The Universe is full of examples of automatic manifestation.

Let me repeat that:  The Universe is FULL of examples of AUTOMATIC MANIFESTATION.  Let me give you a few examples.

A dandelion seed floating in the wind doesn’t obsess about how it will grow a strong enough root to withstand multi-deweeding attempts.

A grain of sand doesn’t stress about how it will become a matching pearl on a strand on the neck of a lovely woman.

A caterpillar doesn’t worry about how it will fly thousands of miles as a Monarch butterfly.

An acorn doesn’t obsess about how it will tower over everything as an oak tree in the future.

A tadpole doesn’t stress about how it will grow four legs and hop as a frog.

A chick in the nest doesn’t worry about how it will leap from the nest and fly as an eagle.

A puppy doesn’t obsess about how it will lead a blind man across a busy street.

A redwood pine cone doesn’t stress about how a forest fire one day will release it’s seeds into the earth.

A lamb doesn’t worry about how to grow enough wool to make all the sweaters that are to come.

Are you catching my drift? There are so many examples of AUTOMATIC MANIFESTATION around us all the time.  What is on automatic in your life?

If you have automatic thoughts about what you don’t have right now, you need to address that.  Who is the boss of you anyway!  LOL

Now, I don’t mean to make light of your lonely situation.  I know you are frustrated in your search for love but….

Focusing on the perfect way that nature replicates itself and keeps life going is a tremendous source of encouragement.  You are like a seed.  You are holding within your very cells promise beyond your wildest dreams.

As Dr. Wayne Dyer explains, within you is a dynamic force that is pulling you forward to your full expression.  If it is true in nature, how can it not be true for YOU!  So what is the problem?  If you feel stuck, look back, there are usually two primary causes:

1.  You are not following through with a decision that you committed to yourself to act on.

2.  You are ignoring an action step that you KNOW you need to take.

You and only you are in the way of Manifesting Love. Follow what you know you could be doing to connect with your life’s purpose.  Don’t hang out whining about the LOVE that isn’t here!!  There is all kinds of love everywhere you look.  Challenge yourself to LOOK for love.

Start your day saying this intention out loud.  I guarantee it will change your perspective:

I intend to see love in all of its forms wherever I go.

A great mantra that will not let you down!

Are you ready to step into Automatic Love Manifestation?  Here you go:  http://LOAinLove.com

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Stressing and Obsessing about that ex of yours has to come to an end. How badly do you want a guy who really treats you right?  Seriously, on a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you crave a forever partner?

Can you see how important it is to get control over your emotions?  How attractive are you when you are freaking out?

Guy Kayasaki in his FAB book Enchantment, describes an excellent boss who remains at the top of his game because he constantly reminds himself what a tough boss he is to work with.

You have to face the fact that you are a complicated package. You feel things deeply and don’t feel understood very often.  Don’t you get hurt feelings a lot of the time?  How attractive is that, right?

I recently got this question from a frustrated Rapunzel, one of my private members,  who has no trouble seeing her faults, in fact she has slipped to the other side of the equation and is ‘beating up on herself’ at her inability to stop stressing and obsessing.  Here is her note and my answer:

Dear Catherine,

Sometimes I start using EFT on an issue and then another becomes apparent and another and so on and then I feel very overwhelmed at which one I need to focus on, in other words, which issue is the core issue?

I then feel very frustrated and angry with myself for having so many issues and for not being tough enough to “get over myself”!

Is there an exercise that can help find the core issue so that I can focus on that? Does anyone else feel this way sometimes?

Hi Rapunzel,

Thanks for such a great question!

When you are tapping on a problem and another problem comes to your mind, we have a couple of things to hash out.

Here are some tips for creating a great tapping script when you are overwhelmed:

1. You will have easiest results when you get to as specific an incident to tap on as possible. For example, Bossy Betty at work is not good to tap on, the time Bossy Betty spilled coffee on the report you had been working on for three weeks is.  If you are not specific enough, your mind searches for something to hook on to and jumps all over the place.

