Are you out of sight, out of touch and out of reach from the man of your dreams? You might be a “Rapunzel”.
Rapunzels are the lovelies I work with who are not even aware that they are locked away and unavailable to True Love. The interior of their tower is full of vision boards and lists of the perfect match, but when it comes right down to it, there is no way for a man to get in.
One small window at the top of the tower let’s her look out at the sea of possibility right outside, but heartbreak and disappointment from the past keeps her separate and out of the game. Like the Rapunzel in the fairy tale who had to let the poor guy climb up her hair (ouch!!) our modern day Rapunzel is afraid that the emotional pain and risk of letting a man get close is just not worth it.
She stares longingly out the window at the handsome guys passing her by and daydreams about a future life she has no idea how to get. As years go by, the tower gets taller and more severe, making it harder and harder to see the men who could bring her the love she so desperately wants.
Could you be a Rapunzel? Check these symptoms and see if you recognize yourself:
1. Hasn’t had a long term relationship in over 5 years.
2. Enjoys being home alone.
3. Has a closer relationship with her pet than she does with a man.
4. Turns down invitations.
5. Has a traumatizing breakup in the past that still stings.
6. Acutely lonely.
7. Is secretly terrified of change.
Is this you? Well, Rapunzel, how long are you going to stay up there in that tower? Who holds the key to your future? Unlike the fairy tale, there is no wicked witch who has locked you in there. And, you don’t need to let anyone climb up your hair to set you free.
Just acknowledging that you have checked out and been out of commission for awhile will start to shift things for you automatically. Start by looking at your life from a new vantage point. Face how long it has been since you have been out in circulation and take an action step to change that.
Check out meetup.com and find a group to join. There are groups for every interest imaginable…from photography to wine drinking to hiking. Volunteer at your area animal shelter and love on those lonely pups and kittens. Just do one thing out of your ordinary routine. Find a coach or mentor who can equip you to re-enter the dating scene. Above all, choose to commit to changing your vantage point. True Love is not a distant dream….it is closer than you think.
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