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Is Your Naked Left Ring Finger Controlling Your Life? Here’s A Secret For You…

Catherine — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 20:50:15 +0000

“My younger sister is engaged.” The email somberly reported. “Could we book a session? I am a mess.”

Why is it the lack of a ring on your finger can cause so much pain? Carole (not her real name) choked out her feelings. “She is 9 years younger than me. 9. Josh is crazy about her and he is so romantic it makes me sick. My throat gets as tight as a knot. Then I feel horrible. I LOVE my sister. I don’t want to feel like this but I can’t help it. It should be me. How can she get married first?”

Her story turned into sobs. I sat silently on the phone and listened. Like a spring storm, the sobbing subsided and blowing her nose, she sighed. “What if it never happens for me? What if I am a lonely bitter old woman with 100 cats? I can’t stand it…..and now I am going to have to be in HER wedding.” Sobs reignited….

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Slowly but surely Carole and I turned the flow of her thoughts back into a better place and she recommitted to her own personal love attraction plan. There is no question that the engagement of a younger sibling, brother or sister, is a painful thing for the long time single woman.

That naked left ring finger makes a public spectacle out of itself. There it is…out there for everyone to see….LOSER. It takes a mighty strong woman to see this in herself, this branding from the lack of a ring. It takes an even more magical woman to make the decision to do something about it.

Oprah and Goldie Hawn come to mind. Two mega successful, beautiful, vibrant, talented and influential women who have naked left ring fingers. What is it that separates them from other women who let frustration about their relationship status steal their happiness?

Can you control if you are single? Obviously not or you wouldn’t be reading this article. Can you control how much LOVE is in your life? Absolutely. THAT I can teach you.

I run my ideas by my husband (soon we will be celebrating our 5th anniversary back in Hawaii where we tied the knot…*sigh*) because, not being a guy, I just want to make sure that my theories make sense. He is 100% in agreement on this particular Soul Mate Attraction Secret:

There is nothing more attractive than a happy, confident woman. Men cannot resist a genuine smile….the one that comes from deep inside. That kind of smile works like magic. Can you control how much true happiness is behind your smile? Absolutely, I can teach you that too.

You are one tough cookie. You have been on your own most of your life and you can take care of business. If you are the women who contact me, you are also pretty darn tired of doing life by yourself. Sound familiar?

I am hosting a second preview call this Thursday night, September 2, where I am going to share 3 Bonus Love Breakthrough Secrets and the Two Critical Decisions You Must Make if You Want To END Your Singleness For Good and I would love to have you on the call.

Some of you may have heard the first 5 Love Breakthrough Secrets class already, this class will be all new material. If you want to be a part of a couple within the next 6 months, don’t miss it.

With these 3 secrets and 2 decisions added to your bag of tricks, can True Love be far behind?

You can register for the teleseminar right here:

See you there! Oh, and feel free to tweet all about this call to any friends who crave that ring on their own left finger!

Are You A Snow White, A Rapunzel , A Sleeping Beauty or A Scarlett O’Hara?

Catherine — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 17:54:02 +0000

One of these four characters holds the key to your Soul Mate Destiny.If you are still single and not happy about it, take the time to skim this info. You are manifesting a single life…like it or not, that is the truth of the matter. The part of you that is making sure you stay single is your Inner Saboteur.

Ironically, your Saboteur thinks that the risk of New Love is way more painful than being alone. What does that mean? You either undermine every potential relationship before it has a chance to grow or you abandon the relationship before he abandons you.

So why Snow White, Rapunzel, Scarlett and Sleeping Beauty? There are four Saboteur styles and I categorize them with imaginary characters to personalize them a bit. This is not an evil force living inside you heart breaking your heart at every turn (even though it feels like that a lot of the time.)

No, this is a sensitive and caring part of you who just wants exactly what you want….TO BE LOVED AND FEEL HAPPY. That’s it. Your Saboteur can be won over and recruited to help you attract True Love. Wouldn’t it be nice if your path to love was easier and more fun?

Once you know your Saboteur style, you can make a Soul Mate Attraction Plan with some real teeth. Each style has it’s own preferences and strengths. Heck, she has been manifesting your singleness all these years and KNOWS how to get what she wants. Convince her to work with you instead of against you and some real magic will happen.

You have a strong inner concept of life as a single….it is all you have known for years. What if your very self sabotage habits could lead to True Love? Just click the link at the bottom of this post and you will have instant mp3 download in your hands.

