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My colleague and friend, Arielle Ford has a critical message for those of you trying to manifest a soul mate:

Have you ever noticed that the Law of Attraction works for you in some areas of your life but not all? People often ask me “If the Law of Attraction actually works, why doesn’t it work for all of us all of the time?” My sister Debbie Ford and I were talking about this recently and I just HAD to share her answer with you:

There’s only one answer to that question: It is what is in our unconscious mind that has the power — all the stuff that you wish wasn’t there, that you want to get rid of, that you’re still pissed off about or ashamed of, all the beliefs you’re still limited by.

Our unconscious is holding 80% of our power to magnetize our life experiences to us. So if our conscious mind has only 20% of the power, this is the time to get to work on uncovering, owning and embracing our unconscious by truly understanding and transforming what’s no longer wanted or needed.

One fruitful place to start this exploration is to look at what I call underlying commitments. These are commitments that exist at an unconscious level that, if not made conscious, will override any other desires we have.

Our underlying commitments drive our thoughts, our beliefs and — most importantly — our choices. They are the unseen forces that shape our realities. They are responsible for the discrepancy between what we say we want and what we’re actually experiencing.

These underlying commitments are formed by unconscious decisions we’ve made in the past. In the dark recesses of your unconscious, for example, you may have decided that you can’t trust anyone and that it’s easier to be alone. So even though you want love and intimacy in your life, you always choose the wrong mate because your first commitment is to being by yourself.

You become a magnet, but instead of attracting what you think you desire, you are a magnet for failure, for missed opportunities, for being less of a success than you strive for. You continually make choices that are in direct conflict with what you say you want and you find yourself baffled by the choices you are making. Sound familiar?

Underlying commitments keep us stuck in the same place year after year. When we carry the wounds, hurts or outdated beliefs that created these underlying commitments in the first place, we will unfortunately keep attracting the same circumstances over and over again so that we can be right about these early decisions lurking in our unconscious. Our underlying commitments become self-fulfilling prophecies. And our unconscious becomes the driver of our lives.

Transformational Action Step

 We must expose our underlying commitments before we have the power to shift them. By exposing these unconscious commitments, we gain the freedom to stand in the truth. Then we can begin the process of transformation.

1. Write down a goal or desire that you’ve been unable to attain.

2. Make a list of the actions you have taken or not taken in the past year that are in direct opposition to this goal.

3. Now take your list and imagine that these choices that have taken you away from your desired goal and not brought you any closer to it are an expression of a deeper commitment, your first commitment.

4. Close your eyes and ask yourself “What commitment are these choices in direct alignment with?” There you will discover your underlying commitment.

When you reveal the underlying commitments that prevent you from achieving your goals, you are beginning to turn your life around. You can now replace your old commitments with new, powerful commitments that are in alignment with your highest vision for the future.

5. Write down a new commitment you can make this week that will move you toward the future you desire.

Take some time this week to do these steps and begin to make progress on unraveling your underlying commitments. And, if you are interested in going even deeper with this type of process, Debbie is the originator of a magnificent, life-changing, life-enhancing workshop called The Shadow Process. Learn all about it here: Shadow Process

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I recently met an EFT expert who is doing life changing work with her clients world wide. I am going to be in this class and I wanted to share it with you all.

Here is a special message from Margaret Lynch:

Today I want to start at the beginning… the beginning of you, your power, your life purpose. Everything builds on a foundation and you are no different. Your foundation is your 1st chakra.

Your physical body is the primary element of your first chakra, the foundation of all that you are. When the first chakra is healthy, it is like a beautiful and powerfully magnetic tree.

It is your foundation of strength, power and divine worthiness and is perfectly designed for you to life your life purpose. It also operates as a magnet, drawing to you the physical stuff that you need and desire in your life.

When your first chakra is healthy, you feel PRESENT, powerful and fabulous. Super cool. Also very cool is the fact that everyone around you will ALSO feel your presence and power (and fabulous-ness)too.

 How do we know if our first chakra is “healthy”?

