EFT Cupid

Tomorrow is EFT Cupid Training day and I will be practicing with club members from 9:30 to 10:30 tomorrow morning January 14th, California time. (11:30 am cst/12:30 pm est)

I host EFT Practice live and in person on the Second Saturday of every month.  I no longer take one on one clients so this is your only chance to tap with me personally.

The EFTCupid Tapping Club is finally ready to show off.  While we are still getting ready for the Grand Opening, you can still join right now.  The free classes and materials are all listed and organized for you and the chat room is ready to go.

It is simple to use and you can have private chats with me, Heidi Lee–our Master Toad Kisser– or other members practicing their love magnetizing skills.

Here is the link that explains everything:

http://www.attractyoursoulmatenow.com/blog/success/

Can’t wait to introduce our new astrologer expert.  She is coming for the next Full Moon …watch for details!

PS  Heidi Lee, our resident Online Dating Expert is just about to release her newest ebook:  How to Toad Proof Your Dating Profile.  She is looking for test readers and has posted her latest draft on the membership site for your review, and remember, membership is under ten bucks a month.

Who is the last person who hurt your feelings?

Let yourself remember the worst part of it.

How much did it sting the moment it happened?  How strong on a scale of 1 to 10?

How strong is it right now?

That feeling, the pain and disappointment of being overlooked, dismissed or disregarded is holding nearly every single I meet from manifesting love.  How about you?

You can make that feeling disappear and stop attracting the wrong people to your life.

I spoke to a Rapunzel yesterday who has had a tough few years.  Drastic drama and even a tragic death have hit her with a series of emotional tsunamis and now she is so guarded, I can feel it like a wall of ice from across the country.

She just broke up with her latest of 8 boyfriends and alienated from the women in her life, is really despairing and alone.  You Rapunzels know what I mean, right?

With times the way they are, this sensitive beauty is living with a difficult roommate out of necessity and that can drain the life out of Rapunzel.  Life has victimized her in every way and her income is as scarce as the quality men she seeks.

The hardest message for me to deliver is that no matter where she goes or who she is interacting with, she is the center of all of her dramas.  Until a lonely single can really turn inward and figure out why she is always misunderstood, she is doomed to failed romances.

“Do I attract bad boyfriends?” she asked.

No, as Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret reminds us, you can only allow in the love there is space for in your home, your lifestyle and your heart.  If a man doesn’t measure up, it just means that you aren’t ready for another deep love.

When you have been hurt once, twice, three times too many, you become tightly wound in a cocoon of self protection that no one can get through.  Do people tell you that you are unapproachable?

As if wrapped in layers of energetic saran wrap, the you that you were born to be is sealed so close to your heart, there is no space for new love to go.  That is the work to do in order to get the Law of Attraction to really work for you.

EFT helps to expand your heart, your true inner you, so that you are ready for love.  There is a man out there who will resonate and adore your true inner you.  The trouble is, there are many many layers of hurt feelings between the outside world and your heart.

Here is a your chance to experience the sheer magic of EFT in a weekly tapping club with me and see what kind of love tsunami we can create for you.

This special EFT Tapping Club is only $9.97 per month so if you have ever been curious about how EFT could help you find your way to love, here’s your chance:

Join EFTCupid Tapping Club

Think of someone who has hurt your feelings in the last couple of months.

Let yourself feel the sting that is still there.

On a scale of 1 to 10, if it is 7 or higher, that is significant.  Like energetic indigestion, when your feelings are hurt, it is a sign that it is time to make more space for love.  Now, think again, who in your past hurt you in the same way.  Is there a pattern of heart break for you?

EFT will take away the hurt feelings plus, each time you tap, your magnetism multiplies.  The more space you create for love on the inside, the softer and more approachable you will appear to people.

Remember, your soul mate is probably going to come to you through someone you know. You definitely want to be beaming with warmth and approachability whenever you are out and about, you never know when he is going to show up.

You have been meaning to try EFT, just follow this link to the  EFTCupid Tapping Club today and be part of the magic.

Membership Dues: Just $9.97 per month

I understand that my monthly membership fee will be billed only $9.97 every 30-days and that I may cancel my subscription at anytime, for any reason, no questions asked.

Is the best date you can get the one with your fingernails?

