Single and Searching

Congratulations to one of my former clients, Kerry, who married her soul mate this weekend. {{{{{Hugs Kerry!}}}}}  When we started working together, she was near 38 and still aching to have children of her own.

Less than a year later, she found her man, someone not her type LOL, and not a dad…yet. She swears that if she can get rid of her love sabotage, anyone can!

I will be interviewing her soon, after her honeymoon and things get settled, she wants to come on a call and tell her story as well as answer your questions. Stay tuned!

Her success inspires me to dig even deeper to find new ways to help others find the confidence to get back out there and pursue love again.

Your biggest goal is to chase away the gloomies when they come. If you can keep your mind from falling into that pit of discouragement, you’ll start to see some real change. But how?

Keeping a hopeful, open and creative mindset is critical to you finding your soul mate. Once depressing thoughts surround you and drag you down, you’re in trouble, right?

Imagine being able to text me right then. Right when you are struggling. Wouldn’t be great to get my take on your situation?

When my members are slipping into the Land of Despair, I’ve asked them to text me. The only condition? They can only text one word. One five letter word.

I respond using each letter of the word to create a unique, personalized on the spot Mini Magnetizing Message. This message serves as a 911 tapping script that gets results.

I really love you guys and I want for you to feel so loved, so full of self regard and attracting the best in people that you always bounce back from life’s inevitable heart breaks. The fact is, many of you are still hurting from an ex three exes ago.

Only you can take the steps to sweep out the cobwebs of the ghosts of boyfriends past. Once you know that you are resilient again and able to take care of yourself while you are with someone, you will be more optimistic and confident.

An irresistible combination, just in time for summer!

For the month of June, I am offering the text coaching option to all of my members, even at the newbie level that is currently just $9.97 per month. The opportunity is here. Are you ready?  Will you do what it takes to find love?

For membership info, click here: http://EFTCupid.com

The Universe is full of examples of automatic manifestation.

Let me repeat that:  The Universe is FULL of examples of AUTOMATIC MANIFESTATION.  Let me give you a few examples.

A dandelion seed floating in the wind doesn’t obsess about how it will grow a strong enough root to withstand multi-deweeding attempts.

A grain of sand doesn’t stress about how it will become a matching pearl on a strand on the neck of a lovely woman.

A caterpillar doesn’t worry about how it will fly thousands of miles as a Monarch butterfly.

An acorn doesn’t obsess about how it will tower over everything as an oak tree in the future.

A tadpole doesn’t stress about how it will grow four legs and hop as a frog.

A chick in the nest doesn’t worry about how it will leap from the nest and fly as an eagle.

A puppy doesn’t obsess about how it will lead a blind man across a busy street.

A redwood pine cone doesn’t stress about how a forest fire one day will release it’s seeds into the earth.

A lamb doesn’t worry about how to grow enough wool to make all the sweaters that are to come.

Are you catching my drift? There are so many examples of AUTOMATIC MANIFESTATION around us all the time.  What is on automatic in your life?

If you have automatic thoughts about what you don’t have right now, you need to address that.  Who is the boss of you anyway!  LOL

Now, I don’t mean to make light of your lonely situation.  I know you are frustrated in your search for love but….

Focusing on the perfect way that nature replicates itself and keeps life going is a tremendous source of encouragement.  You are like a seed.  You are holding within your very cells promise beyond your wildest dreams.

As Dr. Wayne Dyer explains, within you is a dynamic force that is pulling you forward to your full expression.  If it is true in nature, how can it not be true for YOU!  So what is the problem?  If you feel stuck, look back, there are usually two primary causes:

1.  You are not following through with a decision that you committed to yourself to act on.

2.  You are ignoring an action step that you KNOW you need to take.

You and only you are in the way of Manifesting Love. Follow what you know you could be doing to connect with your life’s purpose.  Don’t hang out whining about the LOVE that isn’t here!!  There is all kinds of love everywhere you look.  Challenge yourself to LOOK for love.

Start your day saying this intention out loud.  I guarantee it will change your perspective:

I intend to see love in all of its forms wherever I go.

A great mantra that will not let you down!

Are you ready to step into Automatic Love Manifestation?  Here you go:  http://LOAinLove.com

Do you sometimes worry that true love has passed you by?

That you’re too late, too old, too heartbroken to try to find love again, and you’ll end up alone in life?

Everyone deserves to have a partner, a beloved—a soulmate—with whom to share their life. If you’re like most singles, you dream of loving someone who adores you, understands you, but is also your best friend and knows and accepts you for who you are.

