Are you ready for real change?

Are you tired of your Saboteur keeping love at a distance?

Have you been searching for an easy way to melt your self sabotage?

You are in the right place!

Welcome to EFT Cupid: Tap Into Love

Do you wish you could learn how to use EFT to attract your Soul Mate? I hear you and every other week I lead EFT practice sessions for my members.

You will work with me personally to turbo charge your own EFT results. There is something amazing about doing EFT in a group.

The unified intention of the callers to Find Real Love is magical. I am opening this new program so that I can work with all of the Rapunzels, Snow Whites and Scarletts out there who are ready for LOVE!

The EFT Cupid program is included in my private membership site and you can try it for only $9.97 for a month to see if you like it.

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Loving you and your Saboteur!  Come Tap yourself into True Love!

“I thought we had something real.” Jen sobbed.

“He was the most romantic man I had ever been with. He was so polite and showered me with gifts and flowers.”

“I didn’t want to sleep with him yet, but he seemed so perfect.” Her voice cracked again.

“What happened,” I asked gently.

“He changed completely. He stopped texting first and then before I knew what happened, he started flirting with other girls on Facebook, and now…”

Jen started to weep on the line.

So how do you tell that the Knight in Shining Armor who has shown up is True Blue? How can you see the Wolves in Sheep’s clothing before you get bitten?

All the answers you are looking for, all the vibrational energy you need, all of your potential is locked away in your Saboteur’s Domain.

Your Saboteur holds the Key to the Secret Kingdom in your heart. If you attract the Wolf in Sheep’s clothing instead of the Knight in Shining Armor, the reason is that a “Disappointment Magnet” is alive and well in your vibration.

Find out how to Demagnetize your Disappointment Magnet.

Don’t wait another moment to attract the love you ache for. You can magnetize yourself to love….you just need to know how!

Here are 5 action steps to Demagnetize Yourself From Disappointment:

1.  Accept that a part of you wants you to stay single and safe.  I know that is hard to take, but it is completely true.  The more it annoys you to think about it, the truer it is.

2. Acknowledge that you have manifested singleness.  It isn’t getting any easier is it?  You, yes you have created your single life style.   It may  not have been your conscious intent to be single, but you can’t argue with the reality of your current single experience.  A glance at your ringless left hand reveals the truth.

3. Align yourself with teachers and mentors who teach inner healing.  Fear of being hurt again is a terrible burden to bear.  There are literally hundreds of coaches, healers and teachers out there ready and able to help you change your mind about the rat bastards in your past.

4. Allow yourself to let go…once and for all.  I know that Ex broke your heart.  Good grief, everyone within 100 miles knows he broke your heart.  You must find a way to stop telling the story of your loss.  You are the only one who can make the choice to move forward.

5. Act as if you are already loved and adored.  This isn’t so hard, the key is to take your eye off of romantic love for a moment. For one week, stay alert to the people who cross your path.  Notice random acts of kindness coming your way.  Make eye contact with service people you run into.

The Universe is bound and determined to connect you to love, set an intention to NOTICE love in your daily life.  I guarantee you will see it.

I know that disappointment has broken your heart.  I talk to people nearly every day just like you.  Your Saboteur wants you to believe that you are the only person that has been hurt like this.  LOL.  Come on.  Reach out for help, you will be glad you did.

Curious about your Saboteur?  http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and find out for yourself.

PS You can retrain your brain and change the neural pathways that are stuck in the rut of self hating thoughts.

PPSS The lonelier you are, the more your brain is feeding you ugly thoughts about yourself. No wonder Fear of Disappointment is such a strong force!

Charlie Sheen is giving you a message that is hard to ignore.

This troubled star, the highest paid actor on TV today, is splashed all over the news trying to defend his life

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Last night Piers Morgan, a friend and fan of Sheen’s, gave an hour of prime time attention to detail the conflict between the actor and his bosses at CBS.

