Archive for April, 2010

Here are three powerful free tools you can use right now to reawaken the joy of belonging to that special someone.

I had a wonderful experience this week sharing an interview with the always brilliant Arielle Ford, author of The Soul Mate Secret on Co-Creator Radio.  If you are serious about manifesting a Soul Mate sooner rather than later, click this link and download the recording right away!   http://cat3733.audioacrobat.com/download/CatherineandArielle.mp3

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You can believe in Love again and these three tools will make it possible!

I believe in you!

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Posted via email from catherine’s posterous

Ah, the single life. The only thing it seems to be saving me from these days is being the victim of infidelity. With all the news of happy marriages gone south due to infidelity on the part of the spouse, I don't have to deal with the broken heart of a Woods or Bullock. I often bemoan my lonely existence, but the alternative doesn't look much better.

I recently heard on the news that it is estimated that roughly 30-60% of all married individuals in the United States will engage in infidelity in their marriage and these are "conservative" estimates. On top of it folks, half of all marriages will end in divorce. There is only one thing to say – the deck is stacked against us singles.

With stats like that, I often fear entering into another relationship if that's the projected outcome. I already know that most second and third marriages have higher rates of failed marriages than first. I blame that on people taking their problems from marriage to marriage and not cleaning the suitcase of problems before they go on their next honeymoon.

However, even more disturbing is the fact that as you look at the person at the altar you're about to marry nowadays, there's a greater than 50% chance they're going to sleep with someone besides you! Gosh, what a horrible thought. My trust in the opposite sex is already at rock bottom thanks to my past experiences, so how does one trust again? I often thought too that my own religious beliefs would shield me from having to experience infidelity, but even the "faithful" are falling to temptation. There is no guarantee any longer.

I really must admit, I hate the world we live in these days. Perhaps that sounds sad, but I truly have lost faith. Morality my friends is a joke and though we think it has no consequences on society or upon us as individuals, it's quite apparent that it does. We're turning into a society of untrustworthy, deceitful, self-centered individuals that seek pleasure. And what does the pleasure bring us? Broken lives, broken families, and broken hearts.

Perhaps I'm on my soapbox today, but it's obvious after 10 years of singleness the deck is getting stacked higher and higher against me. I often thought after spending so many years without love that I've been dealt a bum hand in life. However, even if another hand is dealt me and I find someone to love, will it still be a bum hand? Hard to know if I'll ever find my King of Hearts now.

Okay, I'm done ranting. I have more problems – it's time for another oil change. Where are the men when you need them?

You can follow Vicki Hopkins right here:  http://justonesingle.blogspot.com/

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What is our world coming to?  Is this the trend of the future?  What is your worst break up story?

Back in the day, before technology, the worst thing would be when your BF or GF would simply disappear, never to be heard from again.  It would take time to realize they were gone forever and that was cruel in its own way. 

But now, with text, twitter and Facebook, everything has changed.  One client found out when her ex changed his relationship status to Single on Facebook.  Ouch.  How about you, have you either dumped someone or have been dumped on social media?  Shouldn't there be social media manners??

I do lots of business on line and social media is a life line to my clients.  I love connecting with my ever growing community of peeps, friends and contacts.  It is true that nothing replaces in person contacts, but I enjoy wonderful connections all over the world and I love social media because of that.

But….if you are reading this and you are considering a breakup, I hope you do the brave thing and tell your soon-to-be-ex in person.  It may scare you to pieces to look your former love in the eye and tell them that you are ready to move on, but you will be so glad you did. 

Guilt will haunt you if you take the chicken's way out every time.  You may be able to swallow that guilt, but don't be fooled, hidden guilt will hurt your next relationship….every time.

Let's face it, breakups are natural.  You need to split up if you are not happy.  Your True Love is out there waiting for you.  Cut your losses and move on, just do it with kindness.

Meanwhile, if you have been dumped in a cruel way, here's a hug, text style: {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Hug}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}.  You will be ok, even if you are struggling right now.  Be glad your ex moved on.  Now you can find someone who will give you the love and respect you deserve!