Curious? This teleseminar will teach you about the Four Saboteur Styles, how you can recognize which you might be and how to convince your Saboteur that you really don’t want to be single anymore.

It happened for me and I am sharing the tools I discovered on my way so you can attract True Love once and for all.

“How to Get The Perfect Man Into Your Bed: 5 Love Breakthrough Secrets From a Happily Married Wife
with Catherine Behan
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Guest Blogger: Three Simple Ways To Win His Heart

Catherine — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 16:49:51 +0000

Today’s post is by Gillian Reynolds:

How to Make Him Fall in Love with You Fast! 3 Quick Tips to Win His Heart

You want to know how to make him fall in love with you fast. You met an amazing man and you can feel yourself falling head over heels for him. Ideally, he’ll feel the same way about you. Unfortunately, men tend to fall in love at a slower pace than we do. However, there are a few things any woman can do to subtly speed that process along. Being in love is a feeling unlike any other, so why not do everything in your power to ensure you get the man you want to love you too?

Learning how to make him fall in love with you fast includes these three quick tips:

Be a little mysterious. Men love it when a woman is a wee bit mysterious. If your life is not an open book, he’s going to feel more drawn to you. Don’t put all your cards on the table too soon in the relationship. Let him learn new and interesting things about you each day. He’ll love it. To him it’s like unwrapping a new gift on a daily basis. If you slowly allow him to learn more and more about you, he’ll always be hungry for more.

Have a fun and fulfilling life. Whenever a man meets an interesting woman and her schedule is always wide open to see him, he’s disappointed. Men are drawn to women who are dynamic and remarkable. If he discovers that you have nothing going on in your life other than your burgeoning relationship with him, that’s going to be a let down. He’d much rather see someone who has a career she loves, friends she adores and who has a laundry list of interests that swallow up her time. Let him see that your life is very fulfilling with or without a man and he’ll actually want you more. He’ll want to prove to you that you need him and that will make him work harder to get you to love him too.

Be extraordinary. The one common complaint that single men have is that all the women they meet are cookie cutter versions of each other. Many women make the mistake of thinking they have to present themselves in a very specific way to get a man’s attention. You just have to be yourself. An extraordinary woman is one who is honest, sincere and kind. He wants you to show him the real you. If you have an opinion, share it with him. Don’t believe that you always have to agree with is point of view in order to get him to love you. The opposite is actually true. He wants someone who knows her own mind and speaks it.

Remember to always be yourself when you want to capture a man’s heart. Once he sees the amazing woman you are inside he won’t be able to resist your charms a moment longer.

The Dreaded Conversation You MUST Have To Find True Love

Catherine — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 15:51:43 +0000

The DTR

The DTR (“Define the Relationship”): that necessary but nervous-sweat-inducing conversation that every couple must have (besides perhaps an arranged marriage). How many dates must pass before the talk? What’s the best way to do it? What if they’re not feeling the same way and the DTR causes a premature end to your (or their) live-in-the-now happiness?

When to DTR: This varies from relationship to relationship, so instead of following some arbitrary timeline, do it when it feels right. The DTR should happen when you start feeling ready to take things to the next level. If you’re feeling excited about them and want to see what happens in an exclusive setting, bring it up.

The other situation in which to DTR is if you’re getting the impression that they’re way more into you than you are into them (and/or feel like maybe they’re thinking exclusivity when you’re not). Put yourself in their shoes and treat them well, even if you think their assumptions about your relationship are out of line. Being honest about where you stand and getting everyone on the same page is huge, especially when feelings get involved.

How to DTR: Couching the DTR as a serious talk may be mistaken for the break-up speech, so avoid talking about having the DTR before you actually do. If the person you’re with hears “I want to talk about something with you”, they’ll be on the defensive to protect themselves in case what you have to say isn’t good — no one loves getting dumped. Instead, bring it up the next time you’re both happy and comfortable and in a low-key but positive way: “Hey — I like you. I want to see where this will go. How are you feeling about us?” Then, have a conversation and figure out where you both stand. If you’re in the same place, brilliant. If not, talk about it.

When you want to go from many to one: If you’re currently dating multiple people and would like to be dating just one, hen you mention you’d like to be exclusive with them that one person will pick up on the fact that they were not (up until the DTR) the sole member of your happy-time club. If they subscribe to the popular belief that until the DTR, everything is fair game, they’ll be fine with this. If they don’t, listen and talk it through. Hopefully they’ll see your side.