Even a personal visit from Les Moonves, president of the network, had zero impact on Charlie’s actions off set. As he described the visit, Charlie seemed to feel that having Moonves at his kitchen table was completely normal.

So what does this have to do with your love life?

Everything.

Charlie Sheen is in trouble. He absolutely believes he is living a normal life. He sees the rest of the world as crazy for not seeing it. He rejects sobriety as “lame.” He is throwing away his career because drugs, alcohol and women are skewing his judgment.

And yet….his view of his life….as normal is just that…for him. His normal is so off kilter he can’t see it, even though all of us can. The people who love him (even though his circle of friends and supporters is shrinking quickly) suffer as they watch how unhappy he really is.

Take a look at your life. You are single. Your life is working out….sort of. You ache with loneliness, long to be cherished, wish for a husband and maybe even children but go through the motions pretending you are fine.

And just like Charlie Sheen, you are convinced that no one can understand and help you. You don’t even think you need help.

Don’t think so? How long have you been single? How many coaches or mentors have you worked with to solve your problem? Or do you think people who need help meeting a man are “lame.”

Here are 5 sure signs of denial in the relationship game:

1. Years since your last significant relationship.

2. Still angry and hurt over an ex from your 20s.

3. A Date rape you never told anyone about.

4. Shame at needing relationship advice.

5. Spending more money on plastic surgery, shape wear, cosmetics and wardrobe than you do on your heart and its scars from long lost love.

Next time you see Charlie Sheen on the cover of a tabloid or on the evening news, ask yourself… Am I living in la la land?

Is my life passing me by?

Am I REALLY ok being single?

Learn a lesson from the King of Sabotage himself and get the help you need to get the love you really want. Your life is really in your own hands.

xoxo

Tune in Thursday, March 3 to learn Three Sabotage Secrets your Saboteur Does NOT Want You To Know.  Take a step today to end your own sabotage so you can find the love of your life. Click right here:   I am Ready For Love…I really am!

“I never ever felt attractive.” she whispered quietly.

Janet Jackson was interviewed recently by ABC’s Meredith Vieira and I was touched by her story. This Diva, who exudes confidence, sexuality and drama while on stage, is a classic Rapunzel…trembling in emotional pain behind the walls of her confident public self.

In the eye opening interview, Jackson was open and vulnerable, frequently in tears in her recollections.  How could this be? Beautiful, talented and brilliant Janet Jackson, feeling unattractive. What hope is there for the rest of us?

As is true with many Rapunzels, Janet misinterpreted and personalized the cruel teasing of family and friends. Instead of seeing that the teasers were just being stupid and spouting off, she took in the words like seeds and those seeds grew into a tangle of strangling low self-esteem.

Unable to withstand the harshness of the teasing, she steadily created a cocoon of safety around her heart.  When Rapunzel is finally ready to try love, that energetic and very efficient armor is not able to let the seeds of real love get through and grow.

“You fat cow.” (I know, heartbreaking, isn’t it?)  Those awful seeds sunk deeply into  Janet’s heart.  Who wouldn’t want to raise a shield three feet thick?

These and the hundreds of other harmful words thrown carelessly her way built a tower of unlovableness, self hatred and self denial.  You see, Rapunzels are hyper-sensitive in many dimensions and fear the pain of disappointment more than they even know.

Each thought of pain, betrayal and abuse strengthens the tower that holds a Rapunzel away from True Love! Even though the offending event was years ago, today’s thoughts hold the same energetic charge….it is like reliving the awfulness again and again.

Can you relate?  Do you feel like a Rapunzel?  There is something important you need to know. You can be fully loved and still protect your heart.  As your old tower is being dismantled, you get to have a fabulous new one, designed perfectly for you!  The Divine knows that you need tender loving care and deep protection.

Your new tower is built out of bricks of light. Each brick a piece of real world evidence that good fortune and positivity really do exist.  Keep watching for the concrete evidence that the Divine is in this with you. They are like the breadcrumbs leading you to your True Love.

