Feel free to cut and paste this ad and post it on your local Craig’s List:
Wanted: The Perfect Man
I am looking for an ideal partner. You must be open and available to me emotionally. You must be easily entertained and passionate about your life. You must be confident and have the ability to get noticed when you come into the room.
I prefer manscaping so no extraneous body hair. Integrity is important to me and you must be your true self at all times. You must get along with my friends and family and yet be completely devoted to me.
Above and beyond all, you must never, ever hurt my feelings. I have been hurt enough and it is up to you to put an end to that. Oh, and if you are short, bald or broke…no need to apply.
Silly? You bet! And yet, most single women have a version of that running in the background of their minds. Just like a hidden program on your computer’s hard drive, you have a ‘mind virus’ that is convincing you that some version of the above want ad is true.
Can you have a man who won’t hurt your feelings? You know that can’t be true. And yet, the pain of being misunderstood or dismissed is so intense for some women that they organize their whole lives to make sure they don’t get hurt.
Love Sabotage for sure!!! What can you do instead? I know it is hard to accept that hurt feelings can’t be eliminated forever. Actually, that is a good thing. Your hurt feelings feeling is a critical part of turning up your love magnetism. Tune into this video and I will explain why: