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Secretly, she never did like those dwarves.

Over the years, she even secretly named them.   Whiney, Negative, Complacent, Unmotivated, Stubborn, Naive and Annoying.  Resentment was a constant battle.  She was such a sweet thing and didn’t get angry very often and she really enjoyed helping them….part of the time.  But, she never felt appreciated at the deepest level.  When they hi-hoed-hi-hoed and off to work they went….she took care of that whole household….with no electric appliances.  The end of the day came and her to do list was never done. The next day all she had was the same routine…..again.

How do you tell if you are a Snow White? Maybe you are a Scarlett O’Hara, Rapunzel or Sleeping Beauty. Everyone has a Self Sabotage Style, I call them True Love Saboteurs and I find four types.  Snow Whites are lovely women.  They are kind, generous to a fault, reliable and faithful as apple pie.   They crave financial security and yet are chronic under-earners.  They strongly believe that their service to others will give them the connection they are hungry for.  Most have no idea what True Love really feels like so their love magnetism is scattered and confusing.

Because The True Love Saboteur’s only task is to make sure your beliefs are supported and stay true, this is a powerful energy source with in you. She is truly a master.  It is tangible proof of the power of focus.  You believe Love is hard and that it is impossible to find a good match….your Saboteur makes sure that happens.

How do I know?  You are still single.  No matter how desperately you want a partner, it is not happening.  Your Saboteur is working overtime, underneath the radar, supporting the belief that trusting a man again will be too devastating to handle. For many Snow Whites, the stomach clenching fear about what will happen if the next man is not the one, is enough to unconsciously opt for singleness.

In fact, most Snow White’s have taken steps to move on from the past and recognize what they have been doing is not working.  Many of them are out of touch, perhaps numb, to the inner turmoil.  Like ashes after a forest fire, there is emotional residue cluttering up the Inner Landscape.  A part of you is terrified that you will not find someone.  Your Saboteur is doing everything it can to make sure you don’t feel how afraid you are.

What’s the solution?  The first step is to check in to see if Snow White’s Saboteur Style fits:

How To Recognize Snow White:

• Doesn’t enjoy social events where there are mostly couples.
• Allows schedule to fill with lots of activity but not much substance.
• Needs to feel validated, almost manic about being right.
• A tender spot for animals.  Some feel their soul mate is their pet.
• Holds a grudge, hard to let go of disappointment.
• Hard to say no.  Feels sucked into things she doesn’t want to do.
• Had a very strong imagination as a young child.
• Her friends see her as sweet and kind though at some level, she doesn’t get that.

The second step is easy.  If you feel you might have a True Love Saboteur underneath your relationship radar, just click the link below and we can set up a complimentary consultation. I can show you if your Saboteur is activated and how much control she has over your love life.

XOXOXOXOXO

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Today’s post is by Gillian Reynolds:

How to Make Him Fall in Love with You Fast! 3 Quick Tips to Win His Heart

You want to know how to make him fall in love with you fast. You met an amazing man and you can feel yourself falling head over heels for him. Ideally, he’ll feel the same way about you. Unfortunately, men tend to fall in love at a slower pace than we do. However, there are a few things any woman can do to subtly speed that process along. Being in love is a feeling unlike any other, so why not do everything in your power to ensure you get the man you want to love you too?

Learning how to make him fall in love with you fast includes these three quick tips:

Be a little mysterious. Men love it when a woman is a wee bit mysterious. If your life is not an open book, he’s going to feel more drawn to you. Don’t put all your cards on the table too soon in the relationship. Let him learn new and interesting things about you each day. He’ll love it. To him it’s like unwrapping a new gift on a daily basis. If you slowly allow him to learn more and more about you, he’ll always be hungry for more.

Have a fun and fulfilling life. Whenever a man meets an interesting woman and her schedule is always wide open to see him, he’s disappointed. Men are drawn to women who are dynamic and remarkable. If he discovers that you have nothing going on in your life other than your burgeoning relationship with him, that’s going to be a let down. He’d much rather see someone who has a career she loves, friends she adores and who has a laundry list of interests that swallow up her time. Let him see that your life is very fulfilling with or without a man and he’ll actually want you more. He’ll want to prove to you that you need him and that will make him work harder to get you to love him too.

Be extraordinary. The one common complaint that single men have is that all the women they meet are cookie cutter versions of each other. Many women make the mistake of thinking they have to present themselves in a very specific way to get a man’s attention. You just have to be yourself. An extraordinary woman is one who is honest, sincere and kind. He wants you to show him the real you. If you have an opinion, share it with him. Don’t believe that you always have to agree with is point of view in order to get him to love you. The opposite is actually true. He wants someone who knows her own mind and speaks it.

Remember to always be yourself when you want to capture a man’s heart. Once he sees the amazing woman you are inside he won’t be able to resist your charms a moment longer.

Diana hates her birthday.

Now that she is 39 for the last time and 45 is around the corner, she is tired of being a good sport. “I never thought I would still be single,” she wailed to no one in particular. Living alone had become a nightmare and the reality that children were not likely stabbed through her like a knife.

