know he isn’t the one.”
got a Christmas surprise….a new baby grand daughter! Imagine my daughter in laws delight and relief. No her bag wasn’t packed, but now her belly isn’t either and she is very happy about that!
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good sport. “I never thought I would still be single,” she wailed to no one in particular. Living alone had become a nightmare and the reality that children were not likely stabbed through her like a knife.
90% of singles quit on-line dating services for the wrong reason. What if your soul mate is out there on line and you never meet him?
There is nothing more magical and true proof of the Law of Attraction than Internet Dating.
If you have only attracted creeps and losers on-line, there is a perfectly logical reason for that and it doesn’t have anything to do with the creeps and losers. No matter how beautifully you write your profile, the energy underneath the words is what prospects are responding to. Wait… read what my star client Maria writes about her new Love Vibe.
Before we started to work together, the ratio of 7 women to 1 man on her beautiful island of Victoria, British Columbia just killed her dating life. She teased that all the men were either “Newly Wed or Nearly Dead” and the only men who responded to her profile were the “Nearly Dead”. She was totally creeped out. Look what she says now:
Hi Catherine
I wanted to send you a quick note regarding our sessions. Before I started working with you I was very discouraged about finding love. I have been single for 15 years only dating every now and then.
Since we started our sessions I am having a complete attitude change, I believe it is possible to find my soul mate! I feel so much better not only about finding HIM but I also feel amazing about ME too.
Catherine you put my world into perspective and that in itself is priceless. I believe there is a wonderful future out there waiting for the right moment to find me. Now I feel I’m ready to go after it.
I have this inner excitement inside of me that I had lost for so many years. It’s nice to have ME back again, I really missed her! Ha ha!
Catherine you are a doll and you make a world of difference in people’s lives, don’t ever stop doing what you are doing.
You even got me back onto Internet dating, which before I met you I wouldn’t consider trying ever again. This time with my new vibrations it is a lot different. It’s exciting and new and it really does work!!!
Hugs to you, I cannot wait till the day I meet you in person.
Love ya,
Maria
Maria’s first step was The Soul Mate Quiz. Once she felt her Love Vibe and realized how muffled it was by the heartbreaks from her past, she understood why she was attracting the wrong men. The Law of Attraction led her to my website and the rest is history. Even though she hasn’t met “The One” yet, I know she is getting more and more irresistible to men who are perfect prospects for her. She is attracting single guys in her age group and having more fun than she thought possible….with on line dating!
How about you? If you are single and not dating and fearful of on line relationships…it just might be because your Love Magnet is too weak to attract True Love. Take the first step and get your Soul Mate Success Score. http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and find out right now!
The DTR (“Define the Relationship”): that necessary but nervous-sweat-inducing conversation that every couple must have (besides perhaps an arranged marriage). How many dates must pass before the talk? What’s the best way to do it? What if they’re not feeling the same way and the DTR causes a premature end to your (or their) live-in-the-now happiness?
When to DTR: This varies from relationship to relationship, so instead of following some arbitrary timeline, do it when it feels right. The DTR should happen when you start feeling ready to take things to the next level. If you’re feeling excited about them and want to see what happens in an exclusive setting, bring it up.
The other situation in which to DTR is if you’re getting the impression that they’re way more into you than you are into them (and/or feel like maybe they’re thinking exclusivity when you’re not). Put yourself in their shoes and treat them well, even if you think their assumptions about your relationship are out of line. Being honest about where you stand and getting everyone on the same page is huge, especially when feelings get involved.
How to DTR: Couching the DTR as a serious talk may be mistaken for the break-up speech, so avoid talking about having the DTR before you actually do. If the person you’re with hears “I want to talk about something with you”, they’ll be on the defensive to protect themselves in case what you have to say isn’t good — no one loves getting dumped. Instead, bring it up the next time you’re both happy and comfortable and in a low-key but positive way: “Hey — I like you. I want to see where this will go. How are you feeling about us?” Then, have a conversation and figure out where you both stand. If you’re in the same place, brilliant. If not, talk about it.
When you want to go from many to one: If you’re currently dating multiple people and would like to be dating just one, hen you mention you’d like to be exclusive with them that one person will pick up on the fact that they were not (up until the DTR) the sole member of your happy-time club. If they subscribe to the popular belief that until the DTR, everything is fair game, they’ll be fine with this. If they don’t, listen and talk it through. Hopefully they’ll see your side.
A successful DTR requires both grace and tact, and an understanding of the position of the person you’re DTRing. Honesty, respect and communication are golden. No one likes to feel like they’ve been played, or to be in a position where they’re getting hurt or are hurting someone else. Don’t fall prey to wussiness or a douchebaggery: talk about where you stand when you get to the point of moving forward or out.
Yours in happy DTRing, S
Originally published on the PickV.com blog (a new dating site that matches people based on music, movies and book likes and dislikes), where Samantha Scholfield is the weekly love/relationships contributor. Samantha is the author of the book “Screw Cupid: The Sassy Girl’s Guide to Picking Up Hot Guys” Available everywhere books are sold www.screwcupidthebook.com
How about you? Do you wonder what your chances are for Soul Mate Success? http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and get your Soul Mate Success Score right now.
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