You will always have your Inner Crystal Tower. The bricks are made out of  the times you notice good coming your way, the mortar is your new beliefs.  The resulting new tower is tall, strong and flexible.

As a Rapunzel, it may not be fair, but it is true, you need to have a bit more strategy when you approach love. Because you feel safest in an extremely quiet environment, you need to plan for that.  If you attract a man who doesn’t understand that, it will never work.

The trick is how to tell him in a way that feels like a win for both of you.  Your ideal man is a man who will listen to you and respond with questions and not criticism.  You are the most sensitive of all the Saboteurs.  Be brave and tell the people who love you what you need to hear to feel loved.  They will treasure this info!

A change in language, that is the words you use to express yourself, will guarantee an inner feeling of security that will anchor you.  Here is what I mean:

You: Baby, we need to talk.

Him: (Visible pulling back, thinking ‘What’d I do?’)  Uh..OK.

You: (Throat closing) I feel smothered.  You are always around.  I can’t breathe sometimes.

Him: (Closing down quicker than an umbrella salesman in New York when the rain disappears.)  Uh..

You: It is not that I don’t love you.  I do.  I love and adore you.  (Tears start to fall)

Him: (Scared, hurt and confused) Let’s talk later baby. (Knowing he never will)

You: (Cruelly yelling at yourself inside for even bringing it up) I’m sorry baby.  I’m sorry.

What’s going on?  You are both hitting panic mode and panic attracts panic. This is self sabotage at its awful best.  Inner mechanisms that are on automatic.  Being open to another has had disastrous consequences over and over.  Rapunzel, deeply sensitive, takes these the hardest of all Saboteurs.

That is why it is critical that you start using a new language to tell the story of what you want. Your own ears need to hear a realistic and hopeful story about what is possible….in words you can trust and believe.

Once you form your magnetic statements from these new words, your Saboteur will relax her hold and you will draw more and more good to your life.

Here are some examples, see if you can feel the difference between each:

“I need to be with a man who is financially well off and can buy me anything I want.”

“I want a man who is good with money and exquisitely generous with me.”

or

“I need time to myself and I don’t want to attract a needy man who smothers me.”

“I want a man who values time alone and honors my need for solitude and peace.“

If I could speak to Janet Jackson, this is what I would tell her:

Girl, you are one tough cookie. Like a fragile violet, you have done your best to shine in a hostile environment and you have done an amazing job.  But, as a Rapunzel, you will always need a place of safety and retreat, even when you are with your True Love.

This is the secret of sustaining a relationship instead of sabotaging it. Take the time to build that Inner Tower.  Collect evidence of positivity and brick by brick you will create an Inner Sanctuary that only you can enter.

This Inner Tower will give you the feeling of security you have always longed for. You are a delicate one, yes that is true.  But delicate is steel strong at its core.  Fragile is simply a mindset and a mindset can be changed.

When you find your Inner Tower you will finally feel your value and see yourself as your fans do. You are so deeply loved and when you accept yourself as deeply, love will flood into your life.

xoxoxo

Time to rally Rapunzels! Are you really ready for true love? Check your tower, is it dark and cold or filled with light and hope?  Only you can pick the day the tower comes down and lets the light of love come in.  Let your dreams for love energize you to get what you are longing for.

Celebrity Saboteur: Anne Hathaway – Luminous Snow White

Sabotage Lessons From Charlie Sheen

Could you be a Rapunzel?  Take the Saboteur Survey and find out:  http://budurl.com/lovesabotage

How to Stop Sabotaging Your Love Life Once and For All

The time is right to let go of a few of the ghosts of boyfriends past.

Don’t think you have any?  Here is how to check it out:

Think of a past breakup. Remember one particularly difficult day, perhaps a time when he said or did something especially hurtful. How bad was it at the time?  On a scale of 1 to 10, how intense was it?  Does it still have a sting today?  How strong is it on a scale of 1 to 10?