I know lonely very well. Even when I am with people who know me, my mind can ruin the day by reminding me of someone who is either no longer on the planet or who lives far away. Or better, up until now that has been true.  The mind is a pesky thing, unless you are wise to its tricks, love seems hard to find.

Thinking about the one you miss is like throwing a bucket of cold water on your good mood. It always works every time. It sucks to be far away from a family member and the way the world is today, every person alive has a family member who lives over a day’s drive away.  Everyone is lonely some of the time.

You probably have trained yourself to forget how much you miss your mom back east or your grandbabies in Tennessee. The fact that you see hardly ever see them becomes normal. Same if someone you love has passed away.

It takes time but eventually you get used to life without that person. Your brain is a problem solving, forward moving, momentum creating machine and will help you get on with yourself and your life.

Dr. Wayne Dyer describes it like this...You have within you a mighty forward moving momentum that is pulling you forward to your highest potential.  This life force is seen in every being…even crystals and “non-living” parts of nature are all developing from one stage to the next.

So, if your highest potential is to be married and you are still frustratingly single…what’s going on?

You can’t help but move forward…you are hardwired to do so. You may feel that you are not moving forward, but you are.  Life is going by and doesn’t slow down for you.  You couldn’t move forward at all in life if you missed all of the wonderful people you have known so far.

I am now 58 and I understand that in a way I couldn’t have at 28. I took the endings of relationships personally for years thinking there was something wrong with me that ended those connections.

Remember that hard wiring I mentioned before? Well, your brain is hard wired for you to advance, certainly….but it is also hard wired to protect you. When under threat, your Fight or Flight instincts are turned on, by the brain, and you stop thinking rationally….every time.

When a relationship ends badly, unless processed properly, the brain automatically stows the loss and hurt feelings deep into your mind…until you are ready to face it. In the FAB book (well, at least for geeks like me…hehehe) The Brain That Changes Itself, Dr. Norman Doige writes of the “dark side of the flexible brain” that ability to cloak emotional pain and lock you into fear.

This is where loneliness fits in. Your unconscious mind is an amazing part of the picture. Mysterious and not easy to understand, the parts of your mind that are out of sight out are fully accessible to your brain. Your brain, on autopilot to keep you feeling safe and fearful of great risk, simply does its job….reminding you how much losing love hurts.

If you meet someone new, your brain will only let the relationship develop as far as safety and fear of risk will let it. The more significant breakups you have in your past (even your parents divorce…the grand daddy breakup for many) the quicker your brain will pour that ever faithful bucket of cold water on your hopes for connection with the flashes to those past heartbreaks.

Do you recognize yourself? I know for sure that making peace with “normal” loneliness will sincerely help you to step out of your comfort zone and find your loving partner.

It is NORMAL to feel lonely. It is nothing to fear. You just need a strategy to deal with it. Acceptance is a magical elixir. Learning to accept that loneliness is ok is a powerful tool in your manifestation tool bag.

This month in the LOA in Love Club, I am featuring a favorite soul mate manifesting book, The Soulmate Secret by Arielle Ford. Starting on Monday July 11, we begin with Chapter 1 and use EFT to release any stuck places as you practice Arielle’s proven techniques. There will be two sessions of the class each and every Monday until we finish the book.

The classes are free for members of the LOA in Love Club. Membership dues are just $9.97 per month so I hope you will join us. The magic of the Club? It is the place to connect when you are lonely. I love to run into my members in the private chat room when I check in. Talk about the Law of Attraction at work! You can chat with me in real time just about every day.

I know you feel alone…but you are not. Come let us keep you company on the way to finding love. Your Love Future really is in your own hands. If you have not read The Soul Mate Secret, this is the perfect time to pick it up. If you have and you are still single….you will find that EFT with Arielle’s processes will be a completely different experience.

Oh, by the way, Arielle has agreed to do a special Q and A call just for members of this class, how cool is that! We will let you know as soon as it is scheduled

Have a fantastic 4th of July.

PS Here is a screen shot of the LOA in Love Chat room this morning.  I left a special EFT tapping script for my members.  Simply tap through the statements three times and enjoy your LIBERTY this day.  Enjoy!

Congratulations to one of my former clients, Kerry, who married her soul mate this weekend. {{{{{Hugs Kerry!}}}}}  When we started working together, she was near 38 and still aching to have children of her own.

Less than a year later, she found her man, someone not her type LOL, and not a dad…yet. She swears that if she can get rid of her love sabotage, anyone can!

I will be interviewing her soon, after her honeymoon and things get settled, she wants to come on a call and tell her story as well as answer your questions. Stay tuned!

Her success inspires me to dig even deeper to find new ways to help others find the confidence to get back out there and pursue love again.

Your biggest goal is to chase away the gloomies when they come. If you can keep your mind from falling into that pit of discouragement, you’ll start to see some real change. But how?

Keeping a hopeful, open and creative mindset is critical to you finding your soul mate. Once depressing thoughts surround you and drag you down, you’re in trouble, right?

Imagine being able to text me right then. Right when you are struggling. Wouldn’t be great to get my take on your situation?

When my members are slipping into the Land of Despair, I’ve asked them to text me. The only condition? They can only text one word. One five letter word.

I respond using each letter of the word to create a unique, personalized on the spot Mini Magnetizing Message. This message serves as a 911 tapping script that gets results.

I really love you guys and I want for you to feel so loved, so full of self regard and attracting the best in people that you always bounce back from life’s inevitable heart breaks. The fact is, many of you are still hurting from an ex three exes ago.

Only you can take the steps to sweep out the cobwebs of the ghosts of boyfriends past. Once you know that you are resilient again and able to take care of yourself while you are with someone, you will be more optimistic and confident.

An irresistible combination, just in time for summer!

For the month of June, I am offering the text coaching option to all of my members, even at the newbie level that is currently just $9.97 per month. The opportunity is here. Are you ready?  Will you do what it takes to find love?

For membership info, click here: http://EFTCupid.com

Stressing and Obsessing about that ex of yours has to come to an end. How badly do you want a guy who really treats you right?  Seriously, on a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you crave a forever partner?

Can you see how important it is to get control over your emotions?  How attractive are you when you are freaking out?

Guy Kayasaki in his FAB book Enchantment, describes an excellent boss who remains at the top of his game because he constantly reminds himself what a tough boss he is to work with.

You have to face the fact that you are a complicated package. You feel things deeply and don’t feel understood very often.  Don’t you get hurt feelings a lot of the time?  How attractive is that, right?

I recently got this question from a frustrated Rapunzel, one of my private members,  who has no trouble seeing her faults, in fact she has slipped to the other side of the equation and is ‘beating up on herself’ at her inability to stop stressing and obsessing.  Here is her note and my answer:

Dear Catherine,

Sometimes I start using EFT on an issue and then another becomes apparent and another and so on and then I feel very overwhelmed at which one I need to focus on, in other words, which issue is the core issue?

I then feel very frustrated and angry with myself for having so many issues and for not being tough enough to “get over myself”!

Is there an exercise that can help find the core issue so that I can focus on that? Does anyone else feel this way sometimes?

Hi Rapunzel,

Thanks for such a great question!

When you are tapping on a problem and another problem comes to your mind, we have a couple of things to hash out.

Here are some tips for creating a great tapping script when you are overwhelmed:

1. You will have easiest results when you get to as specific an incident to tap on as possible. For example, Bossy Betty at work is not good to tap on, the time Bossy Betty spilled coffee on the report you had been working on for three weeks is.  If you are not specific enough, your mind searches for something to hook on to and jumps all over the place.

2. If Bossy Betty is the problem, think of the last thing she did that really got to you. Then get out a notebook and write the thing down, in movie title form:

The Time Bossy Betty Spilled Coffee on the Report. (Sometimes my beloved Rapunzels point out to me that Bossy Betty does 100 things a day that are annoying. I know. But to kick start your brain into the pleasure zone, you have to pick one.)

Now ask yourself: What Bugs Me About That? Wait for the answer. Write it down and then ask the question again. Keep repeating until you reach the end.

This is magical brain detective work and will help you find what is really at the bottom of your reaction to Bossy Betty.

Here is an example:

The Time that Bitch Bossy Betty Ruined my Report. (A Little Drama Allowed)

What bugs me about that? I worked so hard on the thing.

What bugs me about that? Not only did I not get credit, now I have to start over.