There is an easy test. Answer this question. How do you feel about your body, and how safe do you feel to actually “be in it”.

 The answers to those 2 questions often bring up a lot of pain and sadness and I hear this so much.

 So, do you really love your body? Or…do any of these fit?

=> Do you feel as though your body has let you down, is imperfect, is weak or ugly?

=> Is physical sensuality and intimacy just not part of your life anymore?

=> Do you feel more anxiety or panic in your body then centered presence?

=> Did you learn that it is not safe to be totally present?

This is exactly what we will “address and bless” in a new FREE teleclass totally dedicated to the foundation of your power – your 1st Chakra!

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(Follow this link to register to attend and recieve the recording)

With tons of my special brand of tapping we will make real change – a big step up into personal power and presence!

• Are you ready to REALLY love your body? I mean all of it!

• Are you ready to experience the joy of centered presence in your body

• Are you ready to have other people feel your energy and power when speak or just walk into a room?

Join me on this very important teleclass and experience the true gifts of your 1st Chakra in power, presence and magnetic attraction!

Register here to attend and to receive the recording!

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Can’t wait to hear from you live on the class!

Love,

Margaret Lynch

PS I, Catherine, am so excited to share this important class with you. I believe this work with the First Chakra will really help.

PPSS Margaret shares the profit from her classes with coaches like me who bring students to the virtual classroom. Thanks, Margaret!

I love this post from a man’s point of view originally printed in Marie Claire Magazine.  Great food for thought.  What kind of partner are we really?

I was flipping through a Women’s Health recently (I admit it), and I noticed an interesting poll. Women cited the following reasons as the most common breakup reasons:

• He changed.

• We weren’t compatible.

• He cheated on me.

When I was little, it drove me crazy when my parents supported “no” with “because I said so.” I always wanted a reason. I’m not sure if knowing why always helps, but perhaps if you know common reasons guys break up with girls, you’ll at least be able to see it coming. So, here are mine:

I Got Bored

I’ve read many different hypotheses on attention span, but my favorite is from Wikipedia:

“Continuous attention span, or the amount of time a human can focus on an object without any lapse at all, is very brief and may be as short as 8 seconds. After this amount of time, it is likely that an individual’s eyes will shift focus, or that a stray thought will briefly enter consciousness.”

My attention span (unless it’s a football game or a song) may be worse. I know a relationship is not supposed to be exciting all the time, so getting through those flatline moments between the sparks is critical. If I start having more fun with other activities, the relationship is doomed

One of Us Was Too Serious

This could be as simple as she wanted to see me three times a week, and I only wanted to see her one time a week. If she’s flirting with other guys, flighty, or not as into it as I am, then I’m too serious for her.

Burnout

I’m a big believer in pacing and rhythm in dating. A relationship can suffer burnout if certain milestones occur too fast: being exclusive, giving special gifts, sex, meeting parents. When that happens, I get that feeling the colonists must have gotten after they won the Revolutionary War: “Okay, we did it…so now what?”

I Was Tempted to Cheat

I do my best not to cheat, so when I have recurring urges to cheat on my girlfriend, I figure it’s time to break up with her. I don’t need to go through with the cheating; the constant urge is enough for me to end things.

All My Friends Broke Up with Their Girlfriends

This is by far the most immature reason on this list. While my girlfriend and I are curled up on the couch watching The Devil Wears Prada, my newly single guy friends are out shredding the karaoke waves with Journey’s “Don’t Stop Believin” and tearing up the town. That conflict gives me wanderlust. It’s much easier when we are all in for a quiet Saturday night with the significant others.

Divergent Lives

If someone moves to another town, or work is taking over, or other life changes are driving you apart, sometimes it’s best to end it.

Feeling Selfish

Dating is selfless because you’re giving your time and your self up to a relationship. “Me time” is necessary at some point to work on career/living situation, travel, or whatever. When I’m in a “selfish period,” it’s tough to participate in a relationship.

