Today, my friend and colleague, Thea Newcomb released this fantastic video celebrating her 10 years of comforting the broken hearted with humor and love. Congratulations, Thea!! I hope you all enjoy the video and feel free to share this link! Catherine
Over the last ten years we’ve had thousands of break-up lines sent into soyouvebeendumped.com. Some of them really funny, some of them painfully cruel, and still others are complete cliches. In any event, over the last six months, I’ve been polishing off a book of real lines and stories that were emailed direct or posted on this site.
It is my hope the book is ready for our 10th birthday on Independence Day this year – (July 4th for you non-Americans).
For now though, I thought I’d give you a wee teaser. I’ve not used all my best lines – gotta keep some for the book…
Many people who stumble across our site do so because they’ve searched for “Break Up Lines” so this one is especially for you.
I’d like to thank my buddy Geoff Martyn who was the one person who created this site with me ten years ago and who, with his band a few years ago, sang this song “Bring Me Down”. Cheers G.
Hope you enjoy!
Thanks for watching and if you like it – please pass along this page, would you? Many thanks. Happy Friday folks.
I know a bit of magic.
Once upon a time, many moons ago, a man broke my heart. He disappeared without a word after a brief and passionate affair. I had been numbingly attracted to him and the sex was amazing. In fact, it was after we had the best sex ever, he started to pull away.
I was hurt and obsessing. I felt trapped by my feelings. As badly as he treated me at the end, I still really cared for him. I opened my heart to him, something that was huge as I hadn’t trusted anyone like that for a very long time. And he disappeared. I was devastated.
After weeks of checking my cell phone countless times a day and texting him with no reply, I knew I had to do something to detach myself. I tried everything I could think of but he was lodged firmly in my mind and wouldn’t go.
Then, after a few months, the phone rings. He wanted to see me. Of course, against everything in me, I agreed. My heart pounded as I anticipated the door bell ringing. When he got there, the chemistry was as strong as ever. Part of me was screaming: NO…..NO. But he was irresistible.
It was, of course, a booty call. The rat. I wanted to. I knew it would feel amazing. But I did the bravest thing I had done to that point. I told him no. He was respectful, gave me a hug and left. Boy did I ache inside. So unfair…how can someone so bad for you be so darn attractive.
I went in to a tail spin again and my self esteem crashed and burned. It was during this time I found the answer. I learned about a technique that completely changed my life. I was able to FINALLY let him go. Really let him go. It is my secret weapon and I teach it to everyone who comes my way looking for a way to move on.
The secret elixir is EFT. EFT saved me. I was able to release my feelings easily and permanently with a simple pattern of tapping, yes tapping. I learned how to tap on acupuncture points around my upper body. The results were astounding.
Not only did EFT help me let go of this man, my self confidence went through the roof. I now use EFT all the time to change my mood and improve my disposition. I love it. It is easy to learn and anyone can do it!!
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“I am going to be in town for a couple of days and I would love to see you.” the familiar voice said hopefully.
Instantly I am flooded with emotions both good and bad. We had been broken up for a few months and I had been trying to evict him from my mind ever since.
Unbidden, thoughts about him and how hot the sex was, how beautiful I felt when I was with him, how romantic it was to sip wine at sunset, had been running through my mind for weeks. My brief fling with him had been the most fun I’d had in years!
Now here he was, breezing back into my life and inviting me to reconnect. I knew my friends would be shocked that I was even considering it, so I didn’t telling anyone he called. There were so many parts of our time together that were very good. Why did we break up anyway?
Does this ring a bell? This exact scenario happened for me several years ago and I chose to say no. It was an excruciating choice because the chemistry was ridiculous. (I would love to know why the wrong men can have such exciting chemistry…just not fair!) This is how it played out.
Gorgeous, exciting ex-flame is visiting my tiny apartment. Candles were lit, jazz was playing and he was doing his best to coax me into bed. “It is important to live in the moment,” he said to me, “Do what feels good now.” My new interest in The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle not withstanding, somehow I knew he was pushing his agenda over my lackluster objections.
I was so tempted. He had asked me for a back massage which, of course, I agreed. I loved touching him and what harm could it do? Ha! As I rubbed the oil on his back, he kept gently encouraging me to respond to my natural arousal and seal the deal. What a pickle!
Somehow, in the middle of this highly charged situation, I said to myself first and then to him, “Wait a minute. Just hold up here. I want to think about what is right for me.”
I went across the room, sat in a chair, closed my eyes and pleaded with my Inner Wisdom, “Please help me know what to do. I want this man but the red flags are waving madly! What should I do?”
I was hoping I would get a clear yes (dreamer!) or a clear no but what I got was the most amazing and calming answer.
“Whichever choice you make will be fine. You are going to be fine, no matter what.”
I laughed outloud and told him what I heard. He laughed too. I am sure he was hoping my Inner Guidance said yes, but he was absolutely wonderful when I told him I decided no. He had made it clear to me that he was not interested in a relationship with me and as much as I wished I could change his mind, I had to face the truth. Sex would be fun with him but I knew myself too well. I liked him more than that and a bootie call would send me into weeks of obsession! Bottom line, I want to be loved more than anything. Love has to be primary.
What about you? Are you facing a similar situation? A dear friend of mine always used to quip “An ex is an ex for a reason” whenever I looked back at my ex-boyfriend. I would say the same to you. But, if you are not sure, here are three questions to ask yourself:
1. Do you feel a heart connection to this man? Do you really? Get quiet and allow the memories of your break up come back to you. On a scale of 1 to 10, how hurt and disappointed were you? If it is 6 or above. Stop for a moment and think about adding another disappointment to the mix. Does that work for you?
2. Are you obsessing about him? If you are, that is a symptom of an out of control mind. If you broke up, there was a reason for that. Jump into a new hobby or get outside and walk a couple of miles a day while listening to a book on tape. Take action to give your thirsty mind something to think about. An obsessive woman is not very attractive, not even to her friends.
3. What do your friends think? Trust your friends. Just like the Sex In The City girls, trust someone to talk to about this. Often your friends can see your situation more clearly. Yes, Carrie and Big got together, but that was a fairy tale. More times than not an ex is an ex for a reason and moving on is your best bet.
If you can’t get him out of your mind, don’t worry! There are lots of cool ways to occupy your mind while the next candidate comes across your path. Not to sound like my grandma but, there really are a lot of fish in the sea and there is someone out there for you.
If you are spending hours a day mooning over an ex, you sure can’t put too much energy into thinking the thoughts that will attract that new man to you. Is that ok with you?