But you’ve almost given up on the dream, haven’t you? Because you suspect that all the good ones are taken, and you’re tired of getting your hopes up once again…only to meet the wrong person.

That’s why I’m thrilled to introduce you to someone with an incredible story, and to tell you about an exciting opportunity to learn her secret, simple techniques for manifesting true love.

3 Simple Secrets from Arielle Ford

Her name is Arielle Ford, and she’s the author of the best-selling book, “The Soulmate Secret.”

She’s also an accomplished publicist who helped launch the careers of such luminaries and spiritual teachers as Deepak Chopra, Neale Donald Walsch (“Conversations With God” author) and her sister, Debbie Ford.

Arielle is offering a FREE DOWNLOAD where she shares the 3 KEYS to manifesting true love, using proven processes and techniques that have not only helped Arielle manifest her own soulmate, but have helped thousands of men and women find the love of their life.

You can learn more about it and register right now for free by following on this link:

Three Simple Secrets from Arielle Ford

This is a completely free recording, and if you sign up now, you will have instant access. If you’re single and you know you long for a deep, committed partnership with someone you’re meant to be with, I highly encourage you to take this opportunity.

In this FREE DOWNLOAD, you’ll learn:

* How to attract the kind of person who will actually be the RIGHT partner for you

* How to clear out the obstacles, such as the memory of past lovers and heartache, that are energetically keeping away any possibility of a soulmate

* How to experience the love and connection you crave even BEFORE you meet your soulmate, which will attract that right person to you almost magically

* How to forgive yourself for mistakes you’ve made in the past, and open your heart to the kind of relationship you really need and will make you happy for the long-term

You get instant access to Arielle’s gift so register now so you don’t miss out on the opportunity to learn how to manifest true love and magnetize your soulmate into your life!

Three Simple Secrets from Arielle Ford

Goose bumps are riding up and down my spine. My chest is buzzing with throbbing contractions that feel for all the world orgasmic. On my TiVo is James Durbin wailing on Uprising by Muse. I feel it in my body. Let me say that again. I feel that physical exhiliriation as if I were there. As if I were HIM.

Why is that such a big deal?

I am 58 and until four years ago, in the midst of cancer recovery, I discovered an entire family of physical feelings I never knew I had. During the David Cook season, I connected to the electricity of Idol. I thrilled with their courage. Young and poised beyond their years or my understanding, these performers moved me.

When the judges praised and acknowledged them for their gifts, their growth and their willingness to take the coaching and keep on trying, I cried over and over again. Never being much of a cryer, I couldn’t help the floods of tears that came over me while watching these kids receive validation for not only their talent, but their hard work honing it.

“Yo…Dawg.” Randy Jackson would start with week after week in his enthused cheerleading. I loved it! This season, Steven Tyler and Jennifer Lopez are even more inspiring as they honestly critique the contestants.  There is no doubt about the love the judges have for these kids.

I kept the 2008 home town episode for a full two years. When David Archeletta, David Cook and Ayisha went to their home towns and were loved by their whole communities I felt that electric pulse as if I were there. I believe that learning how to have that feeling literally saved my life.

Even now, tears come to my eyes and my whole upper body swells when I remember that episode when the contestants are overcome by all the love being extended to them.

I cried and cried and allowed the feeling to engage me, enchant me and captivate me. The physical experience in my chest began to come more regularly, so to speak. There is a pulse to it. It is very strong and moves me to tears. Because I watched that episode over and over I have trained my brain to respond. It takes just moments, not really, it takes a nano second to ‘move’ my emotions thinking of David Cook, head bowed, shoulders shaking as he stood in front of his fans.

Now, James Durbin inspires the same feeling and I love it. James, a young man challenged with Tourette’s and Asperger’s syndromes, a dad and husband and all of 21 years old thrills me to my toes in an electric experience that feels like being plugged in to a 1000 watt line.

Today I don’t take this feeling for granted. I have a good friend, a fellow Snow White in my Single Girl Profiling System, who has been in my orbit for three years. Both of us guarded, we flow in and out of connection with one another. In a recent phone conversation, I asked if she felt goose bumps when I used a particular phrase to describe an idea.

She surprised me by saying no.

It made me ultra aware of how far I have come. I never understood what magnetism is supposed to feel like in my body. No one could teach me this and believe me, I searched everywhere for the answer.