If you still feel sad, hurt or angry, guess what. You are still plugged into that very day energetically. It is like a part of yourself is living it over and over and over again.  This “ghost” from the past needs to go or Love will never find you.

Believe it or not, there is one simple idea that will change everything for you.

As simple as it sounds, the insight that will transform your love life forever is this:

The real barrier to attracting love is not outside you, but inside you in the hands of your Saboteur.

Even though you long for love, a part of you is sure it is impossible to have a truly great relationship. As a result, you actually push love away, repelling the wonderful men who are perfect matches—without even realizing it.

Once you can identify these inner obstacles to love and release yourself from the painful past, you’ll finally become magnetic to the love of your life.

Don’t spend one more minute just wishing for love!

Your deepest heart’s desire is possible.  You can learn to change your luck in love.  You just need the tools to retrain your brain so you trust yourself to fall in love once again!

When you learn how to End Love Sabotage, you will meet a whole different caliber of men. Once you prove to yourself that you are ready, the rest is easy.

Find out:

* Why you keep going back to the men who have broken up with you

* How to know if the man you are with is the One or if you should move on

* Where to look for your Soul Mate

* How to instantly change your mood whenever you need to

* How to find the real culprits…the grand daddy beliefs that are keeping love out of your life and releasing them once and for all!

* How to speak Sabotese:  The Language of Attraction that Your Saboteur Will Trust and Embrace

* How to set an intention for love that works

* The biggest mistake you’re making when it comes to men and how to stop making it

* How to activate your personal magnetism to draw your new love toward you instead of sending him to the arms of another

* Why Affirmations don’t work and tools you need to create powerful Magnetic Statements that get real results

* How to awaken and engage your intuition and imagination so you work With Universal Laws, not against them.

*Now that your love vibe is changing what to do differently to meet Mr. Right

The End Love Sabotage System is the driving force in the Soul Mate Success Circle. Every week there is a teleseminar event and students are invited to participate every call.  Not only that, for a small fee, you can take a risk free trial to see if it is what you are looking for:

Check it out for $9.97 for first month

then $47 monthly. (Value: $197 per month)

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Imagine a “Love Vitamin” to start your day.

Even though it is only a minute and a half, this video is a high vibrating tuning fork for your Love Vibe!

See if you feel warm, tingly or excited with happiness when you see it….breathe into the feelings. Enjoy them. How strong are they? Can you ‘turn up the volume’ and maximize the feeling? If you want to deepen the experience, tap on the collar bone point as you are watching.

If you feel sad or annoyed at the video…what an ‘aha’! That is your Saboteur reminding you of how hard your path toward love has been. Don’t despair! I am planning a one day class in March to help!!

When you are truly ready for love, you will feel it with your heart. Trust your Inner Being to lead you to your Heart’s Desire.

Snow White? Or maybe Rapunzel. Could Scarlett O’Hara be your sabotage style? Take the http://budurl.com/lovesabotage and find out right now!

It doesn’t rain very often in San Diego.

Winter is also not quite what I grew up with in the midwest.  That’s what makes rainy morning snuggling so exquisite.  Now I know that the special magic of those first few kisses and the electricity of those first expressions of intimacy are breath taking and intoxicating.

But I am here to tell you, when I scootch over and glue myself to my sleeping husband…the spooner to his spoonee, there is nothing better.  This morning I am extra grateful for my sweet heart and it is not just because he turned over and wrapped his arms around me for a precious 15 minutes before we got up.

Lar and I have been through our share of challenges in our short marriage.  Both of us have had some health and personal challenges.  We, like many baby boomers, are readjusting our vision and our dreams due to the new economy.

Yes, the first few weeks of our relationship were filled with stolen kisses and passionate embraces and other x-rated fun.  But when all is said and done, once our biology calmed itself and we settled into the delicious rhythm of our daily routine, the gentle unfolding of our relationship has brought deep satisfaction.

