Says Ashley Hebert, the current Bachelorette at the time of this writing. After

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a contrived “breakup” with Bentley, he only came on the show to cause problems, she was shaken to the core by how she fell for someone not interested in her.

I wonder if she went through the inner gauntlet of self doubt the rest of you do wondering what she did wrong. Did she ask herself what she did or said that turned him off?

Did she rake herself over the coals for being too affectionate, too open, too vulnerable? I know the Bachelor is a made up show…but her feelings are easily felt by the audience and isn’t that the point?

What I do know for sure is this. If you are forming your goals for love when you are “terrified of making a mistake that you will regret for the rest of your life,” you are not likely to find the right man.  Fear is never the best ground to plant seeds of new relationship.

I also know that my feelings will be hurt by life. I know that as much as I adore my husband, he will do and say things that hurt my feelings…simply because it reminds me of a painful past experience.  Like a flashback, even an innocent gesture can flip the switch in my body and panic, doubt and fear still wash over me.

What is different between me and Ashley is that I have learned that when the fear and panic comes, I see the link to past hurts, I take the steps to heal those ancient stories and I can survive fear when it appears.

How about you, can you relate to our Bachelorette? Have you ever wanted to give up? Is your vision board yellowing? Is it heart breaking to watch another friend have a baby or get married?

I have a feeling no one knows how brave you are being each time you sign another wedding gift card. Seeing your single peer group shrink can be as frightening as Ashley’s experience.  During times when you are really down, when you are in an energetic slump, doing your LOA practice can feel like climbing the side of a sky scraper.

Secretly, don’t you want to say F**K the Law of Attraction some days?  You can ‘fess up, I won’t tell.

At the very time you need to pick a practice that will distract and/or entertain you enough to snap out of it, cynicism rushes in and your self talk gets mean and petty. What are you going to do?

Listen to this recording for a quick 3 Step Love Magnetizing Process that is ideal for reviving your hopes and getting you back on the road to your soul mate.

http://cat3733.audioacrobat.com/download/3StepMagnetizingProcess.mp3

I know the stink of disappointment. Ha…Now that is a great typo!! I wanted to write sting. LOL Disappointment DOES stink. I hate it. No, I can’t say that is true. What is true is that I hate how I feel when it happens. The slump in energy feels awful and the doubts that come along just to make things interesting, feel even worse.

So what to do? Find an Attraction Buddy. Trust one person to be your go to person. Tell her that you are out of sorts and need a partner to help you shake the gloomies. Tell her you need about 15 minutes.

This is not about you bitching about your lonely life or her giving you advice. This is about recognizing when you are losing your grip on the commitment to the Law of Attraction principles you decided on.

Your Attraction Buddy is aware of your desire for a mate and is willing to be there for you when you need her to. Tell her up front what it is all about. Then, when you are out of sorts, you call and tell her. She then has the simple job of asking you why. You think about it and answer what comes up.

She asks you, “Why does that trouble you?” You answer with whatever comes up. She simply repeats this question until you get some sort of aha.

These ahas are not understood with the intellect. You will have a thought that is so novel, it will be a tangible aha. Try it.

Meanwhile, don’t decide your future being afraid, listen in on the recording for another easy process to shift into Love!  And if you know Ashley, tweet this to her, will you?

Has a breakup left you feeling lost and alone?  Check out http://BreakupCandy.com for support.

Congratulations to one of my former clients, Kerry, who married her soul mate this weekend. {{{{{Hugs Kerry!}}}}}  When we started working together, she was near 38 and still aching to have children of her own.

Less than a year later, she found her man, someone not her type LOL, and not a dad…yet. She swears that if she can get rid of her love sabotage, anyone can!

I will be interviewing her soon, after her honeymoon and things get settled, she wants to come on a call and tell her story as well as answer your questions. Stay tuned!

Her success inspires me to dig even deeper to find new ways to help others find the confidence to get back out there and pursue love again.

Your biggest goal is to chase away the gloomies when they come. If you can keep your mind from falling into that pit of discouragement, you’ll start to see some real change. But how?

Keeping a hopeful, open and creative mindset is critical to you finding your soul mate. Once depressing thoughts surround you and drag you down, you’re in trouble, right?

Imagine being able to text me right then. Right when you are struggling. Wouldn’t be great to get my take on your situation?

When my members are slipping into the Land of Despair, I’ve asked them to text me. The only condition? They can only text one word. One five letter word.

I respond using each letter of the word to create a unique, personalized on the spot Mini Magnetizing Message. This message serves as a 911 tapping script that gets results.

I really love you guys and I want for you to feel so loved, so full of self regard and attracting the best in people that you always bounce back from life’s inevitable heart breaks. The fact is, many of you are still hurting from an ex three exes ago.

Only you can take the steps to sweep out the cobwebs of the ghosts of boyfriends past. Once you know that you are resilient again and able to take care of yourself while you are with someone, you will be more optimistic and confident.

An irresistible combination, just in time for summer!

