It doesn’t rain very often in San Diego.
Winter is also not quite what I grew up with in the midwest. That’s what makes rainy morning snuggling so exquisite. Now I know that the special magic of those first few kisses and the electricity of those first expressions of intimacy are breath taking and intoxicating.
But I am here to tell you, when I scootch over and glue myself to my sleeping husband…the spooner to his spoonee, there is nothing better. This morning I am extra grateful for my sweet heart and it is not just because he turned over and wrapped his arms around me for a precious 15 minutes before we got up.
Lar and I have been through our share of challenges in our short marriage. Both of us have had some health and personal challenges. We, like many baby boomers, are readjusting our vision and our dreams due to the new economy.
Yes, the first few weeks of our relationship were filled with stolen kisses and passionate embraces and other x-rated fun. But when all is said and done, once our biology calmed itself and we settled into the delicious rhythm of our daily routine, the gentle unfolding of our relationship has brought deep satisfaction.
Don’t get me wrong, the strolls on the Italian Riviera, beach walks in Hawaii and cocktails on the fantail of a cruise ship are beyond fabulous. I am deeply grateful for our good fortune and travel experiences. However, the best part of my life with Lar is the day to day companionship.
I love how free I am to be myself. I love how I feel when I am with him. I love planning our days together. I love how involved he is in his own interests. I love when I am home alone and he is out and about. I love when we are on the couch, fire lit, he with his paper, me writing this post.
I love rainy morning snuggling.
I am a Bachelor and Bachelorette fan. A guilty pleasure? I suppose, but I find it oddly entertaining to watch the people have their 15 minutes of fame. Some seasons are better than others, that is for sure. I never thought Jake and Vienna were a forever couple. I think she was too young for him. Is it possible for anyone to find more than a fling on the show?There has been one successful marriage. Ryan and Trista drew 17 million viewers to their wedding in 2003. According to all reports they are living blissfully in Colorado. For the most part, the rest of the couplings have barely lasted a year. The jury is still out on Molly and Jason.
What I love about the show is the desire that the men and women have to find True Love. I listen to the conversations and I hear the longing in each voice. Last night, poor Kasey was left alone on an Icelandic Glacier as the helicopter carrying Ali and Bad Boy Justin back to the hotel. Cold cruel world, isn’t it?
Who is my pick? I like Roberto myself. He seems like a good guy and may have a chance. Frank is appealing but the chemistry seems to be fading a bit. Why do I care? Because I am a happily-ever-after girl myself and I can’t help but wonder if this year’s winning Bachelor will beat the odds.
I do feel for Jake as he must be tired of going back to the drawing board. Maybe he could audition for Survivor…
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Five years ago, I was divorcing my husband, taking antidepressants by the fistful and in therapy to try to sort out the end of my nearly 30 year old marriage.
Today I am married again, packing my bags and leaving for Italy with the love of my life. We are celebrating our third anniversary in Tuscany.
I can only say….if this can happen to me, it can happen to anyone.
Life is continually amazing me with its unfolding brilliance!
Here is a word from Abraham Hicks for you today! I will be back in October with lots of fresh ideas for creating love!!!
“Come to understand that to the degree you FEEL blessed and expect good things to flow to you – this indicates the state of your allowing. You and how you FEEL is all that is responsible for whether you let in your inheritance of Well-Being of not. You can open the flood gates and let in your Well-Being. Whether you allow or resist it, the stream is constantly flowing to you, never ending, never tiring, always there for your reconsideration. Ask.”
Ask And It Is Given
Celebrating Love Everywhere!
Isn’t it interesting how well you get along with a new man? My husband and I still enjoy a wonderful rapport but in the beginning we saw each other in such a good light! Seriously, a huge chunk of the magic of beginning a relationship is that no one gets annoyed, isn’t it? What a delicious, soul-satisfying time that is. Too bad we don’t know how to appreciate it at the time!
When real life starts and you and your soul mate start to let your guard down a bit and express frustration, it CAN get a little scary. It seems like it would be nice to go back to the blindness of a hormone overdose, but ladies, I am hear to tell you, learning to let him evolve into the fabulous man he is, is the only way to go.
Once you get that being upset about something is about the most valuable thing that can happen to you, that is if you want to learn to tune into your man, you will never look at road rage or your man’s family or friends in the same way again!
I used to run like crazy from being upset. If I felt my man was upset with me, I would do everything I could to pretend that I wasn’t upset by the fact that he was upset. I always tried to keep one step ahead so he wouldn’t be upset. It’s exhausting for me to think back to that time. No wonder I was struggling.
I wish I would have known how easy it can be to process the past disappointments. Finding a calm frame of mind is not only possible, it is a skill you can learn yourself and is always immediately available. Whether you use guided meditations, meditation, prayer or even a talk with a good friend, you can learn to ease your emotional discomfort smoothly and steadily.
Decide today that you are going to practice paying attention to what you are thinking about. Louise Hay is famous for saying, “Stop terrifying yourself!” She is right. Any thought can be changed. I realized that I was spending all of my time thinking about how not to upset my man instead of thinking about the love and closeness I wanted with him.
When your thoughts are balanced and you choose what you think about, you are much more Teflon-like in your tendency to let other people’s stuff get to you. You take things more lightly and you are physically relaxed and comfortable.
Now when something or someone is bothering me, I am getting much better at stopping my scary thoughts and as I do, something amazing happens! Even one slightly more positive thought automatically attracts another and before you know it, I am distracted and not upset anymore. Sometimes simply thinking, “I want to feel better” is all I need to think.
If I feel my man is annoyed with something I have done and he withdraws emotionally from me, it is NOT comfortable at all. In my first marriage, I ran from facing my inner pain because I didn’t know any better. Bless my heart, I even blamed him a lot of the time because I was so miserable. Bless his heart, too.
Now that I have the incredible gift of a second chance to live out a relationship in a radically different way, I am soaring! When I get scared, I practice listening to my thoughts . Now I can acknowledge my uneasiness and then choose to think about my resilience and strength. I am learning to talk to myself the same way I would encourage my best friend…kindly and lovingly.
You owe it to yourself to learn the fine art of managing your thoughts. It is the sure way to create radiant self confidence and that is very attractive!
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