2. If Bossy Betty is the problem, think of the last thing she did that really got to you. Then get out a notebook and write the thing down, in movie title form:

The Time Bossy Betty Spilled Coffee on the Report. (Sometimes my beloved Rapunzels point out to me that Bossy Betty does 100 things a day that are annoying. I know. But to kick start your brain into the pleasure zone, you have to pick one.)

Now ask yourself: What Bugs Me About That? Wait for the answer. Write it down and then ask the question again. Keep repeating until you reach the end.

This is magical brain detective work and will help you find what is really at the bottom of your reaction to Bossy Betty.

Here is an example:

The Time that Bitch Bossy Betty Ruined my Report. (A Little Drama Allowed)

What bugs me about that? I worked so hard on the thing.

What bugs me about that? Not only did I not get credit, now I have to start over.

What bugs me about that? Her stupidity

What bugs me about that? People should know better

What bugs me about that? People are so careless

What bugs me about that? People should care

What bugs me about that? People should care about how hard I work

What bugs me about that? They are taking advantage of me

What bugs me about that? I hate it here

What bugs me about that? I’m wasting so much time.

I recently heard a quote I love. Life is 20% what happens to you and 80% how you react to it. So, so true. Take your time and just keep asking the question over and over until you get the true answer.

Now you have the perfect EFT tapping script. Just go through the points tapping on each answer. Then finish with a round that says this or something like it:

“Thank you Universe that dingy Bossy Betty spilled the bleepin’ coffee on my report because if she didn’t, I wouldn’t have tracked down that place in my brain that hid the pain from me.

Thank you for showing me the parts of my brain that make me feel overwhelmed. Thank you for helping me calm and settle my brain chemistry.”

It might feel weird to use words like brain and brain chemistry when you are manifesting your soul mate but go ahead and do it anyway. Your brain is confused… programmed wrong….. it is the root of your love sabotage.

Life has conditioned your brain to act as if Love hurts and is potentially fatal (I know that is a little dramatic, but the Saboteur’s love it that way….that’s why you are still single!)

When you track down the grand daddy aha at the bottom of your questions, you then bring refreshing restorative pleasure brain chemicals into that very place. Sweet relief?

You bet, and remember, Abraham Hicks has been telling us for years that our number one goal should be relief. They are so so right!

You can train your brain to fall in love. Keep using all the tools you are learning. EFT is my personal favorite, however there are literally dozens of techniques you can use to change your brain’s chemical state.

Your job is to recognize when you are freaking out and deal with it as a physical brain issue first. This takes practice, but you can do it.  Once you relieve the stress chemicals and find relief, then make the decision that is freaking you out. Then for sure you will stop freaking out about your ex.

“I am tired of the Law of Attraction.”

“I do everything Abraham says and I am still single.”

“I am SO tired of being alone.”

Sound familiar? It can be searingly difficult to keep the faith with you are working with the Universal Laws. The books, audios and coaching programs all promise great results, so what’s up? Why can’t finding love be easier?

I hear you. Law of Attraction SOUNDS good when you hear it, doesn’t it? If you can learn how to magnetize yourself to love, your perfect match will ‘magically’ appear and your happily ever after is yours at last. Are you rolling your eyes? Great…keep reading!

There is a missing piece to the puzzle and if you are rolling your eyes….you are closer to the missing piece than you think! The one ingredient to manifesting success that flies under the radar and stays out of your view is…..

Are you ready for this? The very frustration you are feeling is the missing link! As you get more and more clear about what kind of relationship you want, you are actually stirring the pot of your past disappointments. This is natural and normal!!

Your brain has been conditioned to create thoughts contrary to loving connection. You read right. Your own brain chemistry is working against you and the only clue you have is your frustration. Why is that a problem?

Simple…Law of Attraction gurus teach you night and day that you must keep our vibration up at all costs, that you must place yourself in the mindset and mood of a happily married soul mate before you can be magnetic enough to have him show up. There is only one problem with that.

In order to create the feeling of mission accomplished before the mission is accomplished is to allow the negative thoughts have a voice. Depression, despair, anger, frustration, sadness, grief and loneliness are all real energies produced by our brains in response to life drama and trauma.