A successful DTR requires both grace and tact, and an understanding of the position of the person you’re DTRing. Honesty, respect and communication are golden. No one likes to feel like they’ve been played, or to be in a position where they’re getting hurt or are hurting someone else. Don’t fall prey to wussiness or a douchebaggery: talk about where you stand when you get to the point of moving forward or out.

Yours in happy DTRing, S

Originally published on the PickV.com blog (a new dating site that matches people based on music, movies and book likes and dislikes), where Samantha Scholfield is the weekly love/relationships contributor. Samantha is the author of the book “Screw Cupid: The Sassy Girl’s Guide to Picking Up Hot Guys” Available everywhere books are sold www.screwcupidthebook.com

How about you? Do you wonder what your chances are for Soul Mate Success? http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and get your Soul Mate Success Score right now.

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Why Can’t I Find My Soul Mate?

Catherine — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 15:55:54 +0000

The Answer May Surprise You.

The disappointment I hear in the voices of the women who are lonely and looking for romance in their lives is haunting.

“Why do I keep attracting the jerks and losers?”

“All of the men in my age group are married or satisfied with being single.”

“What if I never meet the love of my life?”

Ouch.

There is a hidden key to finding the man of your dreams and believe it or not, it has nothing to do with your past lovers or the emotionally distant relationship you might have with your dad.

The key to finding a man who gets you and loves you is to fully recover from the hurts from the women in your past.

What you say?

“How can my relationships with girlfriends have anything to do with finding my soul mate?”

Let me tell you a story.

When Janna went to college, she felt really lucky. She hadn’t fit in with the cool kids in high school and was a loner. College was different though. She met people she could relate to and began to find friends.

Naïve and open, she began to trust these girls and let herself be known more and more deeply. It was fun to come home to the dorm and always find someone up, no matter what time it was, to share about dates, guys and guys.

These were really great friendship times and Janna flourished.

Then, out of the blue, Janna met a guy of her own. It was an instant crush. Every cell in her body vibrated when she thought about him. Body, mind and soul all completely captured by this wonderful man.

She fell hard and, lucky for her, so did he. Janna and Dan began hanging out together as often as they could. They didn’t really date, they just hung out. It was comfortable and fun and felt very right.

What happened next with her girlfriends blindsided her completely. Janna’s roommate, Kate, was going through a messy breakup with her longterm boyfriend at the time. Somehow, they saw Janna’s time spent with Dan as an abandonment of Kate.

As they made their stance more and more clear, Janna was faced with a difficult choice. Her girlfriends or…..her soul mate.

Of course she chose Dan. He was her whole world.

What a time it was. The chemistry was strong and steady. They got each other. It was so easy to be together and they couldn’t get enough of each other.

It was completely natural for them to spend more and more time together. And so they did.

Kate was going through a devastating time, there is no quarrel with that. But try as she might, Janna could not read the situation. Her love for Dan was all she wanted. She only knew one thing for sure and that was that she did not ever intend to hurt anyone.

The price was high though. In the not fully informed decision making of a teenage crowd, Janna was excised from the group.

At the time, it didn’t seem to matter. The hurt and disappointment was completely hidden by the overwhelming chemistry between Janna and Dan.

The loss of the friendships, the support, the smiles, the involvement the fun of girlfriendness was never addressed at the time.

When Janna and Dan broke up after a passionate, complicated and significant length of time, Janna was left not only without her soul mate and her girlfriends, she also had taken a huge hit in the area of trust. After all, she had picked those girls and her soul mate and those choices were filled with drama and trauma.

Unaware of the unexpressed disappointment still deep in her memory, Janna never trusted women again. Holding her heart closed from other girls, she could comfort herself knowing she couldn’t get hurt like that again.

Fast forward ten, twenty years or so. Janna now has had many women friends over the years but few that have sustained themselves.

She is lonely and, truth be told, desperate to meet a man to be with. She wants what she had with Dan. She wants to feel that excitement again. The wanting of it is steady and intense. “Where is he?” She cries into her pillow at night. “Why can’t I meet him?”

Freeze Frame:

The betrayal of women, by women, is the single most injurious of emotional wounding. Self protective postures and behaviors keep women at arms length from each other.

Ask yourself, how many women do I trust completely?

Unless you are very different than most, you come up with a very low number.

What in the world does all this have to do with your invisible soul mate?

Everything.

When you are drawn into a relationship with an unconscious (which by its nature is naïve and open, bless its heart) desire to fulfill both a girlfriend’s and a boyfriend’s roles, the result is always devastating. Whether it ends sooner or later, the results are the same. The relationship is lopsided and, without help, pretty doomed.

