Abraham Hicks Relationship Tips

Do you remember the scene from Sex and the City where Carrie slept with that college kid?

When she woke up in the morning, facing the Walk of Shame, she squealed as she looked around the room.

The place was a disaster, there was no toilet paper and there was a room mate passed out under the table.

Did she have a good time on the date? Oh yeah.  Did they have a second date?  Uh, no.  What do you do if you attract a fairly great guy whose life is a mess?  How do you know what is negotiable and what is not?

When you attract the next significant man in to your life, there will be no mistaking the connection.  Like a magnet, your similar interests and personality characteristics  will be naturally and irresistibly drawn to each other. That is a good thing.

As you get to know each other and you both relax more of your true natures can be seen. So far so good. But, this is where it gets tricky.

If his lifestyle, ambition, work ethic, habits or attitudes become problematic, all you need to do is make mindful decisions each step of the way.

Don’t let your mind mess with you by focusing on the future. Simply balance his true positives with his true negatives and choose your way forward.

Many times terrific guys are just rough around the edges and need some friendly coaching to know how to partner you correctly.

You can cut a guy slack and tell him what you prefer when it comes to what you want from him, but if he resists what you need and you doubt his motives, you are developing your deal breakers.  Here’s what to do:

1.  Take a moment and breathe into your heart. Ask yourself, “Is it in my highest good to be with this man?” Feel how that question resonates within you as you ask it.

2.  Do you cringe? Listen to the cringe. Compromise will always be a part of a successful relationship but sacrifice is never Ok.  Sacrifice is never OK.

3.  If there is a lot of chemistry between you, it may seem impossible to accept that everything in you is saying RUN FOR YOUR LIFE, yet you must.

You must stop the relationship if it demands too much compromise on your part to stay together.

4.  Finally, give yourself a lot of credit. You attracted a guy who is almost but not quite, right? The only way to ID your deal breakers is to get to know your guy long enough for him to let down his guard a little.  Then you can see his different moods, habits and attitudes over time.

5.  Keep checking in and if it feels like a strong YES for you, keep talking, keep negotiating and keep moving forward.  Needless to say, no sex before monogamy and stretch this time out as long as you can.

There is a delicious tension in the first few months of any relationship that is irreplaceable. Enjoy the heck out of it.

I am working on a new project and your experiences are incredibly helpful to me as I write and teach these skills.  Please leave your comments and share your stories.  Have you ever compromised too much to stay with someone?

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Even if you still feel alone in your quest to find your Soul Mate, there is help out there! I just happened upon (wink, wink) this video this morning. You can easily use this Focus Wheel practice no matter what stage you are in…single to long term marriage!

I suggest that you create the focus wheel right along with the volunteer in the video. Just write exactly what Esther cues him to write. Watch how you feel going through the exercise. Remember, your true manifestation power is in how well you feel your body’s sense of engagement in the exercise.

In other words, goose bumps, shivers, to yawning and relaxing your whole body…. Radical Well Being has a personal signature. Once you start feeling it, it is so much easier to coax your thoughts in that direction.

Enjoy!

“Your physical exposure to your physical world is providing the contrast that is necessary for you to form your opinions and desires about how life could be improved.  And even though you cannot see them, and are often unaware of them, your desires for improvement shoot out from you as Vibrational rockets, or messengers of request.

They shoot out into the Vibrational atmosphere in the same way as the original rockets that created your planet were sent; and they are received by the Source of the Energy that creates worlds, the same Source Energy that is the origin of All-That-Is. And those ideas, requests and desires are understood; and in the moment of their launch—they are answered….

The part that is most often misunderstood, or overlooked by our human friends is that in the living of physical life and in the launching of those rockets of desired expansion, it is not only an expanded world your are creating—it is an expanded YOU.”

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex, page 176

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“It may sound odd, but the fastest way to get to a new-and-improved situation is to make peace with your current situation. By making lists of the most positive aspects you can find about your current situation, you then release your resistance to the improvements that are waiting for you.  But if you rail against the injustices of your current situation, you hold yourself in vibrational alignment with what YOU DO NOT WANT, and you cannot then move in the direction of improvement.  It defies Law.”

