Archive for May, 2010

Or is it?

Shelby reached across the table and grabbed her cigarettes. Another Saturday night alone with her Tivo, her cat and her Salems. All she could think about was how much it sucked being alone….again.

“I am so tired of doing everything alone,” she muttered. The microwave chimed in announcing her Lean Cuisine entree was ready.

She padded across the kitchen in her old slippers to retrieve her dinner. “I am such a sad sack…why can’t I snap out of it?” Tired of her routine, she tossed the frozen dinner into the trash, changed into her jeans and flip flops and headed out of the house.

Not exactly sure where she was going, Shelby walked toward the park. The minute she got outside, she felt better. It was a beautiful summer evening and the air was still warm from the day’s heat.

She took a deep breath…old advice from her former yoga teacher, and felt her mood start to change. “If you want change in your life….you have to change something about your life.” The words from the self help book ticked her off when she read it, but they felt different right now. “Why did I quit that yoga class anyway?” she thought. “I loved it.”

Sitting down on a bench she absentmindedly traced hearts in the sand at her feet. “I wonder if there is a Saturday night yoga class with a hot instructor for me to look at.” she laughed. “Now that is a change I could get in to!”

What could a yoga class have to do with making the love search easier? Everything!!

If you are serious about finding love, you have to take a good look in the mirror. If you don’t like spending Saturday nights with yourself..how do you expect anyone else to? It is easy to fall into the Victim Trap…you know what I mean, don’t you?

HE cheated on you. SHE gossips about you. THEY don’t invite you to be part of the group. There is absolutely NOTHING of value to you in sentences that start with SHE, HE and THEY.

Your power lies with statements that start with I. Your LOVE VIBRATION is turned on by the words I AM. Try these on for size:

I AM a great person with lots to offer.

I AM loving, loyal and full of life.

I AM alone right now but that is only temporary.

I AM talented and funny.

I AM looking for new friends and contacts.

I AM open and available to all the good the Universe has for me.

I AM constantly evolving toward my highest and best.

I AM enjoying life more every day.

I AM allowing the natural unfolding of life to delight me.

Go ahead, make a few I AM statements of your own. Remember that your LOVE VIBE depends on it!

Could Love Sabotage be keeping you home alone?  Find out right here in this free assessment:  http://EndLoveSabotage.com

 

I doubt many of you have heard of Antietam Creek. I hadn’t either until visiting the Washington DC area this weekend.  Antietam Creek is a tributary of the Potomac River located inn south central Pennsylvania and western Maryland and the site of the most deadly single day battle during the Civil War.  Over 23,000 young men died that day.  23,000.

The property is huge and spectacular in beauty. The day I was there, it was raining steadily and the newly arrived spring time greenery in the surrounding forest was a sight to behold.  That is what makes visiting Civil War battlefields so very poignant.  The fact that these pastoral scenes were the sight of so much bloodshed is heartbreaking.

On one particular site, called the Bloody Lane, 5600 men lost their lives.  Some of these ‘men’ were 13 and 14 years old.  While meditating in this now peaceful scene, I was acutely aware of these boys.  “If I don’t make it, tell my mom I love her.”  This comment was written in a small bible found at the scene.

When it comes right down to it…the most precious gift of all is our love for one another. Love is what we all want to leave to our closest family.  Love is what transcends all other wishes.  Love is YOUR destiny and your legacy. I wonder if you are loved enough.  I wonder if you know how lovable you are.  I wonder if you believe there is more love for you right now.

Visiting the many bloody battlefields of the Civil War has changed me. I always was passionate about Love and creating experiences so that people can find their own True Love.  But now, the mission is magnified.  Love IS all around us at all times and yours if you are with your soul mate or not.  If you are lonely and aching to be connected to someone who will love you like no other, don’t wait another minute.  Take the steps to change your SELF so that you are irresistible to the Love you are seeking.

Wonder if you are really ready for True Love?  http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and find out right now!