And even though getting sick wouldn’t have been my first choice, it did give me laser focus on one desire…..to live. You see I was not an American Idol fan before 2007.  I was mesmerized that year and tuned in to that great feeling whenever I could. Now I won’t miss it. I am in training. I want my body to feel that way as often as possible. Being in tune with whatever that is electric and makes everything seem possible.

All the work I have done in my mind and spirit has paid off and I am experiencing much success, but it is learning to plug my body into the loop that is changing everything. I am finding a new version of myself as I step out of mind habits of pain.

When you learn to produce that feeling of vicarious celebration for yourself, in your body whenever you feel like it, you will be irresistible.  Nothing is sexier than a seriously happy woman. 

Tune in to American Idol. I dare you to be uninspired. I dare you.

Speaking of which, I am going to rewind and watch James again right now!

Curious about Your Love Sabotage Style?  Check it out here:  http://EndLoveSabotage.com

Wouldn’t it be lovely if UPS could deliver your mate to you….today?

Wouldn’t it be great if you could skip dating all together?

OK, Wishful Thinker, time to come back to reality.

If you hate to date, that is a problem. Fear of dating is just the tip of the love-repelling iceberg. If there is a way to meet great prospects without dating, I haven’t heard of it yet.

Can you learn to LIKE dating?

Or at least tolerate it?

Let me ask you this, on a scale of 1 to 10, how motivated are you to find a partner?

Dating does not have to be a nightmare! In fact, hating to date is Love Sabotage for sure!! Twice a month I teach EFT Cupid classes so that you can melt your self-consciousness and shine!

Every other week EFT Cupid meets to support singles motivated to put their lonely past behind them and get some traction for their Soul Mate Attraction plan.

Classes are no cost for members of my private community. Are you ready to take steps toward True Love? Just click here for registration information: http://EFTCupid.com

Charlie Sheen is giving you a message that is hard to ignore.

This troubled star, the highest paid actor on TV today, is splashed all over the news trying to defend his life

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Last night Piers Morgan, a friend and fan of Sheen’s, gave an hour of prime time attention to detail the conflict between the actor and his bosses at CBS.

Even a personal visit from Les Moonves, president of the network, had zero impact on Charlie’s actions off set. As he described the visit, Charlie seemed to feel that having Moonves at his kitchen table was completely normal.

So what does this have to do with your love life?

Everything.

Charlie Sheen is in trouble. He absolutely believes he is living a normal life. He sees the rest of the world as crazy for not seeing it. He rejects sobriety as “lame.” He is throwing away his career because drugs, alcohol and women are skewing his judgment.

And yet….his view of his life….as normal is just that…for him. His normal is so off kilter he can’t see it, even though all of us can. The people who love him (even though his circle of friends and supporters is shrinking quickly) suffer as they watch how unhappy he really is.

Take a look at your life. You are single. Your life is working out….sort of. You ache with loneliness, long to be cherished, wish for a husband and maybe even children but go through the motions pretending you are fine.

And just like Charlie Sheen, you are convinced that no one can understand and help you. You don’t even think you need help.

Don’t think so? How long have you been single? How many coaches or mentors have you worked with to solve your problem? Or do you think people who need help meeting a man are “lame.”

Here are 5 sure signs of denial in the relationship game:

1. Years since your last significant relationship.

2. Still angry and hurt over an ex from your 20s.

3. A Date rape you never told anyone about.

4. Shame at needing relationship advice.

5. Spending more money on plastic surgery, shape wear, cosmetics and wardrobe than you do on your heart and its scars from long lost love.

Next time you see Charlie Sheen on the cover of a tabloid or on the evening news, ask yourself… Am I living in la la land?

Is my life passing me by?

Am I REALLY ok being single?

Learn a lesson from the King of Sabotage himself and get the help you need to get the love you really want. Your life is really in your own hands.

xoxo

Tune in Thursday, March 3 to learn Three Sabotage Secrets your Saboteur Does NOT Want You To Know.  Take a step today to end your own sabotage so you can find the love of your life. Click right here:   I am Ready For Love…I really am!

It doesn’t rain very often in San Diego.

Winter is also not quite what I grew up with in the midwest.  That’s what makes rainy morning snuggling so exquisite.  Now I know that the special magic of those first few kisses and the electricity of those first expressions of intimacy are breath taking and intoxicating.

But I am here to tell you, when I scootch over and glue myself to my sleeping husband…the spooner to his spoonee, there is nothing better.  This morning I am extra grateful for my sweet heart and it is not just because he turned over and wrapped his arms around me for a precious 15 minutes before we got up.

