You Hold His Heart In Your Hands

Things are tough these days. It doesn’t take a masters in economics to know that there is a dark

shadow hanging over the men in our lives.

With women taking more and more of a role in the money making and financial contributions at home, men are struggling to know what we expect from them. There is a primal urge in men to be the protectors and defenders and the stark reality of our national money problems is really shaking things up.

What is a Soul Mate to do? Learning to MANIFY your man is critical to making him feel cherished, admired and respected. When he feels appreciated this way, affection is more natural. You are the one reading this article and it is you who can start a change in the atmosphere in your home.

Here are Five Keys To Connecting To Your Man. Your acceptance of him, especially when he is so uncertain about his role will reap huge rewards for you!

1. Check Your Thoughts At The Door. Thinking about how he is letting you and the family down is not helping anything. Do a thought audit. Any thoughts that hold an opinion about what he is NOT doing need to be redirected. The easiest way to do this is to put “Even though” at the beginning of the thought and “I choose to love him anyway” at the end. For example:

“He won’t ask for more hours and I hate that because if he did, we would have more money.” Changes to: “Even though I hate it when he won’t ask for more hours, I choose to love him anyway.”

2. Praise Him For What He Is Doing. Ladies, we must be creative. Your man wants to hear how proud you are of him. There are opportunities every day to let him know you appreciate what he is trying to do, ESPECIALLY when you are aware of what he is not doing. Even if it is something like, “Honey, I love how responsible you are about getting to work on time every day.” or even “I am so impressed with how hard you work for us.” He LOVES your sincere praise.

3. Ask How You Can Support Him. He may say there is nothing you can do, and that is ok. He has his share of worries. Kindly asking “Is there anything I can do to support you right now?” may help him by opening his mind to asking you for help at a later time.

4. Make Him His Favorite Meal. This is such a simple but profound way to show your man how important he is to you. The way to a man’s heart IS his stomach and a warm meal prepared with love will always make him feel cherished.

5. Invite Him To Have Sex With You. This may be a challenge for you, especially if you are feeling overwhelmed yourself. Sex is comforting to a man and MANIFIES him like nothing else. Once you are determined to make your man feel cherished and you follow the other steps to connect with him, you will find it much easier to open yourself to a loving encounter.

When you are committed to being a Soul Mate to your man, he will get it. He may not understand what you are doing but he will feel the change in your attitude and you will be amazed at the changes you will see in him!

Valentines Day can be painful if you and your partner have lost that loving feeling.  It can happen to all of us at one time or another.  Even the closest couple can simply be stressed out and not as attentive as they were in the beginning of their relationship.

If you are reading this and you long for romance that used to be there for you, you can change the tide today.

All you need is a piece of poster board and some red construction paper.  If you don’t have any poster board, the Sunday comic section makes a great substitute.  Post the sheet in your kitchen and start to fill it with notes.  On each heart write something you LIKE about your partner.

I know he may be acting like a spoiled brat!  I don’t care.  The fact is, when all you focus on is how badly he is acting, that is all you see!  There ARE some things that you still like about him.  Take action and write them down.  Invite him to do the same.  And, if you have kids, ask them to play the game also.

When everyone is busy thinking about the things they like about each other, you will bring LOVE back in to your home.  LOVE is bigger than romance.  LOVE is more important than who is right and who is wrong.

You maybe thinking…that is not fair, why do I have to be the one to act.  Hey, shape up!!  Why not you.  Take action to bring some loving thoughts into your family.  LOVE warms and changes things and every step toward LOVE pays off in a major way.

So, grab your markers, scissors and Elmer’s Glue and get started.  Be a savvy soul mate this Valentine’s Day.  You will be glad you did!

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Be A Love Detective Part 1

“My husband never says, I love you anymore.”

Why is it that men are so resistant to the “L” word?

Why is it that women are so addicted to it?

Does saying “I love you” really matter?

What? You say.

Of course it matters. I can’t be with someone who doesn’t love me.

Wait just a moment….did you say that a man cannot love you without saying I love you?

Think about that one for a minute.

Is it possible for a man to love you WITHOUT telling you so? And why is it so bleeping important to HEAR those three little words.

That being said, is it also possible that our addiction to hearing those three words closes us to other expressions of love that are right in front of our noses?

I want to throw another perspective unto the table.

What if we women could back off on our insistence that love be expressed on our terms and our terms only?

What if we could become Love Detectives and search out the clues that lead to our understanding of just how much our men DO care for us?

What if we could put aside our need to hear those words and instead begin celebrating the clues we find?

I am listening……

I can just hear some of you screaming in protest! “I already do most of the work and don’t want to be a Love Detective! I want him to shape up!”

I know, I know but believe me, your man will step up to the plate when you take some of the pressure off of him. Believe it or not, he is doing the best he can. He has no idea how to make you feel loved and you and I both know that men don’t like to be in situations where they may appear weak and clueless.

So what to do? Tune in next post and I will lay out the plan…..

There is a mystery about love that becomes clear as you walk through heartbreaks and disappointments.

There is a kind of love that flies under the radar until a woman becomes ready to open her heart to discover it.

There is a definition of love that challenges everything you thought you knew.

There is a realization about love that comes only after surviving excruciating loss.

The Answer?

Self love, self compassion and self acceptance.

For one week, say “I accept you exactly how you are.” instead of “I love you.” to everyone you love.

Leave a comment to let us know what happens!

Get ready for some magic!