Don’t get me wrong, the strolls on the Italian Riviera, beach walks in Hawaii and cocktails on the fantail of a cruise ship are beyond fabulous.  I am deeply grateful for our good fortune and travel experiences.  However, the best part of my life with Lar is the day to day companionship.

I love how free I am to be myself.  I love how I feel when I am with him.  I love planning our days together.  I love how involved he is in his own interests.  I love when I am home alone and he is out and about.  I love when we are on the couch, fire lit, he with his paper, me writing this post.

I love rainy morning snuggling.

Do you want to make 2011 the year you finally find your true love?

If the answer is yes, I’m excited to be letting you in on a special announcement that everyone who’s looking for love needs to hear.

Starting this Valentine’s Day, 21 of the worlds leading love experts are coming together online to guide you through a step-by-step program to magnetize the love of your life.

It’s absolutely FREE . . . and it’s happening right here—on your computer.

It’s called The Ultimate SOULMATE Summit and it’s being hosted by two of my dear friends, who also happen to be two of the world’s leading experts on attracting love—Arielle Ford & Claire Zammit.

You can read all about it and register for free here

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What makes this love event so special?

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This group of the world’s top authors, teachers, transformation experts and coaches all have one thing in common: they have devoted their lives to “cracking the codes” to attracting and sustaining BIG love. Each of them holds a transformational key that will help you attract and create the kind of love your heart longs for.

You’ll learn first-hand from experts like Dr. John Gray, Debbie Ford, Neale Donald Walsh, Dr. Helen Fisher, Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Alison Armstrong, Christan Carter and more.

Never before have so many experts in the field of love and relationships gathered in one place to help you discover exactly what you need to do to overcome the barriers that are keeping you from attracting the love of your life. You’ll:

* Finally take the guesswork out of finding a Soulmate!

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To make 2011 the year you find your Soulmate, I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity right now and register for the event today.

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We look forward to seeing you at the Ultimate Soulmate Summit!

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“Your ears are horrible.”His voice echoes in her ears 25 years later.

“You’ll never make it in this business looking like that.”

Years of painful memories from cruel childhood bullies come flooding back every time Denise remembers that agent’s abrupt appraisal of her ears.

“F–k him”, she thought.  “F–k him”. Barbra Streisand never fixed her nose, of course, Barbra didn’t have her ears. Terrified of losing her opportunity, she allowed the cruel man to push her and manipulate her from that day forward.

Ever since that day, her ears never appeared in public again. Even though she had surgery years ago to ‘pin’ the little devils into more appropriate posture, she still cowered in fear of an old picture from 6th grade popping up.  For some reason, her mom rejoiced in plaiting her hair into tight strings against her scalp for picture day.

Blessed with gorgeous hair, she wore it down and long, causing immense jealousy among her friends.In fact, her friends couldn’t possibly understand the huge fear of rejection that their compliments refused to soothe.

In fact, she was tired of hearing the string of comments she heard from every one.  ”How can you still be single?”  ”You are beautiful.”  ”You would be a great wife.”  Or the worst one of all,  ”You know, these days, being a successful single woman is more accepted than ever.”

Maybe they are right, she would think, maybe there is no one for me out there. It’s true that her life looks charmed from the outside looking in.  A successful TV anchor woman, Denise had traveled the world and was highly respected.

With a personal stylist and hair and makeup taken care of every day, she always appeared at her very best.  Little did her fans know how deeply insecure she felt without her entourage, makeup and wardrobe.

“What’s wrong with me?”  she said to her reflection in the mirror. At 45, she knew the network was interviewing younger, bustier women and she could see the handwriting on the wall.  All Denise wanted, all she had dreamed about her whole life was a husband.  Truth be known, she would have given up her whole career, to have the one thing she never found.