For the month of June, I am offering the text coaching option to all of my members, even at the newbie level that is currently just $9.97 per month. The opportunity is here. Are you ready?  Will you do what it takes to find love?

For membership info, click here: http://EFTCupid.com

Wouldn’t it be lovely if UPS could deliver your mate to you….today?

Wouldn’t it be great if you could skip dating all together?

OK, Wishful Thinker, time to come back to reality.

If you hate to date, that is a problem. Fear of dating is just the tip of the love-repelling iceberg. If there is a way to meet great prospects without dating, I haven’t heard of it yet.

Can you learn to LIKE dating?

Or at least tolerate it?

Let me ask you this, on a scale of 1 to 10, how motivated are you to find a partner?

Dating does not have to be a nightmare! In fact, hating to date is Love Sabotage for sure!! Imagine having your own custom EFT Tapping script so that you can melt your self-consciousness and shine!

Tapping is the best way to put your lonely past behind you and get some traction for you Soul Mate Attraction plan.  With a custom script, you will cut right to the heart of the blocks in your way to finding love.

For more info on how to access your private script crafting session, click right here: http://PsychicEFT.com

PS.  Psychic EFT?  Oh yes….it is the psychic connection that makes these EFT scripts unique.  Nurturing your psychic gifts and learning to be authentic is the key to finding True Love.

“Is there a break up in your past that was hard to get over?”

“No, I’m fine. I make it a point to never have regrets and I just put them behind me.” said the beautiful still-single-at-40 attorney sharply.  I could tell she was a little annoyed.

“I see.” I said. “How many breakups are behind you?”

“Six, but what does that have to do with my Love Magnet.”

“Let me show you,” I said to her gently. (Want to peek over my shoulder and listen in?)

Here is how to check your own Love Magnet:

1. How many significant breakups have you had in the past.

2. Pick one of them for your love magnetizing check.

3. Now think of one particular day when the breakup was happening. How intense was it at the time on a scale of 1-10.

4. How long ago was it? Are there any hurt feelings left on that day? Is there an echo of pain? How strong is it on a scale of 1-10?

5.  Do you feel a stab of rejection and disappointment thinking about a former lover? It is a sure sign that your heart is still engaged with him on an energetic level.

That explains why you keep attracting men who are partly interesting but mostly really disappointing. That ache in your heart from past disappointment is attracting people who continue to disappoint you.

The ache in your heart from that ex all those ex’s ago is broadcasting a strong signal and the men you are interested in are picking up on that signal.

Until you clear the airwaves, so to speak, and cut off your connection to him, the power of your love magnet is muffled.  Your ex may be years in your past, but his energy is still as alive in your memories as the day of the breakup.

If this sounds like you, don’t panic. Take a breath and realize that awareness is the first part of change.  Decide today to look at your self sabotage patterns differently.  Once you know your patterns, you can make new ones.  It is your decision to change your mindset that makes all the difference!

Wonder if you are ready for love?  http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and find out right now!

I am a life long Marie Osmond fan. I tuned into Oprah today and was moved with the audience as Marie candidly discussed the suicide of her 18 year old son last winter. The pain, still at the surface, was difficult for her to control. She bravely carried on as she wanted to inspire and encourage others with her story.

It touched me when she apologized, more than once, for her very natural display of emotion. When she sang the Agnus Dei to memorialize Michael at the end of the show, she needed to stop and start again. Once again, she apologized. Not a person in the audience expected or needed that apology. We all just loved her and wanted to support her. Once again, I committed to releasing myself from my manic need to say “I’m sorry.”

Marie was asked point blank about the abuse allegations in the press regarding her ex-husband. She handled the question with dignity. The fact that her children would not have attended Michael’s funeral if the ex was going to be there speaks for itself. The ex didn’t attend.

Marie, the Snow White trooper that she is, was back on stage within days of her sons death. As she said it, her comfort zone is the stage. After performing for 48 years, it is her place of love. It is her passion. And it is healing.

If you saw that program, didn’t you just want to rush the stage and hug this fragile, beautiful woman? Similar to other Snow Whites, she has poured out her life focusing on others. Her eight, count them, eight children, her audiences, her brothers, her mom and dad (she prepared their bodies for burial as well as her son’s), the press, QVC, etc. etc. etc. If you look up sweet in the dictionary….her pic would be there!

Marie says she is in menopause so men are on pause. I like that. I see in her the resolve to find peace and healing in her own being. When asked how she linked up with her ex, a man so clearly not good for her, she said she was exhausted at the time she chose him. Good lesson there.

Snow Whites are amazingly strong and resilient. They take a licking and keep on ticking. They are the warm nurturers and care so deeply about the welfare of their dear ones that they often lose themselves in the process. It takes a mighty kick in the ass to get Snow White’s to slow down enough to ask themselves what they really, really want.

Can you relate? If you are a Snow White, be kind to yourself today. Look in the mirror and tell yourself just how special you are, because you need to hear your own mouth say it. If you get a chance to see the segment on Oprah…hold Marie in the light.

And Snow White? I think it is time for you to let the dwarves take care of you for awhile!

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