I “Misread” My Feelings

This is the most unfair of all the reasons. Both genders make this mistake: You get into a relationship and everything seems so great. Then, a few weeks later, you realize you got wrapped up in something for the wrong reason: dated for the sake of dating, or whatever, and you need to get out.

My Friends or Family Didn’t Like Her

I pay close attention to friend/family opinions because they know me best, and they’ve earned the right to have their say. Also, friends and family may be able to see things inside the relationship that I’m too blinded to see.

I Took Her for Granted

Great relationships should be easy, but there needs to be some tension too — especially in the beginning. If it’s too easy, there’s a lack of challenge. If I feel like I could have her heart any time any place, sometimes I’ll let her go. This almost always ends up coming back to haunt me later, though. I never learn.

She Was Too Negative

All too often, I end up with the brooding, depressed, uptight type who is constantly complaining. I don’t expect someone to be happy all the time, but if she makes me unhappy every time I see her, why stay with her?

What reasons have guys used to break up with you, and which make you most angry? What reasons have caused you to break up with guys? Which reasons do you think are most commonly cause breakups — do they differ for guys and women?

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I am thrilled to share with you this very insightful piece I read on Arielle Ford’s Blog:

Instructions for Installing Love on the Human Computer.

Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready. What do I do first?

Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

Tech Support: What programs are running?

Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off?

Customer: I don’t know how to. Can you tell me how?

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is that normal?

Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, “Error – Program not run on external components.” What should I do?

Tech Support: Don’t worry. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?

Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done.

Tech Support: Now, copy them to the “My Heart” directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?

Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time. So Love is installed and running.

One more thing before we hang up.

Love is Freeware.

Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.

Customer: Thank you, God.

CREATOR, aka, Tech Support: You’re Welcome, Anytime.

Special thanks to the unknown author who wrote this and to Monte and Amy, authors of The Soulmate Path for sending this beautiful piece of wisdom to me. Visit them at TheEnchantedWorld.com.

Guest Post By Jafree Ozwald

The enlightened state of being is something everyone must experience in this lifetime. It is an indescribable state of peace, bliss and love that permeates your body and penetrates everyone around you.

When you do enough meditating, spend a substantial amount of time alone with nature, or receive a transmission from an enlightened being, you can instantly drop into this enlightened state.

To find your enlightened state it will require you to go deeper than just a physical stillness. You will need to remain curious about what life is like having complete freedom from your mind, your thoughts and your life’s agenda. This will help you find total stillness of the mind.

Total stillness of the body is essential for finding a truly quiet, still and effortlessness mind, yet you’ll need to use the mind to by pass the mind. You can try to stop the mind for a few minutes and see if you can “do” it. You may find yourself wondering if you’ll ever arrive and if it’s possible to control this unruly machine.

If your life feels like you’re in a tornado of thoughts, take a good long look at everything you’re attached to or avoiding for this is exactly what’s creating your greatest spin cycle.

Notice what could happen if you let these things go? You might feel naked and afraid at first, yet if you keep diving deeper inside, you’ll find your spiritual essence and soon be absolutely at peace with whatever is happening. There is only one way to know this is true, and that is to test it out and see for yourself.

Below are 4 simple steps you can do to kindle the flame inside you, so that one day the enlightened state will ignite like a wild fire throughout your life.

1. Commit to the Present Moment. Everything that is illusory is happening inside your head. Keep bringing your head out of the past or future, and move back into this present moment. Practice this all the time, not because you should, but because the here and now is the only place you’ll find happiness.

It is where the spark of your divine consciousness is located. The mind is a master at getting lost in thoughts, so you must make every intention to bring it out of dwelling on yesterday and tomorrow. Sure, go ahead and make your appointments, try to plan for future events, yet do this all inside the container of the living present moment.

When you’re really here now, you’ll notice you are committed to being here in the present moment, no matter if the future works out the way you believed it should. You also are not attached to the past, as you see how you cannot force the mind to surrender its random escapades into yesteryear. The main practice here it to allow you to bathe in the divine essence of your being which is only found in the here and now.