“Why did I ruin it?” she sobbed, “He wasn’t that bad. I thought he was The One at first. He was really into me. But the minute I started to talk about marriage, everything completely changed.” She began to cry uncontrollably. “He was my last chance, I just know it.”

This birthday was really painful. Last year she had taken Todd home and introduced him to her family. He didn’t want to be called a ‘boyfriend’ but she chose to ignore that. SHE knew that he was, even if he didn’t say so. She had waited almost 6 months before approaching the Commitment Talk. He pulled away faster than the D.C. metro. And now…she was alone….again.

Diana glanced at her voice mail….10 messages. She couldn’t bring herself to listen to all the birthday greetings. She hated her birthday and every year, as she kissed her dreams good by, it got worse plus time kept getting faster and faster.

Is it too late for Diana?

Unless she does something to change her attitude, yes. Harsh? Maybe. Honest? Yes. Diana has put so much pressure on herself to manifest a husband and family that she broadcasts a desperate vibe that is turning every prospect away. She thinks she can put on a happy face and ‘act as if’ she is fine but she is not fooling anybody.

What would I tell her if she asked me? I would remind her of the meaning of insanity….doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result each time. I would ask her a few important questions like these:

1. Did you have a boyfriend that broke your heart in high school?

2. Has anyone ever cheated on you?

3. Was your dad cruel or manipulative or absent?

4. Did a male teacher belittle you or humiliate you in public?

5. Have you been raped or beaten?

If Diana answered yes to any of these questions I would tell her this: Those past experiences left an imprint on you that is here right now as strong as it ever was. Memories with painful emotions attached to them are controlling your every move when it comes to choosing the men you allow to get close to you.

Find someone to help you release these painful imprints. Whether it is a pastor, a counselor, a coach or other mentor, don’t try to do this alone.

If your microwave is on the blink, you don’t take a screwdriver to it, take it apart, rebuild it and put it back together, do you?

Why do you think you can find your own problem, take yourself apart and then rebuild your heart by yourself? If you are REALLY serious about finding a soul mate and building a family, there is one thing you absolutely must do.

You must do something, no make that everything, differently than you have so far. If marriage has eluded you, face the music and change course. Don’t let the painful memories from the past stop you from finding True Love.

Once you set a new course, get the marching orders from someone able to help you and then move forward….you will find what you are looking for. I promise.

Do you ever wonder if it is too late for you? Did you answer “yes” to any of those questions? If so, I would love to support you. Go to http://EndLoveSabotage.com and take the survey.  Once upon a time, you believed that True Love was possible, let’s restore that dream.

90% of singles quit on-line dating services for the wrong reason. What if your soul mate is out there on line and you never meet him?

There is nothing more magical and true proof of the Law of Attraction than Internet Dating.

If you have only attracted creeps and losers on-line, there is a perfectly logical reason for that and it doesn’t have anything to do with the creeps and losers. No matter how beautifully you write your profile, the energy underneath the words is what prospects are responding to.  Wait… read what my star client Maria writes about her new Love Vibe.

Before we started to work together, the ratio of 7 women to 1 man on her beautiful island of Victoria, British Columbia just killed her dating life. She teased that all the men were either “Newly Wed or Nearly Dead” and the only men who responded to her profile were the “Nearly Dead”.  She was totally creeped out.  Look what she says now:

Hi Catherine

I wanted to send you a quick note regarding our sessions. Before I started working with you I was very discouraged about finding love. I have been single for 15 years only dating every now and then.

Since we started our sessions I am having a complete attitude change, I believe it is possible to find my soul mate! I feel so much better not only about finding HIM but I also feel amazing about ME too.

Catherine you put my world into perspective and that in itself is priceless. I believe there is a wonderful future out there waiting for the right moment to find me. Now I feel I’m ready to go after it.

I have this inner excitement inside of me that I had lost for so many years. It’s nice to have ME back again, I really missed her! Ha ha!

Catherine you are a doll and you make a world of difference in people’s lives, don’t ever stop doing what you are doing.

You even got me back onto Internet dating, which before I met you I wouldn’t consider trying ever again. This time with my new vibrations it is a lot different. It’s exciting and new and it really does work!!!

Hugs to you, I cannot wait till the day I meet you in person.

Love ya,
Maria

Maria’s first step was The Soul Mate Quiz.  Once she felt her Love Vibe and realized how muffled it was by the heartbreaks from her past, she understood why she was attracting the wrong men.  The Law of Attraction led her to my website and the rest is history.  Even though she hasn’t met “The One” yet, I know she is getting more and more irresistible to men who are perfect prospects for her.  She is attracting single guys in her age group and having more fun than she thought possible….with on line dating!

How about you?  If you are single and not dating and fearful of on line relationships…it just might be because your Love Magnet is too weak to attract True Love.  Take the first step and get your Soul Mate Success Score.  http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and find out right now!

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