What bugs me about that? Her stupidity

What bugs me about that? People should know better

What bugs me about that? People are so careless

What bugs me about that? People should care

What bugs me about that? People should care about how hard I work

What bugs me about that? They are taking advantage of me

What bugs me about that? I hate it here

What bugs me about that? I’m wasting so much time.

I recently heard a quote I love. Life is 20% what happens to you and 80% how you react to it. So, so true. Take your time and just keep asking the question over and over until you get the true answer.

Now you have the perfect EFT tapping script. Just go through the points tapping on each answer. Then finish with a round that says this or something like it:

“Thank you Universe that dingy Bossy Betty spilled the bleepin’ coffee on my report because if she didn’t, I wouldn’t have tracked down that place in my brain that hid the pain from me.

Thank you for showing me the parts of my brain that make me feel overwhelmed. Thank you for helping me calm and settle my brain chemistry.”

It might feel weird to use words like brain and brain chemistry when you are manifesting your soul mate but go ahead and do it anyway. Your brain is confused… programmed wrong….. it is the root of your love sabotage.

Life has conditioned your brain to act as if Love hurts and is potentially fatal (I know that is a little dramatic, but the Saboteur’s love it that way….that’s why you are still single!)

When you track down the grand daddy aha at the bottom of your questions, you then bring refreshing restorative pleasure brain chemicals into that very place. Sweet relief?

You bet, and remember, Abraham Hicks has been telling us for years that our number one goal should be relief. They are so so right!

You can train your brain to fall in love. Keep using all the tools you are learning. EFT is my personal favorite, however there are literally dozens of techniques you can use to change your brain’s chemical state.

Your job is to recognize when you are freaking out and deal with it as a physical brain issue first. This takes practice, but you can do it.  Once you relieve the stress chemicals and find relief, then make the decision that is freaking you out. Then for sure you will stop freaking out about your ex.

Wouldn’t it be lovely if UPS could deliver your mate to you….today?

Wouldn’t it be great if you could skip dating all together?

OK, Wishful Thinker, time to come back to reality.

If you hate to date, that is a problem. Fear of dating is just the tip of the love-repelling iceberg. If there is a way to meet great prospects without dating, I haven’t heard of it yet.

Can you learn to LIKE dating?

Or at least tolerate it?

Let me ask you this, on a scale of 1 to 10, how motivated are you to find a partner?

Dating does not have to be a nightmare! In fact, hating to date is Love Sabotage for sure!! Twice a month I teach EFT Cupid classes so that you can melt your self-consciousness and shine!

Every other week EFT Cupid meets to support singles motivated to put their lonely past behind them and get some traction for their Soul Mate Attraction plan.

Classes are no cost for members of my private community. Are you ready to take steps toward True Love? Just click here for registration information: http://EFTCupid.com

“How long has it been since you broke up?”

“Three years since he broke our engagement”  The somber woman reported.

“Three years?” I repeated.  “Have you dated at all since then?”

“I’ve tried but I keep meeting married guys or players.”

“Sounds like you are pretty discouraged.”

“I am.  But I am so ready to move on. I don’t want to waste another minute being mad at him anymore.  It’s just killing me!”  She said with an ironic laugh.  “I thought he was the one, I was wrong and I deserve another chance!”

“You bet you do!” I smiled. “Let’s talk about getting over Lost Love…..let me tell you about Monica.  She is a Scarlett too and  well….seeing is believing, take a look:”

Are you ready for real change?

Are you tired of your Saboteur keeping love at a distance?

Have you been searching for an easy way to melt your self sabotage?

You are in the right place!

Welcome to EFT Cupid: Tap Into Love

Do you wish you could learn how to use EFT to attract your Soul Mate? I hear you and every other week I lead EFT practice sessions for my members.

You will work with me personally to turbo charge your own EFT results. There is something amazing about doing EFT in a group.

The unified intention of the callers to Find Real Love is magical. I am opening this new program so that I can work with all of the Rapunzels, Snow Whites and Scarletts out there who are ready for LOVE!

The EFT Cupid program is included in my private membership site and you can try it for only $9.97 for a month to see if you like it.

Just click right here for all of the info:  http://EFTCupid.com

Loving you and your Saboteur!  Come Tap yourself into True Love!