Archive for July, 2010

I recently got this in an email “Does my Inner Being know what I want?”

I love this question. I would ask this back…Do YOU know what you want?

Look at some of the answers I get to this simple question:

Do you want to be married?

• “I’m really not sure.”
• “Well, not right away, but if something ended up there, I would be ok with it.”
• “I kind of want to but if I met a nice man who didn’t want to, that would be ok with me.”
• “Not that important to me.”
• “I never really thought about it.”

Your mindset is keeping you from making a clear decision on exactly what you want. That is the best way to sabotage your way to love, friendship and romance. If you are not sure about what you want, you will get back a constant thread of “unsureness” and never truly relax.  A deep fear of being disappointed may be keeping you froma making any clear decision.

How did I get so smart? I lived for years compromising everything trying to protect myself from being disappointed.  Nothing worked.  When my first marriage ended, I made a decision.  I decided to find out why I felt so unsure about love.  Lots of people told me they loved me, but I never felt sure about it for myself.

Learning what it felt like to be out of alignment was a first step toward manifesting your own soul mate. I was able to stop blaming the people who had hurt me and deal with the pain they were a part of.  It was life changing.  I felt lighter and lighter as I went along.  It was such a relief to stop thinking about all that drama and trauma.

Have you have been indecisive about what you want in love. Today is the day to change that.  Make a decision to want what you want.  Be honest with yourself and want the biggest and brightest future you can imagine.

If wanting your Secret Heart’s Desire is too painful and makes you feel sad or frustrated, reach out and get some help. The ache of a still broken heart is not a position of power when attracting New Love.

Decisions bring strength.  Your mind loves decisions because then it can go right to work creating the ideas you need to move you forward on your way to your future.    Change is possible and when you are feeling way off….a little down, low energy, crabby, constricted…you are out of alignment.  Nothing personal, you just need to get yourself back into harmony with yourself. It is a sure call for a course correction.  When your most heart felt desire matches your core vibration, you always feel wonderful, energized and hopeful.  There is excitement in what is possible and good things flow your way.So does your Inner Being know what you want? Of course.  And the really excellent news is that when you get what you really really want (Yes, that is what your Inner Being wants too) it feels better than you can imagine.

What do you really want in your ideal relationship outcome? Be bold and decide to have it. Then set your mind to do what needs to be done to raise your vibration to match that desire.  You can do this.  It is not possible to dream too big of a dream for yourself.

Ready to check out your Core Vibration? For a very limited time, I will still be offering the Love Magnet Readings.  Soon my staff will be taking over this part of the process but I do have a few spots left in August available.  To find out how strong your Love Vibe is, click reply and we’ll get you on the calendar.

To Friendship, Romance and Love,

Catherine

$848,000,000 was spent on Shapewear by American women last year. $848 MILLION.

What if that very fashion accessory is KEEPING YOU SINGLE?

On a recent CBS Morning Show there was a feature on a segment of that market, the Booty Boosters.

Apparently, the Butt is the ‘”It” factor in sex appeal this summer…no kidding!

According to the report, Beyonce and Kim Kardashian are making big money showing off their full, curvy butts and women all over the country are buying butt pads to enhance their booties.

How is this hurting your soul mate search?

The problem is that at the end of the day, you will be taking off your faux butt, taking out your contacts, peeling off your Spanx, sponging off your eye makeup and in every way being your true physical self with your man.

If you want to attract True Love, there is only one way and that is to fully accept yourself….just the way you are, right now. I don’t know a single woman who doesn’t dislike at least one part of their bodies. How about you?

Are your teeth too yellow? This is my personal challenge. Even tooth whitening doesn’t help. Yes, the treatment lifted my color two to three shades but that is not enough to please me.

It doesn’t help that NOBODY on stage and screen has ‘normal’ colored teeth anymore. Don’t believe me? Watch a movie from the 70′s and look at the smiles.

Maybe you wear glasses and over depend on your contacts for your sense of self worth. Do you feel ugly with your glasses on?

Is your hair your challenge? Too curly, too straight, too frizzy, too little of it, too much of it? Do you know that people spend over 2 trillion dollars on hair care products and services in one year?

Maybe it is your height that bothers you. Is it near impossible to meet a man who is tall enough for your preferences? Do you dislike being so short?

Maybe you hate your feet, your freckles or your facial hair.

The botox business is booming and don’t get me started about plastic surgery. Imagine how much travel you could pay for with the money you are spending to create an image you hope will attract Love and Connection.