If you don’t recondition your brain to see these events differently….you are stuck in the waiting room forever!!!

Should you just give up? NO!! Your negative feelings are controlling your lackluster love life and there is a safe way to express them. Worrying that you will attract more negative results if you allow yourself to be negative is a trap! You must find away to change your thoughts about the painful past and retraining your brain is the fastest way to get that job done.

So what can you do?

Here are 5 Steps to Keeping Your Faith in The Law of Attraction While You Are Waiting for Love:

1. Don’t Deny Your Feelings: Seems simple, but is so important. When you are feeling blue or find yourself in a funk, don’t be too quick to run from those feelings. You are frustrated and I don’t blame you.

Let your feelings about your singleness have a voice. Now, you don’t want to go venting all over the place and speak all about it, but writing a list of the people who have disappointed you in love is a great step!

2. Evaluate which past relationship is the most painful: Think about a past breakup. Remember the time it happened and see if there is any regret, remorse or rejection still there. On a scale of 1 to 10, how strong are your feelings?

3. Lean into your feelings: One of my favorite techniques is a really simple one. After I have figured out the person whose betrayal is stirring me up at the moment, I get a pencil and paper and begin to write his or her first name.

I like using a pencil for this because when I am feeling a lot of intensity about the person, my handwriting shows the intensity. I write the name over and over. Amazing how feelings come up! You will feel yourself getting calmer until the exercise comes to a natural end. I usually start to misspell the name. That is my signal I am done.

4. Allow yourself to accept that person: Should they have broken your heart? No, of course not! But, most of those pesky early heartbreaks were not malicious, even though it may have felt that way at the time. Early relationships are hardwired for drama and trauma.

Can you think of a teenager who isn’t? See that person as someone who did not get you. He didn’t have the skills to let you down easy and he blew it. Seriously…would you want to still be with him? Your brain was trained to withdraw from love because of him and now you can let it go. Believe it or not, that name writing exercise is brain training!

5. You are the one who is the center of your own love universe: When you have control over your own reaction to past emotional hurt, you will shine with confidence! Relationships hurt. That is the way it is.

When you are scared of being hurt again, it is like putting someone else at the center of your love universe. Don’t let another minute go by allowing a long lost love control your future! Admit, allow and adopt your thinking about love and you will be MUCH happier with the LOA and all it offers!

xoxo

I get emails every week from people who say this to me: “I don’t want to be alone when I am old.” There is so much passion and desire and love that is longing to be poured out on another person.

Believe me, there are thousands of men out there looking for the someone exactly like you!! If you go back and read the first letter of my 5 steps, you will see the secret to success. Once you accept this secret as the Universe’s way to prepare you for love, you will see concrete evidence of Love coming into your life….I promise!

Curious about your personal Love Sabotage Style? Take the Sabotage Survey and find out! http://EndLoveSabotage.com

It doesn’t rain very often in San Diego.

Winter is also not quite what I grew up with in the midwest.  That’s what makes rainy morning snuggling so exquisite.  Now I know that the special magic of those first few kisses and the electricity of those first expressions of intimacy are breath taking and intoxicating.

But I am here to tell you, when I scootch over and glue myself to my sleeping husband…the spooner to his spoonee, there is nothing better.  This morning I am extra grateful for my sweet heart and it is not just because he turned over and wrapped his arms around me for a precious 15 minutes before we got up.

Lar and I have been through our share of challenges in our short marriage.  Both of us have had some health and personal challenges.  We, like many baby boomers, are readjusting our vision and our dreams due to the new economy.

Yes, the first few weeks of our relationship were filled with stolen kisses and passionate embraces and other x-rated fun.  But when all is said and done, once our biology calmed itself and we settled into the delicious rhythm of our daily routine, the gentle unfolding of our relationship has brought deep satisfaction.

Don’t get me wrong, the strolls on the Italian Riviera, beach walks in Hawaii and cocktails on the fantail of a cruise ship are beyond fabulous.  I am deeply grateful for our good fortune and travel experiences.  However, the best part of my life with Lar is the day to day companionship.