Not many men are going to be attracted (in the invisible but oh so real world of energetic signals.)to you with this signal. Men run from neediness every time. They can’t be everything to you and you wouldn’t want a man who thought that he could. Trust me.

They read it with their Man Radar.

Yuck, you say, I don’t want to radiate that!

Are you ready to start doing things differently?

How serious are you about finding your soul mate?

Take an inventory and see how many of your past female friendships ended badly. Check in with your heart to see if past betrayal still hurts. You are holding yourself back in your search for your soul mate because the pain of a broken heart seems worse than being alone.

Learning to open your heart again toward women will put you on the fast track to receiving the man the Universe has been trying to bring to you.

Before you say that you don’t have any issues with those mean girls, ask yourself this question:

Why am I still single?

How about you? Do you wonder what your chances are for Soul Mate Success? http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and find out right now!

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If I Don’t Make it Back…Tell My Mom I Love Her

Catherine — Fri, 21 May 2010 16:08:17 +0000

I doubt many of you have heard of Antietam Creek. I hadn’t either until visiting the Washington DC area this weekend. Antietam Creek is a tributary of the Potomac River located inn south central Pennsylvania and western Maryland and the site of the most deadly single day battle during the Civil War. Over 23,000 young men died that day. 23,000.

The property is huge and spectacular in beauty. The day I was there, it was raining steadily and the newly arrived spring time greenery in the surrounding forest was a sight to behold. That is what makes visiting Civil War battlefields so very poignant. The fact that these pastoral scenes were the sight of so much bloodshed is heartbreaking.

On one particular site, called the Bloody Lane, 5600 men lost their lives. Some of these ‘men’ were 13 and 14 years old. While meditating in this now peaceful scene, I was acutely aware of these boys. “If I don’t make it, tell my mom I love her.” This comment was written in a small bible found at the scene.

When it comes right down to it…the most precious gift of all is our love for one another. Love is what we all want to leave to our closest family. Love is what transcends all other wishes. Love is YOUR destiny and your legacy. I wonder if you are loved enough. I wonder if you know how lovable you are. I wonder if you believe there is more love for you right now.

Visiting the many bloody battlefields of the Civil War has changed me. I always was passionate about Love and creating experiences so that people can find their own True Love. But now, the mission is magnified. Love IS all around us at all times and yours if you are with your soul mate or not. If you are lonely and aching to be connected to someone who will love you like no other, don’t wait another minute. Take the steps to change your SELF so that you are irresistible to the Love you are seeking.

Wonder if you are really ready for True Love? http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and find out right now!

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Best Break Up Lines Ever: Video Post

Catherine — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 15:40:35 +0000

Today, my friend and colleague, Thea Newcomb released this fantastic video celebrating her 10 years of comforting the broken hearted with humor and love. Congratulations, Thea!! I hope you all enjoy the video and feel free to share this link! Catherine

Over the last ten years we’ve had thousands of break-up lines sent into soyouvebeendumped.com. Some of them really funny, some of them painfully cruel, and still others are complete cliches. In any event, over the last six months, I’ve been polishing off a book of real lines and stories that were emailed direct or posted on this site.

It is my hope the book is ready for our 10th birthday on Independence Day this year – (July 4th for you non-Americans).

For now though, I thought I’d give you a wee teaser. I’ve not used all my best lines – gotta keep some for the book…

Many people who stumble across our site do so because they’ve searched for “Break Up Lines” so this one is especially for you.

I’d like to thank my buddy Geoff Martyn who was the one person who created this site with me ten years ago and who, with his band a few years ago, sang this song “Bring Me Down”. Cheers G.

Hope you enjoy!

Thanks for watching and if you like it – please pass along this page, would you? Many thanks. Happy Friday folks.

Is Feeling Cherished at the Top of Your Wish List?

Catherine — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 20:03:19 +0000

Don’t give up on that dream!

Here are three powerful free tools you can use right now to reawaken the joy of belonging to that special someone.

I had a wonderful experience this week sharing an interview with the always brilliant Arielle Ford, author of The Soul Mate Secret on Co-Creator Radio. If you are serious about manifesting a Soul Mate sooner rather than later, click this link and download the recording right away! http://cat3733.audioacrobat.com/download/CatherineandArielle.mp3

Secondly, are you sure you are ready to open your heart again to love? Take The Soul Mate Quiz and find out if you are sending off a strong enough signal for your soul mate to find you. Just click right here: http://AttractYourSoulMateNow.com

Third, with your quiz results you will also receive the 5 day e-coaching program, The Soul Mate Shift. You will be amazed that you can release the pain of an old relationship in just minutes a day.