What’s a body to do?!?

There is nothing wrong with enhancing and preening and preparing yourself to be noticed. Illusion is fun and an important part of seduction and romance. Women have been using cosmetics and jewelry for thousands of years to attract a man’s attention.

The woman who get what she wants….a lasting relationship with a man who adores her, is the woman who knows the biggest secret of all.

She knows that the Truth of her attraction is her ability to accept herself…warts and all. She knows that her external appearance is but a glimpse of her full Essence. She understands that at the end of the day, a man wants to come home to someone who accepts him completely.

It is a humbling experience to feel deeply accepted by another human being….with no strings. When you know you can offer that to a man, you are irresistible.

The best way to practice this magical attraction tool is to use yourself as a test bunny. Write a list of all of the things that you don’t like about yourself. How many do you come up with?

If you only have 1 or 2, yay! You are a role model for others and you no doubt have many friends and colleagues who enrich your life right now. Even if you are still single, you are probably pretty content with your status right now.

If you have 4 or 5 flaws that bother you, you are about average. You may find support in 12 step groups or a Course in Miracles Class. Make a plan to cut your list in half.

Make a conscious effort to accept yourself at a deeper level than you have. Your loneliness and isolation are directly related to these aspects that are draining you.

If you have over 7 personal issues that you dislike about yourself, I suggest you find a mentor, coach or counselor. It is exhausting to carry this much self-criticism. Believe me, no one notices whether your freckles are getting darker or your feet have a strange shape.

What makes a man feel great with you is his CONNECTION to you. If he feels like you “get him” he will adore you. The few ‘flaws’ that you have and are trying to cover up are keeping True Love just out of your reach.

Next time you want to buy something new to enhance your Outer Look, look in the mirror and ask yourself…“Will this help me accept myself or hide myself?”

This simple question is a powerful step in tuning in to your true identity. It is who you REALLY are that is irresistible to that special someone!

Is it your time? Is your Love Vibe being muffled by your self concept? To see if Love Sabotage is pulling down your magnetism, just click here for a complimentary assessment:  http://EndLoveSabotage.com

Noticed any self sabotage lately? Here is a sign that your Saboteur has been in action.  Since you have been reading this blog, a part of you has been tempted to take action and contact me.

But, there is another part of you who is resigned to the status quo and believes that change is too hard, too time consuming and ultimately a waste of time.

And yet, you keep reading the posts….

Meet your Saboteur.  Seeing herself as a super hero, she makes sure that you don't take a chance and get hurt again.  She is good at her job, I bet you can't remember a time when you were open to a man.  Maybe you've never trusted any one with your true heart.

And yet, you read on….

That inner tug of war is exhausting, isn't it?  Well there is a very good reason for that.  Some of the battle with your Saboteur is physical…that's right, physical.

When it comes to LOVE, your default vibrational setting is stuck in Fight or Flight.  Many of you feel weak knees, nausea and dry mouth even thinking about what you would do if a great looking guy approached you. 

How did that happen?  It is really quite simple.  As a little human being, you were impressed with what you saw around you and you took everything you saw and heard as gospel truth.  No wonder you feel intimidated by Love.  Some of the people who were supposed to show you what Love was like, didn't have a clue themselves.

As always, when you get information like this, I hope it brings a lot of self compassion.  There is a very good reason why you are still single.  Once you understand that, you can make a plan and address these false impressions you have been carrying all of these years.

Here are three sure fire vibe shifting exercises you can do that will boost your confidence and lift your spirits:

1.  Go outside.  I tell this to all of my clients.  Just getting a breath of fresh air can really make a difference.  If you have any plants in the garden, bury your face in the leaves and breathe. Smell the life around you.

2.  Get a drink of water.  Most of you are dehydrated right now.  Squeeze a fresh lemon wedge into your glass or add a sprig of fresh rosemary.  Dress up your water and drink deeply.

3. Write 5 things you have accomplished that you are proud of.  Sometimes it is easier to see what is not working, who is not showing up in your life and how much Love is not here yet.  When in reality, you have had a great year so far.  You have been addressing your goals and moving forward.  Find the evidence and write it down.  Be your own cheerleader for a change!

The simplest ideas can shift your vibration and set your manifestations into hyper-drive.  Remember, True Love is pursuing YOU!  It is your destiny to be loved and to love deeply.  Never give up on your dreams!

Curious how strong your Love Vibe is? You can get a free Love Magnet Reading by clicking right here:  http://ht.ly/2anKt

Posted via email from catherine’s posterous