Posted via email from catherine’s posterous

There is some powerful mojo on each and every one of these words, use them as much as possible!!

Yes

Of Course

Surely

Absolutely

Definitely

Anytime

Affirmative

Sure as shootin'

Yep

Yeppers

You Betcha

You're right about that

Sure enough

I agree

Naturally

I'd love to

Certainly

For sure

We all carry the legacy of hearing the word "NO" thousands and thousands of times.  Having someone say "No" to you closes your heart, doesn't it?  It feels awful.  When you start agreeing with people, you will see their faces light up!  People LOVE to feel heard and saying yes as often as possible is the easiest way to attract attention.

Does this mean you should ALWAYS say yes?  Of course not, sometimes "NO" is the best answer.  But, most of us can stand to be a bit more agreeable and the payoff is amazing!  Join me today in pledging to use more positive and affirmative language when you are out and about!  Feel free to add to my list too.  Let's create a wave of positivity starting today!!

Are you ready for New Love?  Take The Soul Mate Quiz and find out.  Click the link below:
http://www.attractyoursoulmatenow.com

Posted via email from catherine’s posterous

This story is published on AOL Personals.  Lori is living her dream after learning a valuable lesson about what True Love looks like!  I know you will enjoy her story!

Drew and Lori met on Match.com and they went on one date. "He just wasn't my type," said Lori. "I wanted a corporate guy, who wore suits and lived in Manhattan. This guy was a chiropractor and showed up wearing jeans and sneakers. Although he did bring roses." According to Lori, the date went well, but Drew didn't meet any of her criteria. So, she didn't call him back and continued on with her life.

Lori describes the next three years of her life as a time of transition. Lori began to realize that her "list" wasn't helping her find the man of her dreams. "Slowly," Lori said, "I began to date men who didn't fit the list or what I believed was my type." Lori began to open up to new people and new experiences and three years later, when Drew contacted her again she was ready. "I hadn't forgotten him," Lori said. "He had the same birthday as my sister." And Lori's own chiropractor knew about Drew. She had never really forgotten him.

Drew found her profile again on Match.com and wrote her a message telling her that he still thought about her and asking her why she hadn't called him back. Lori responded with a "flirtatious" message and they agreed to go out on a date. The Friday, when Drew came to pick her up, he was wearing jeans and sneakers and carrying roses. Lori laughs at the memory. "He still wears jeans! I can't break him of that habit." During their date, Lori told Drew about how she hadn't felt ready at the time to date someone she described as "the type of man you marry." But now, the timing was perfect.

Drew was determined not to let Lori go. On their fifth date they went skiing in Vail, Colorado. On their 14th date, Drew took Lori to Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, where he proposed. "We were stuck on the plane leaving New York for almost four hours and when we got there we discovered our luggage was lost, so for four days we had not clothes," said Lori. "But we still had fun anyway and I knew that this was the man for me, because even stuck on the airplane and wearing day-old clothes, we still laughed and had a good time." Nine weeks after they started dating a second time, Lori and Drew were engaged.

As Lori looks back on their whirlwind courtship three years in the making, she notes that had they tried to date that first time they met, their relationship would not have worked. "Love is all about timing. I needed time to become the person who I am now." Since marrying Drew, Lori's life has gone a completely different direction. She laughs happily when she talks about it. "I went from being a single, PR executive, living in Manhattan to a stay-at-home mom, living in Brooklyn." It's a lot of change, but Lori says she was ready for it.

Lori now writes a dating column for SingleEdition and has her own blog at LoriBizz.com. The No. 1 thing Lori tells people who come to her for advice is this: "Lose your list; and if you can't lose it at least be willing to compromise on a few things." Lori sincerely believes that lists hold people back from finding the love that is right in front of them in jeans and sneakers. Trust her, she knows.

Are you ready for New Love?  Take The Soul Mate Quiz and find out.  Click the link below:
http://www.attractyoursoulmatenow.com

Posted via email from catherine’s posterous