You can believe in Love again and these three tools will make it possible!

I believe in you!

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Before You Try E-Harmony….Get a Dose of ME-Harmony

Catherine — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 15:26:45 +0000

“I hate on-line dating!” Maggie sighed. “Everyone lies and posts pictures of themselves from 15 years ago.”
“I know what you mean,” moaned Lisa. “I want a guy over 6 feet and the last three matches were all under 5′ 8!”

Can you relate? Have you worked and worked on your on-line profile and still attract people you would never pick for yourself? What’s wrong with the system?

Personally, I have worked with many people who have had excellent results with on-line dating. Some, though still single, really enjoy the people they have met through these dating resources. So what’s the deal? Why aren’t more people lucky in on-line love?

If you aren’t finding a good match, could it be that YOU are not a good match? Is it possible that you aren’t projecting the whole picture? If you are attracting people that are not even close to your ideals, you just might need to focus on a little ME-Harmony before you go to E-Harmony.

Long time singles like yourself have a Lost Love Legacy that holds your future captive. Each person you have encountered along the way…BFFs included, have left a sort of footprint in your mind and heart. Some past relationships have been good and the breakups mutual. But, the fact is, all past relationships have disappointments and heartbreak that lodge themselves in your heart.

No one is perfect. People hurt each other in relationship when misunderstandings happen, no matter how hard you try not to. When you attract the exact opposite of who it is you want to be with, it is a sure sign that you are coming across with a confusing vibration. The Law of Attraction is relentless and always brings exactly what you are vibrating…not what you are hoping for.

One part of you craves to be loved and adored. Another fears opening deeply to let love in. One part of you wants to co-create a marriage that works. Another part is intimidated by the negotiating it takes to walk it out.
One part of you wants a partner who is open and vulnerable. Another part of you is terrified of being open and vulnerable. See what I mean?

When you focus on ME-Harmony, you learn you can accept your doubts and fears and still move forward. Making peace with the ghosts of relationships past is the fastest way to get there. Each heart break in your past holds the power to make you an amazing partner. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. Finding self compassion and letting go of your hurts and disappointments will bring you to a place of shining self confidence.

When you have ME-Harmony, you may not even return to on-line dating. There is nothing more irresistible than a happy, confident person. Your luck in love will surely change when you choose that as your primary goal!

Curious about how to bring that harmony to yourself? Take the Soul Mate Quiz right here: http://AttractYourSoulMateNow.com

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“If The Law Of Attraction is Not Bringing Love….Isn’t it My Fault?”

Catherine — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:28:49 +0000

Janet’s voice dropped to a whisper as she asked this painful question.“I am doing everything I can. I have my vision board. I read my affirmations every morning. If He isn’t here yet….it must mean I am doing something wrong, doesn’t it?”

Before I could answer, she melted into tears, “I guess I am afraid there really isn’t anyone out there for me. How can I know for sure? If I knew he wasn’t coming, then I could move on in peace. It is the not knowing that is just killing me.”

The phone went silent for a moment as she composed herself.

“I just can’t give up,” She sighed. “Something in me won’t let go of the dream.”

From that point, we went on to clear a powerful past break up with EFT and released some of the very real heart break from nearly 20 years ago.

So, is it your fault that the LOA is not delivering as you expect? After all, according to the Law of Attraction, you are living out what you are vibrating so if you are failing in your Soul Mate Search, aren’t you ultimately responsible?

Yes and no. Your Dreams and Aspirations are powerful tools guiding you to truly enjoy your life. If your man or woman hasn’t shown up for you, it is almost always a matter of Timing. The very fact that you are reading this post is evidence that you are attracting the tools you need to make your dreams a reality.

Your past relationships have been filled with misperceptions and misunderstandings and you have to deal with that. There are no short cuts. This part IS your responsibility. Be sincere when you look inside at your heart. Are you really ready to open your heart again?

If you are not so sure, then you can take inspired action to clear away the emotional residue that is cluttering your mind. You can prepare your heart to love again and when you make THAT your primary goal, Law of Attraction will pour resources and support to manifest your strong and healed heart!

LOA is always strongest when you pick an Inner Goal rather than an Outer Goal. What I recommended to Janet was that she change her intention from: “I want to attract a Soul Mate.” to “I want to prepare my heart to BE a fantastic Soul Mate.”

I could almost feel her smile through the phone. “I feel so relieved!” She said. “I can DO that!”

Are you ready for True Love? http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and find out today.

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