Lar and I have been through our share of challenges in our short marriage.  Both of us have had some health and personal challenges.  We, like many baby boomers, are readjusting our vision and our dreams due to the new economy.

Yes, the first few weeks of our relationship were filled with stolen kisses and passionate embraces and other x-rated fun.  But when all is said and done, once our biology calmed itself and we settled into the delicious rhythm of our daily routine, the gentle unfolding of our relationship has brought deep satisfaction.

Don’t get me wrong, the strolls on the Italian Riviera, beach walks in Hawaii and cocktails on the fantail of a cruise ship are beyond fabulous.  I am deeply grateful for our good fortune and travel experiences.  However, the best part of my life with Lar is the day to day companionship.

I love how free I am to be myself.  I love how I feel when I am with him.  I love planning our days together.  I love how involved he is in his own interests.  I love when I am home alone and he is out and about.  I love when we are on the couch, fire lit, he with his paper, me writing this post.

I love rainy morning snuggling.

Does your score card for Valentine’s Day have more losses than wins?

Did it start back in grade school when you didn’t get as many cards as the other kids?

Have you ever been dumped right before the big day?

Did you know that more breakups happen in January than any other month?

This time of year can be pretty tough and I have a feeling that you have seen more than your share of drama and trauma.  If cynicism, disappointment or remorse is creeping into your Valentine’s Day Mindset, it doesn’t feel very good does it.

If you feel snarky and lonely and annoyed at just about everything, these days, you might have S.A.D. (Seasonal Alignment Disorder). Here are a few symptoms:

* You gag at a kiss belongs to Kaye Jewelry commercials.

* You hate the greeting card companies for conspiring with the florists to feed the egos of the sappy girls who don’t even know how to appreciate the men they have.

* You remember the boyfriend who cheated and betrayed you and make snarky comments about his new girl.

* You rent a sappy romance and watch it with a box of kleenex, a pound of chocolate and a bottle of red wine and have a pity party.

* You say you don’t care this year because you need to lose 10 pounds like someone would want to be with you now anyway.

* You think what year it is and you wonder…”Is it too late for me?” and “Why is it fair that girl gets to have her man?” or “Can I still have a family?”

Sound familiar? Don’t give up. You can put the S.A.D. monster into its place. All you need is to find something to distract your self.  When you get control of your thinking you can remind yourself that you are doing really very well, (you are you know).

Keeping yourself magnetized for love when you are feeling blue or when your chips are down is possible. You just need to know how to break through your self sabotage habits so you can finally open your heart again.

As Abraham Hicks repeats tirelessly, once you get your self back into alignment, you will always feel so much better! In English?  Don’t let yourself wallow in the dreaded victim vibe.  Find your True Love Saboteur and seduce her into cooperating with you.

I want to help you feel better about love so I have a special no cost resource for you! I recorded  a special Valentine’s Day 911 call, actually two of them, and they are my gift to anyone who wants to Feel Loved on Valentine’s Day.

Whether you are a Snow White, Rapunzel, Sleeping Beauty or Scarlett O’Hara, you will profit from this recording. Each type learns a bit differently and all can learn from each other. A little laughter, a little teaching and a virtual hug keeps your love magnet vibing strong.

I answered lots of your questions about attracting love and the Law of Attraction.  Watch for future calls, I would love to meet you too!

Just register right here and you will get instant access to the two recordings from Valentine’s 911 in 2011.

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“Why can’t I just let go?”

“A part of me cannot see why I need to.  I want it to work out between us even though I know he isn’t the one.”

I heard the sound of quiet weeping on the other end of the phone.

“Is there anything in you that whispers that he might truly change and that you would feel valued, respected and loved?” I asked gently.

“No.” Sighed Sarah. “I think I am afraid that no one else will come.”

I could sense her throat tightening up and feel her tear as it began to touch her cheek. I am able to feel my clients feelings. At first, I feel them when they feel nothing.

I know that is a little weird, but it is true. By the end of our work together, Sarah was able to feel the feelings too. We could resonate together and feel the pulse of life in a cool way.

This Rapunzel like the others before her have been deeply hurt by betrayal and lies. Fear and anger were like the mortar holding her tower of protection into place.

She sabotages by isolating herself, even when she is with someone.  The problem is that the tower is single occupancy and there will never be room for a soul mate to move in.

Once Sarah could let go of her lost dreams and hopes, she began to build a new tower for herself. A Tower with bricks of self acceptance and self compassion with a mortar of love and peace.  Now she is engaged.  Good for you, Sarah!