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I married for forever.  No wiggle room.  I was all of 21 and feeling like I knew everything there was to know about what I needed in a partner.  Ouch, bless my young and naive little heart.  I had no idea what I was getting in to.

My main strategy was to compromise and strategize ways to keep people from being upset.  Upset with me, upset with themselves and upset at life.  I was pretty good at it, or so I thought.  Bright, perky and a bit of a smart ass, I could change the atmosphere at will, and that felt good.

One problem, people always get upset.  And trying to prevent that is an exhausting, thankless and ultimately self destructive path.  By time I realized this, my marriage was beyond repair.  I was devastated.  I married for forever and I had no plan B.

I had never considered divorce and it took three counselors to help me learn to let go of my dreams and the shreds of a relationship that I had emotionally checked out of years before.  It was a dark and painful chapter of my life.  Over the years I have worked with brilliant coaches and mentors to find my way.  It has been a humbling journey as I came to recognize how my own thinking and expectations had undermined the Love I once had for my former husband.

Eight years after my divorce I can now say that divorce recovery IS possible.  It has been a slow process and even though I am now remarried, I still have sad moments.  While saying goodbye to my first Love was painful, the sadness these days comes because of the loss of the future we would have shared.  Grandchildren, weddings and other life passages that I dreamed of sharing as a little old lady with my little old man are never to be.

I used to get frustrated with myself because of my sad moments.  I used to think I could get beyond the loss forever.  Now, I realize that the sadness is natural.  It was a big loss…nearly 30 years of my life.  I have found that if I allow the sadness to drift through me rather than fight it off, it clears quickly…more quickly all the time, and the light of my new life and Love guide my path.

If you are in the midst of the divorce drama, my heart goes out to you.  Be gentle with yourself.  You will find your way through and there is true peace for you at the end of the trail.  Waking up to the truth of how much compromising and accommodating you have done to stay in your relationship will shock you at first.  Getting a grip on finding out what YOU want for you will empower you to move forward into the next chapter of your life.

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Can you relate?  Have you worked and worked on your on-line profile and still attract people you would never pick for yourself?  What’s wrong with the system?

Personally, I have worked with many people who have had excellent results with on-line dating.  Some, though still single, really enjoy the people they have met through these dating resources.  So what’s the deal?  Why aren’t more people lucky in on-line love?

If you aren’t finding a good match, could it be that YOU are not a good match? Is it possible that you aren’t projecting the whole picture?  If you are attracting people that are not even close to your ideals, you just might need to focus on a little ME-Harmony before you go to E-Harmony.

Long time singles like yourself have a Lost Love Legacy that holds your future captive. Each person you have encountered along the way…BFFs included, have left a sort of footprint in your mind and heart.  Some past relationships have been good and the breakups mutual.  But, the fact is, all past relationships have disappointments and heartbreak that lodge themselves in your heart.

No one is perfect.  People hurt each other in relationship when misunderstandings happen, no matter how hard you try not to.  When you attract the exact opposite of who it is you want to be with, it is a sure sign that you are coming across with a confusing vibration. The Law of Attraction is relentless and always brings exactly what you are vibrating…not what you are hoping for.

One part of you craves to be loved and adored.  Another fears opening deeply to let love in.  One part of you wants to co-create a marriage that works.  Another part is intimidated by the negotiating it takes to walk it out.
One part of you wants a partner who is open and vulnerable.  Another part of you is terrified of being open and vulnerable.  See what I mean?

When you focus on ME-Harmony, you learn you can accept your doubts and fears and still move forward. Making peace with the ghosts of relationships past is the fastest way to get there.  Each heart break in your past holds the power to make you an amazing partner.  You did the best you could with what you knew at the time.  Finding self compassion and letting go of your hurts and disappointments will bring you to a place of shining self confidence.

When you have ME-Harmony, you may not even return to on-line dating.  There is nothing more irresistible than a happy, confident person.  Your luck in love will surely change when you choose that as your primary goal!

Curious about how to bring that harmony to yourself? Take the Soul Mate Quiz right here:  http://AttractYourSoulMateNow.com

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