…But, for most, the promises you make today will be empty dreams six months from now. So let’s examine this. I would suggest this happens because real change doesn’t occur when you just want something or wish for another reality. Real change happens when you feel genuinely inspired, turned on by possibility and unwilling to settle for anything less. It happens when you commit with all of yourself to a new way of life, to a new future. So how do you do this?

To feel inspired and lit up and to make room for optimism, enthusiasm, and lasting change, you must lighten your emotional load by addressing your past issues, your emotional blocks, your negative beliefs, your feelings of unworthiness and any infantile desires that drive you to repeatedly head off in a direction counter to your dreams. If you drop your commitments, it is not because you want to be seen as a quitter or a loser but because unconsciously you are more committed to an outdated self — an old identity that feels comfortable and safe even though it might have stopped serving you years ago. Often, psychological laziness will have you switch your life over to autopilot and fall asleep at the wheel rather than stay awake to what will fulfill your heart’s deepest desires and your soul’s purpose.

On this eve of a new year, a very fertile time to look over your past and commit to a new future, you can ask these simple questions to unload some old baggage and steer your life in the direction of a brilliant and thrilling future — the ride of your life.

1) What are your deepest desires for this new year?

2) What are you willing to give up to get them? What habits, limiting beliefs, unhealthy relationships or situations?

3) When did you become unwilling to do whatever it takes to have what you want?

4) What cravings or unmet needs will drive you away from your desired destination?

5) What structure of support will you need to ensure this new future?

6) Who could you count on to be your co-pilot to ensure that you will neither fall short of the runway nor overshoot your desired outcome? Who will help you stay awake?

If you wish to fly to new heights, begin by setting your sights on a destination you can reach and then create a flight plan, a map that will be your guide. And if at any time you don’t feel like following your flight path, stop, take a deep breath, call forth your vision for your future, then pick up your phone, dial your co-pilot and ask them to remind you that veering off your route really isn’t worth the pain of repeating the past. Veering off will only leave you in the same repetitive pattern of wanting, wishing, fantasizing, and then feeling intensely disappointed when you land at a destination other than the phenomenal future that awaits you.

So today, YOU have the power to choose the destination of your dreams, create a flight plan and stick to it. So gather your courage, your strength and your commitment and get onboard, making 2010 the most inspiring year of your life. Join Debbie for a free 21-Day Consciousness Cleanse program, a daily boost, on Oprah.com This amazing 21-Day course will help you clear out any old, negative patterns that may have been stopping you from manifesting the love of your life.

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It never fails me.

When I need to raise my vibration and put myself into a state of delicious well-being, I have a sure fire tool.  Right now I am watching a Tivoed Oprah show and, just like magic, the waves of goose bumps are hitting me.

Not so many years ago, I didn’t think goose bumps were anything special.  When is was cold, I figured it was just a response to the temperature.  I got goose bumps lots of other times, but dismissed them.  Boy was I missing out on a spectacular Law of Attraction tool!!

Now I know for sure that goose bumps are a language of vibration. Abraham Hicks has taught me that keeping my vibration high is the key to attracting what I desire into my life.  I used to think that vibration was controlled by my thoughts alone and that my attraction vibe was a mind experience.

Whoa!  Was I missing the boat!  Now I know that there is a lot of power in the goose bumps and shivers that happen when something thrills me.  Vibrating emotion rolling through my upper body has become my personal attraction meter.  The stronger the vibe, the more in tune with my Inner Being I am. 

Like I said, I never knew that these experiences had so much to offer. I would sit in theatre productions, sports events and concerts totally clueless.  I took the goose bumps and shivers completely for granted.  Now I know that I can recall these times and use them to ramp up my vibe whenever I want.

Plus, now that Tivo is in my life (if you don’t have it….get it!)  I can create my own high vibe tool kit with the push of a button.  So what is my number one Soul Mate Attraction Tool?

Makeovers. On my Tivo right now is a “Oprah, Make Over My Man Please!” (taping date November 19, 2009)  Tim Gunn and Carson Kressley are making over boyfriends and husbands while the women sit stunned in the audience.  Seeing the before and after pictures always sends chills up my spine.

What really gets to me though, every time, is the looks on the faces of the family when they see their loved one madeover. Truth be told, for me any makeover show will do.  From What Not To Wear to Extreme Makeover: Home Edition, the thrills and chills put me in the frame of mind and good feeling place that is an exact match to how I will feel when my manifestation appears.  I have been known to keep favorite episodes on my DVR for MONTHS!!

Pay attention to those goose bumps….when your soul mate arrives, you will be glad you did!!

A friend of mine is just separating from her husband and hearing the fatigue, depression and sadness in her voice triggered this question:

How do you know when it is time to let go of a decaying relationship? The word “decaying” may give you a clue.  If you are miserable, exhausted and disenchanted with your relationship, chances are you are making a decision from a place of anger or fear.

Leaving a relationship is never easy, but if you do it with FEAR or ANGER being your motivator, you are setting yourself up to repeat your pattern with a new partner. continue