2. Focus on your heart center. If you are not feeling loved, you’re not letting love in, or connecting with your heart in any way. This is a sure fire way to remain unenlightened. The ego abides in the head, and can try to ruin your entire life from this high and mighty control tower command center.

It would do it and think everything is working perfectly yet wouldn’t know how to feel love. Without the heart, life feels like you’ve become an eternally hungry chicken who is addicted to running around searching for another speckle of dry grain. Whatever thoughts reoccurring inside your head instantly fade into the background when you have dropped into your heart and core of your being.

The path of the heart is the easiest route to enlightenment. The heart is your real home where the head has to surrender its ideas, desires and agendas. The head simply cannot win over the deep and magical power of love that can only be found in the heart.

It’s just like when you hear a song on the radio that moves you deeply, you cannot help yet be touched by your heart as your entire being opens up and is captivated by the music. Just tune inside and listen to the inner music your heart is playing. By focusing on your heart center throughout your day, it will open the greatest door you’ll ever enter to love, and deliver you instantly to the field of the enlightened state.

3. Feel whatever you’re feeling. By simply feelings the feelings you’re having, you instantly drop out of your head and go beyond thought. Coming from a place of surrendering to your feelings is about being honest with yourself as to what is really going on inside at the core.

Even if it is only for a few seconds, you’ve given the head a vacation and your ego a chance to realize that it is not in control of everything. Not being in control is a good thing when you’ve been trapped in trying to be the manager of everything and everyone in your world for lifetimes.

Fully feeling your feelings you experience a state of zero control where you have to slow down, trust the process of life, drop out of the rat race and be with what is really going on inside you. Feeling those feelings which you are avoiding is the most courageous step you can take towards enlightenment. You simply cannot feel this sweet, light expansive enlightened state if you’re not willing to feel your most unenlightened feelings inside.

4. Let go of attachment to your life. By letting go of how life should unfold, you soon drop into the state of no-mind, where there are no desires for the mind to be juggling around anymore.

The only choice you have is to surrender to divine stillness and absolute ecstasy!! This may be terrifying for the ego, for it will have nothing “important” to accomplish in life or fill its time with anymore. Yet, what is more important than experiencing a total state of bliss endowed with divine consciousness and omniscient intelligence?

Whenever your ego is in charge of your life, there is no time for consciousness, and bliss has no priority. When you are attached to your life turning out a certain way you are living as “the ego” and not understanding yourself as the infinite Spirit you truly are. The ego thinks the most important things are getting all its needs met on the inner and outer world. This is where the infinite source of life is easily missed.

Ask yourself sometime, “What will it take to completely let go of all attachment to how my life unfolds?” One day you will have to let go of all of your things, all your money, all your debts, all your friends, family, and yes even your body!

Death is the peak experience of life and it’s unavoidable unless you choose the path of ascension, living 24-7 in the enlightened state. Most people don’t even see this as an option, because they are too attached to everything in their life. Yet, if you want to experience absolute bliss, first start with letting go of attachment to all your thoughts, and one day you’ll find Bliss.

The good news is that you can dramatically shift your life and step into your true enlightened nature this week! One sweet side benefit is that you will start manifesting everything your heart desires.

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Today’s post is by Gillian Reynolds:

How to Make Him Fall in Love with You Fast! 3 Quick Tips to Win His Heart

You want to know how to make him fall in love with you fast. You met an amazing man and you can feel yourself falling head over heels for him. Ideally, he’ll feel the same way about you. Unfortunately, men tend to fall in love at a slower pace than we do. However, there are a few things any woman can do to subtly speed that process along. Being in love is a feeling unlike any other, so why not do everything in your power to ensure you get the man you want to love you too?

Learning how to make him fall in love with you fast includes these three quick tips:

Be a little mysterious. Men love it when a woman is a wee bit mysterious. If your life is not an open book, he’s going to feel more drawn to you. Don’t put all your cards on the table too soon in the relationship. Let him learn new and interesting things about you each day. He’ll love it. To him it’s like unwrapping a new gift on a daily basis. If you slowly allow him to learn more and more about you, he’ll always be hungry for more.