Why is True Love so very hard for some women to find? Denise is a Rapunzel and if you look into her past, you might find the clues, really the steps that she took that built that tower…one brick at a time.  Just like the fairy tale, the inner tower of safety she has built for herself for safety, now holds her prisoner.

That agent wasn’t the first person who rudely picked at her appearance. Her own mother used to tell her, “You look like death warmed over….go put on some makeup.”  Her father had taken off when she was 2 and her mom hated him.  She told Denise time and again, “Don’t trust men.  They will take what they want and throw you away when they are done.”

Fear and hurt served as the mortar between the brick after brick of disappointment in all of her relationships. Both boyfriends and girlfriends filled her life with drama in her school years.  Her natural good looks got her all kinds of attention, but she never felt beautiful so she always assumed people were just being nice or flat out lying.

Now, at 45, Denise is brittle, disappointed and hopeless.

Is there hope for Rapunzel? In a word, yes.  But Rapunzel has her work cut out for her.  In order to find the Love she has always longed for, Rapunzel must open up to the good opinions of others and AGREE with them.  She must stop beating herself up on the inside.

The most ironic and poignant part of all of this is that she has become her own worst enemy and her inner talk is laced with the same bullying she endured as a young person. If you can relate to Denise’s story, here are some action steps you can right now to start dismantling your defenses and let Love in:

1.  Accept Compliments. You have probably heard this before, but for Rapunzel’s this is critical.  When someone compliments you, I want you to say to yourself, “They are right, I do have beautiful hair, a great outfit, a fab sense of humor.”  Whatever is praised in you, you must start AGREEING with them.  Your default reaction is to DISAGREE with all kindness sent your way.  Stop that today.

2.  Write a Letter. Rapunzel, you have been through more hurt than is fair.  You know it, I know it.  Write a letter to your 16 year old self and tell her what you have learned so far.  Give her advice.  Encourage your 16 year old the way no one else did.  Then, write a letter to your 21 year old self. And then, write a letter to the one who let the great guy get away.  Personally, I love to burn the letters I write…a ceremony between me and me.

3.  Be Mad. This is one of my very favorite techniques.  Get a piece of paper and a couple of pens.  Think back and bring someone to mind who was mean or unkind to you.  All you do is write that person’s first name…over and over and over.  As you write it, notice your feelings.  You might notice your grip on the pen gets tighter.  You might notice your belly tighten or your chest ache.  Just notice.  You will notice that as you go on, you will reach an end.  Then think of another person and do the same.  Again, burning the papers is recommended….in a safe place of course.  I have a metal Burning Bowl I use for these exercises.

4.  Forgive Yourself. This is a crucial step.  Sure you are still single, I know, but you have to let yourself off the hook.  You have done the best you can.  Remember that she may be misinformed, but your Saboteur is sure that being alone is better for you.  Now that you are getting this information and these tools, you can change your course.  Tell yourself everyday, “Even though I have locked my heart away in the past, I am ready to open my life to new possibilities.”

5.  Let Down Your Hair. Rapunzel, you are deeply in need of FUN!  What are you doing in your life right now that is pleasurable and fun?  Think back to things you liked to do when you were 10 years old.  Were you a roller skater, bike rider, tree climber, beach walker?  Rent your favorite comedies on TV and laugh your ass off.  Fill your heart with laughter and your Love Vibe will leap into flame!

XOXO

How about you, do you wonder which Saboteur you are?  Check it out:

http://www.attractyoursoulmatenow.com/blog/true-love-saboteur-assessment/

“Nice.” Marisol swerved to miss the annoying car on the freeway. “What a jerk. Learn how to drive!” Flashing her middle finger as she zoomed by in her BMW convertible.

A love of fashion is finally paying off as she has enough money to dress in the latest styles. Marisol looks like a complete success, but…..

A control freak? Yes, and so ironic because Marisol, a true Scarlett, feels like the biggest fraud in the world. Sure she has a great wardrobe, she also has a ton of credit card debt.

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