I love how free I am to be myself.  I love how I feel when I am with him.  I love planning our days together.  I love how involved he is in his own interests.  I love when I am home alone and he is out and about.  I love when we are on the couch, fire lit, he with his paper, me writing this post.

I love rainy morning snuggling.

When it comes to self-sabotage, every unmarried woman has a style that “works” for her.
(When you looked in the mirror this morning, did a single girl look back at you?)  From frivolous deal breakers to being consumed by your career, are you putting your love life at the end of your list?  If you are not careful, years can slip by and leave you without a partner.  Is it too late?  NO!

Once you know what your Saboteur style is, you can make an action plan and change your fate. There is no shortage of Love.  And, there are more than enough single guys out there searching for their mate.  Men don’t do very well single.  They crave the companionship, intimacy and connection they don’t get with their male buddies.If you are aching to find love but terrified of being hurt or disappointed, you may resonate with the Rapunzel style of sabotage.  Take a peek and see what you think:

Rapunzel

• Natural beauty but blind to it.  Doesn’t see herself the way others see her.

• In a dead end loop driven by her need to feel in control and safe yet wanting to belong to someone forever. continue

Isn’t it time you DID give a damn?

Ladies, it is my pleasure to introduce you to True Love Saboteur Scarlett O’Hara: continue

Even if you still feel alone in your quest to find your Soul Mate, there is help out there! I just happened upon (wink, wink) this video this morning. You can easily use this Focus Wheel practice no matter what stage you are in…single to long term marriage!

I suggest that you create the focus wheel right along with the volunteer in the video. Just write exactly what Esther cues him to write. Watch how you feel going through the exercise. Remember, your true manifestation power is in how well you feel your body’s sense of engagement in the exercise.

In other words, goose bumps, shivers, to yawning and relaxing your whole body…. Radical Well Being has a personal signature. Once you start feeling it, it is so much easier to coax your thoughts in that direction.

Enjoy!

Today’s post is by Gillian Reynolds:

How to Make Him Fall in Love with You Fast! 3 Quick Tips to Win His Heart

You want to know how to make him fall in love with you fast. You met an amazing man and you can feel yourself falling head over heels for him. Ideally, he’ll feel the same way about you. Unfortunately, men tend to fall in love at a slower pace than we do. However, there are a few things any woman can do to subtly speed that process along. Being in love is a feeling unlike any other, so why not do everything in your power to ensure you get the man you want to love you too?

Learning how to make him fall in love with you fast includes these three quick tips:

Be a little mysterious. Men love it when a woman is a wee bit mysterious. If your life is not an open book, he’s going to feel more drawn to you. Don’t put all your cards on the table too soon in the relationship. Let him learn new and interesting things about you each day. He’ll love it. To him it’s like unwrapping a new gift on a daily basis. If you slowly allow him to learn more and more about you, he’ll always be hungry for more.

Have a fun and fulfilling life. Whenever a man meets an interesting woman and her schedule is always wide open to see him, he’s disappointed. Men are drawn to women who are dynamic and remarkable. If he discovers that you have nothing going on in your life other than your burgeoning relationship with him, that’s going to be a let down. He’d much rather see someone who has a career she loves, friends she adores and who has a laundry list of interests that swallow up her time. Let him see that your life is very fulfilling with or without a man and he’ll actually want you more. He’ll want to prove to you that you need him and that will make him work harder to get you to love him too.

Be extraordinary. The one common complaint that single men have is that all the women they meet are cookie cutter versions of each other. Many women make the mistake of thinking they have to present themselves in a very specific way to get a man’s attention. You just have to be yourself. An extraordinary woman is one who is honest, sincere and kind. He wants you to show him the real you. If you have an opinion, share it with him. Don’t believe that you always have to agree with is point of view in order to get him to love you. The opposite is actually true. He wants someone who knows her own mind and speaks it.

Remember to always be yourself when you want to capture a man’s heart. Once he sees the amazing woman you are inside he won’t be able to resist your charms a moment longer.