Sucks doesn’t it.

And don’t just limit yourself to love.  Trusting the wrong person can happen in business, friendships and even in our health care choices.

The worst part…the easiest person to blame for the mess is YOURSELF. Now you may think you are blaming that awful other person.  You certainly complain about them enough….to any one that will listen.

But..truth be told, at the core of it, aren’t you furious at yourself for being naive and trusting the rat in the first place.  There, the big secret is out.  It is YOU that is to blame, no one else.

And what exactly did you do wrong?  Listen….can you hear it?  It is that little voice inside harassing you once again:

“How could you be so stupid?” continue

If the Law of Attraction really works, then why in the world would you keep attracting men who are no good for you?

I’ll tell you why.

LOW SELF ESTEEM is ridiculously attractive. Like a powerful inner magnet, your low opinion of yourself sends invisible waves of energy that broadcast to the world like a “Kick Me” sign taped to your back.

There is some good news here, though.  Low self esteem is just a habit. You heard me right…a habit.  It is a habit of THOUGHT.  A belief is created by thinking a thought over and over and over again.  Pretty soon you don’t even know you are thinking the thought.  Before you know it, you truly believe you are NOT GOOD ENOUGH.

When you BELIEVE you are NOT GOOD ENOUGH, you do the stupidest stuff imaginable to make other people like you.  How is that working for you? continue

I am inspired and celebrating an extra special birthday today!

Two years ago, I was recovering from cancer surgery and couldn’t walk across the living room.  Today I am running and playing with my grandson!  Life is exquisitely sweet to me and I stand profoundly grateful.

There is no question that my SELF CONFIDENCE grew by leaps and bounds as I watched my body recover (amazing in itself).  I also grew as a woman and found my divine life purpose through all of the coaching that I received through my adventure.

It is knowing my true worth that has changed my life.  That is why I am offering YOU a special gift to celebrate my birthday this year.

Do you wish YOUR self esteem was higher?  What would radiant self confidence do for your life right about now?

The Worth Your Weight In Gold BREAKTHROUGH 5 Part Teleseminar Series is just what you are looking for and starting today, I am giving a full $100 off of the enrollment fee. continue

To All Aspiring Soul Mates:

There really IS nothing like being desired. When my husband chooses to be with me, whether in the bedroom or  at the beach I love it. I feel genuinely ATTRACTIVE, magnetizing his attention and desire to be with me. What is the magic?

According to Dr. Marta Meana PhD., professor of Psychology at UNLV, being desired is “practically orgasmic” for some women. Knowing a man is desiring you is a powerful and arousing experience.  In other words, Dr. Meana says, “A man overcome with desire is so sexy!” continue

Appreciation is the secret to life.  Abraham Hicks

I could just stop there and post my all time shortest entry, but I will reflect a bit. If appreciation is so powerful and so accessible, then why are so many people whining about their circumstances?  Why don’t people work at strengthening their appreciation muscles?

No matter what is happening, there is some one else who has it a little bit worse than you.  You know that is true.  If you are like me, though, sometimes appreciation is the hardest thing to find.  I hate going through crud.  You know CRUD:  Challenges-Reversals-Uprootings-Downsizings.  CRUD always sucks.

Unexpected bills, car problems, root canals, lay offs, dog pooping in the house, Days of Our Lives pre-empted by a sports event.  CRUD can sneak up on a person at any time and if you are not careful, DEpreciation is waiting to grab you. Depreciation means loss of value.  If you are in the center of your circumstances and you are not appreciating, no wonder your self esteem suffers.

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was an App for the I Phone for appreciation.  Whenever you are feeling pressured or overwhelmed, there’s an app for that.  Just click the button and choose something to appreciate from the options that pop on the screen.  Here are some examples:

1.  Take a breath. If you work with me at all, you know I am always asking my clients to take a breath.  The air we breathe is an instant and constant reminder of the abundance that surrounds us.  There is always enough air to breathe.

2. What part of your body feels good today? I wish I would have known to appreciate my sweatless body before hot flashes started a few years ago.  All those nights I slept without waking up in a pool of sweat….ah the good old days!  While you may have a health challenge right now, there is at least one part of your body that is thriving, even if it is the hair that refuses to stop growing out of your chin.

3. What can you imagine for yourself today? Your imagination is truly the gift that keeps on giving.  I adore my various guided meditation cds.  I have a grand collection including work by Kelly Howell, Wendi Friesen, Orin and Daben, Jose Silva and Paul Scheele, among others.  Your imagination is always available to you and you can see your life through a completely different lens if you practice.

4. Who needs encouraging today? As you go through your day, watch people’s faces.  See if you can pick up sadness or overwhelm in a passer by.  Send them love and appreciation.  Imagine you have a laser pointer and you are shining a beam of love into their heart.  It feels great to lift someone’s spirits this way.  Take it one step further and you will be surprised how many people will accept a hug if you offer.

5. Redefine your separateness from your family. I know loneliness is a big problem when you are practicing appreciation.  Hard to be thankful for an empty apartment.  BUT!  It is true that the very people you are lonely for can be a royal pain in the patootie!  There is a blessing in distance and the quiet of your home can be a sweet respite for you.  Get some fresh flowers and throw open your windows.  Celebrate your space and your distance and the fact that you can fill you environment with the things you love!

Abraham Hicks promises over and again that Appreciation fuels the juice of life. I agree!  Appreciation puts me into a calm mindset because I can’t think of a problem at the same time I am appreciating.  One time when I was in the midst of a major challenge, I can remember thanking my big toe for being an integral part of my life.  Makes me smile again just thinking about it!

Next time you are overwhelmed, remember, there is an app(reciation) for that!

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