When you learn to feel what being loved and accepted feels like, really feels like, you won’t be able to settle anymore. You already have experiences within your tapestry of memories of exquisite moments.

Moments like being acknowledged publicly at work or school, cheered on at a toddler ballet recital, wept over by your emotional mom while you played a viola piece you loved or the first powerful and oh so innocent crush on that first guy.

The problem is that those great memories are hidden in the dark complication of the remorse, regrets and rejection in the years between then and now. The flow of these three invisible energetic forces, Regret, Remorse and Rejection is a raging river separating you from your own core.

You are separated from the center of your own heart. You on one side of that river, your heart on the other. Without your heart, you cannot attract your true love.

Even though you have your vision board and are saying affirmations and you are claiming that you are ready for love, you are radiating loneliness, disappointment and emptiness on an energetic level.  And girl, you have to do something about that.

This raging river of ill will toward men in general and romance in particular, rushing through your emotions, is dominating your choices, your language, your mood and your reactions to life circumstances. It controls your love life by attracting men who have raging rivers of their own.

These relationships are certain to fall apart when the pain each person feels is blamed, consciously or unconsciously on the other. Then you get into a vicious cycle and the river rages stronger and stronger.

EFT is the best tool I know to neutralize that river….calm it down and transform it into Peace, Detachment and Acceptance. Once the forces within you are operating in calmness and ease, and the inner river is flowing easily with no stress, memories from the past that hold real creative juice will come forward.

You already have every thing you need to feel the deep magnetism that assures you that you are loved. The power of past love and disappointment is the block needing your attention.

Knowing you are ok and everything is progressing along at its perfect rate is hard, Rapunzel, I know you are tired of waiting. Your expectations can easily get inflated setting yourself up for disappointment.

Tell yourself things like this: “My life is unfolding at the exact right pace.” “I am learning to see good things that are coming my way…even if they are tiny.” “I want to feel happy”. “Being happy feels really good.” Even if it doesn’t feel like it is doing any good. It is. Your ears need to hear your voice carrying this positivity to your brain.

Once you radiate your authentic self, free of any fears of criticism or ridicule, you’re there. There is someone out there who is looking for exactly that….your real and true adorable self.

He is out there, Sweet Rapunzel, don’t compromise what is most precious to you to stay with a man. Be a soul mate to your own Soul first, then you are ready to be open to Your True Love, you will feel it clearly.

Can you relate?  Wonder if you might be a Rapunzel?  Take the Love Sabotage Assessment and check it out for free:  http://EndLoveSabotage.com

Do you want to make 2011 the year you finally find your true love?

If the answer is yes, I’m excited to be letting you in on a special announcement that everyone who’s looking for love needs to hear.

Starting this Valentine’s Day, 21 of the worlds leading love experts are coming together online to guide you through a step-by-step program to magnetize the love of your life.

It’s absolutely FREE . . . and it’s happening right here—on your computer.

It’s called The Ultimate SOULMATE Summit and it’s being hosted by two of my dear friends, who also happen to be two of the world’s leading experts on attracting love—Arielle Ford & Claire Zammit.

You can read all about it and register for free here

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What makes this love event so special?

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This group of the world’s top authors, teachers, transformation experts and coaches all have one thing in common: they have devoted their lives to “cracking the codes” to attracting and sustaining BIG love. Each of them holds a transformational key that will help you attract and create the kind of love your heart longs for.

You’ll learn first-hand from experts like Dr. John Gray, Debbie Ford, Neale Donald Walsh, Dr. Helen Fisher, Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Alison Armstrong, Christan Carter and more.

Never before have so many experts in the field of love and relationships gathered in one place to help you discover exactly what you need to do to overcome the barriers that are keeping you from attracting the love of your life. You’ll:

* Finally take the guesswork out of finding a Soulmate!

* Discover a simple series of proven steps that you could take to attract a loving, committed, sacred partnership, not just with anyone, but with “the one.”

* Learn these time-tested secrets from 21 of the world’s top experts without paying a dime

To make 2011 the year you find your Soulmate, I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity right now and register for the event today.

Remember… the event is FREE and it’s all from the comfort of your own home.

We look forward to seeing you at the Ultimate Soulmate Summit!

PS: Remember, the Ultimate Soulmate Summit is brought to you at no charge. Plus, when you register today, you’ll get a free virtual Gift Bag with added bonuses from Dr. John Gray, Marci Shimoff, The Soulmate Secret & Calling in “The One”.

PPS: Help us “share the love” and forward this email to your single friends, colleagues and family members- they’re sure to appreciate the invitation.

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