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex page 66

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“You cannot continue to focus upon unpleasant thoughts without keeping the thoughts active within you and therefore holding yourself out of alignment with the solutions and relationships that you really do desire.  In short, you just cannot get to where you want to be by pointing at the evidence of that which is unwanted.  It defies Law….

Many argue that unpleasant things would not be active in their Vibration if other people had not behaved in a way that caused the activation.  And while we acknowledge that it is certainly easier to feel good when you are around good-feeling people, we would never go so far as to say that the behavior of others is responsible for the way you feel, because you have the power to focus, and therefore attract, despite the behavior of others in your environment.”

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex

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“Everyone who turns up in your life–from the people you call friends and lovers, to the people you call enemies and strangers–comes in response to your Vibration. You not only invite the person, but you also invite the personality traits of the person.

Many people have a difficult time accepting this as they think that many of the unwanted characteristics of the people in their lives and they argue that they would never have asked for something so unwanted to come into their experience…..We know that many of the relationships and experiences that you have attracted, you would not have deliberately attracted if you had been doing it on purpose, but much of your attraction is not done by deliberate intent, but rather by default.

It is important to understand that you get what you think about, whether you want it or not.  And chronic thoughts about unwanted things invite or ask for matching experiences, every time.  The Law of Attraction makes it so.”

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex, page 21

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“We want you to remember that while you are focused here in this Leading Edge physical experience, you also have an Eternal, non-physical, older, wiser part of you that exists in the Vortex and is always available to you.

This Vibrational Relationship between the physical you and the non-physical you is significant for these important reasons:”

1.  The emotions that you feel (your Emotional Guidance System) are because of the relationship between the physical you and the non-physical you.

2.  As you reach for new thoughts to get back into the Vortex, you have the benefit of the stable knowledge of your Non-Physical counterpart.

3.  As you reach for new thoughts to get back into the Vortex, you have the benefit of the confidence that your Non-Physical counterpart is always in the Vortex waiting for you to come into alignment again.

4.  Every other relationship you have (that is with other people, with animals, with your own body, with money, with concepts and ideas, with life itself) is profoundly affected by this all important relationship between you and You.

5.  Everything you are wanting, your deepest desires, are in the Vortex waiting for you.  When you are feeling relaxed, calm and happy, that is the evidence that the non-physical and physical parts of you are in alignment.  That is when the magic happens!

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex, page 13

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“Without exception, the flawed premise or unstable footing that most people stand on is because they care more about what someone else is thinking about them than how they themselves are thinking.

So over time, by interacting with many others who are also worried about pleasing others, they have lost sight of their own guidance and have become further and further separated from who they really are.

And so, they feel worse and worse as time goes on, and they come to incorrect conclusion after incorrect conclusion until they are completely lost.” (From Catherine…and then they believe that another person is the answer to their problems…that it is another person who will finally make them feel better about themselves.  This mindset will always postpone the very love they are wanting to manifest.)

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex page 9

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You did not come in to this physical experience intending to take all of the ideas that exist and whittle them down to a handful of good ideas that everyone agrees on.

Since everyone wants to feel good, and there are so many things that others are doing that, as you observe them, you do not feel are good, it is easy to understand how you would come to the conclusion that your path to feeling good is through influencing or controlling the behavior of others.  But as you attempt to control others (through influence or coercion) you discover that not only can you not contain them–but that your attention to them brings more like them into your experience.

You simply cannot get to where you want to be by controlling or eliminating the unwanted.

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex page 28

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The feeling of connection that people are looking for, the exhilaration of being with someone with their hearts soaring, really is not a function of the person you are with, but instead it is a function of your own Connection with You.  We would prefer to think of Soul Mate as you mating, or consciously connecting, with your own Soul or Source or Inner Being or Self.  When you in your physical moment and time, are offering a similar vibration to your Inner Being, you have indeed found your Soul Mate. And if you consistently do that, the people who will gravitate to you will be enormously satisfying in nature.

In fact, one of the fastest ways to make your way to a wonderful relationship is to find any subject that consistently feels good, and focus on that even if (from Catherine….especially if) it has nothing to do with relationships.

Abraham Hicks  “The Vortex” page 43