Have a fun and fulfilling life. Whenever a man meets an interesting woman and her schedule is always wide open to see him, he’s disappointed. Men are drawn to women who are dynamic and remarkable. If he discovers that you have nothing going on in your life other than your burgeoning relationship with him, that’s going to be a let down. He’d much rather see someone who has a career she loves, friends she adores and who has a laundry list of interests that swallow up her time. Let him see that your life is very fulfilling with or without a man and he’ll actually want you more. He’ll want to prove to you that you need him and that will make him work harder to get you to love him too.

Be extraordinary. The one common complaint that single men have is that all the women they meet are cookie cutter versions of each other. Many women make the mistake of thinking they have to present themselves in a very specific way to get a man’s attention. You just have to be yourself. An extraordinary woman is one who is honest, sincere and kind. He wants you to show him the real you. If you have an opinion, share it with him. Don’t believe that you always have to agree with is point of view in order to get him to love you. The opposite is actually true. He wants someone who knows her own mind and speaks it.

Remember to always be yourself when you want to capture a man’s heart. Once he sees the amazing woman you are inside he won’t be able to resist your charms a moment longer.

The 2010: The Destination of Your Dreams
by Debbie Ford

It’s so easy to make promises about the year ahead. You will follow your diet, be more financially responsible, be kinder to your spouse, spend more time at the gym…But, for most, the promises you make today will be empty dreams six months from now. So let’s examine this. I would suggest this happens because real change doesn’t occur when you just want something or wish for another reality. Real change happens when you feel genuinely inspired, turned on by possibility and unwilling to settle for anything less. It happens when you commit with all of yourself to a new way of life, to a new future. So how do you do this?

To feel inspired and lit up and to make room for optimism, enthusiasm, and lasting change, you must lighten your emotional load by addressing your past issues, your emotional blocks, your negative beliefs, your feelings of unworthiness and any infantile desires that drive you to repeatedly head off in a direction counter to your dreams. If you drop your commitments, it is not because you want to be seen as a quitter or a loser but because unconsciously you are more committed to an outdated self — an old identity that feels comfortable and safe even though it might have stopped serving you years ago. Often, psychological laziness will have you switch your life over to autopilot and fall asleep at the wheel rather than stay awake to what will fulfill your heart’s deepest desires and your soul’s purpose.

On this eve of a new year, a very fertile time to look over your past and commit to a new future, you can ask these simple questions to unload some old baggage and steer your life in the direction of a brilliant and thrilling future — the ride of your life.

1) What are your deepest desires for this new year?

2) What are you willing to give up to get them? What habits, limiting beliefs, unhealthy relationships or situations?

3) When did you become unwilling to do whatever it takes to have what you want?

4) What cravings or unmet needs will drive you away from your desired destination?

5) What structure of support will you need to ensure this new future?

6) Who could you count on to be your co-pilot to ensure that you will neither fall short of the runway nor overshoot your desired outcome? Who will help you stay awake?

If you wish to fly to new heights, begin by setting your sights on a destination you can reach and then create a flight plan, a map that will be your guide. And if at any time you don’t feel like following your flight path, stop, take a deep breath, call forth your vision for your future, then pick up your phone, dial your co-pilot and ask them to remind you that veering off your route really isn’t worth the pain of repeating the past. Veering off will only leave you in the same repetitive pattern of wanting, wishing, fantasizing, and then feeling intensely disappointed when you land at a destination other than the phenomenal future that awaits you.

So today, YOU have the power to choose the destination of your dreams, create a flight plan and stick to it. So gather your courage, your strength and your commitment and get onboard, making 2010 the most inspiring year of your life. Join Debbie for a free 21-Day Consciousness Cleanse program, a daily boost, on Oprah.com This amazing 21-Day course will help you clear out any old, negative patterns that may have been stopping you from manifesting the love of your life.

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