Archive for December, 2009

Hi Soul Mates,

Morgana Rae tipped me on this fantastic article by author Ton Pascal. Enjoy!

Only once in every 20 years, the blue moon appears on New Year’s Eve, as it will this year. On a plain physical level what is happening is that the moon is out of phase with the days. For it to make its complete cycle it’s about 29.5 days. It doesn’t coincide with our month, and that’s why it is out of sync with our Julian calendar. It’s the occurrence of two full moons in one month, which happens every two years, hence the popular quotation “once in a Blue Moon” which means ‘not very often.’ On average, there will be 41 months that have two Full Moons in every century, so you could say that once in a Blue Moon actually means once every two-and-a-half years.

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“Your physical exposure to your physical world is providing the contrast that is necessary for you to form your opinions and desires about how life could be improved.  And even though you cannot see them, and are often unaware of them, your desires for improvement shoot out from you as Vibrational rockets, or messengers of request.

They shoot out into the Vibrational atmosphere in the same way as the original rockets that created your planet were sent; and they are received by the Source of the Energy that creates worlds, the same Source Energy that is the origin of All-That-Is. And those ideas, requests and desires are understood; and in the moment of their launch—they are answered….

The part that is most often misunderstood, or overlooked by our human friends is that in the living of physical life and in the launching of those rockets of desired expansion, it is not only an expanded world your are creating—it is an expanded YOU.”

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex, page 176

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Hi Soul Mates,

Just like Scrooge was haunted by the ghost of Christmas past, I still am occasionally visited by the ghosts of my past relationships. My breakups were all the right thing to do. Looking back I know that each of those men was an important part of who I am as a woman today.

But it still hurts, if I let it.

Is this true for you too? If so, you may be able to help me out. I want to create a practical book for moving on after love ends. I am interviewing men and women about their experiences. I am especially interested in those relationships that seem impossible to let go of.

My wish is to expedite the process so people can jettison the emotional residue and get out there and attract the True Love waiting for them.

If you have a break up story, are stuck between partners fearful to move on or have any tricks and tips about getting over lost love, I would LOVE to speak to you! Don't worry, all names will be changed, you can be completely anonymous.

All you need to do is to add a comment to this post  and I will contact you to set up an appointment.

If we put our heads together, I believe we can help a lot of people truly access the Law of Attraction and draw in the love of a life time.

Love and Magic,
Catherine

PS I am putting together a dynamic series of interactive teleseminars for 2010 that will be $47 per class. As a thank you for your help in my break up book project, I will send you a $47 coupon so you can attend a class as my guest!

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Well, it is 60 degrees and sunny here in Southern California and I am feeling nostalgic.

Milwaukee is due for a heavy snowfall before Christmas and my two adult children will be celebrating with their dad. We have been divorced for several years and everything has settled into place. My ex and I don’t see each other much but our kids enjoy a good relationship with each of us.

I’m happy about that but I still feel an echo of sadness that our original family didn’t have the lasting power I hoped it would. The first couple of times that the kids were with their dad on a holiday, I got blindsided by sadness. I was surprised because I really am happy that they all get along so well.

Larry seems to always say the right thing when I am feeling disjointed. He reminds me that it is normal to feel sad about missing what might have been. He has been divorced for years longer than me. He still feels left out at times when his son and family are busy with their mom.

What I wish for this Christmas, for me, my hubby and all of us, is that we can become nostalgic for holiday memories in the past and carefully pick and choose the images that were priceless.

None of us married with a plan to get divorced. Life meanders along and these things happen. How sad if we lose the preciousness of memories of our kids’ innocent holiday experiences.

So I am enjoying my nostalgia. Sure, I may cry a bit as I take the inner journey to the past. This year instead of picking on myself about it, I am going to pat my inner self on the back and say….”Good for you! You are feeling real feelings and you are going to pass through the sadness.”

So in celebration of the positive parts of my past, I am sharing some of my favorite holiday memories with you:

1. I was always up to the wee hours with Christmas details, procrastination was always an issue. One year, I swear I was only in bed for an hour and I heard something in the livingroom. I peeked out there and found my young daughter building the Barbie Ice Cream Parlor for herself in the glow of Christmas tree lights. It was tough to convince her that even though Santa had come, she needed to sleep for a couple more hours.

2. In later years, we always allowed the kids to empty their Christmas stockings without our presence so we could sleep in til it was light out. One of my most favorite memories was when the kids filled surprise stockings for their dad and me. I was moved to tears by the selection of thoughtful little surprises they picked.

3. Like my mom before me, I put out cookies and milk for Santa and a couple of carrots for the reindeer. In the morning, I laid out red paper footprints leading from the treats to the fireplace. Of course, my husband and I nibbled on the cookies and left a bit of carrot….evidence of the Big Guy’s visit.

4. Another family tradition was to put up the Christmas nativity scene early in December. I kept the baby Jesus until Christmas morning so the manger was empty. We encouraged the kids to report to us when they saw anyone in the house doing a good deed. The good deed doer had the privilege of putting a straw in the manger….so baby Jesus would be more comfortable. What a great way to turn the tables on the steady stream of tattle taling that went on.

5. Snow Ice Cream. Oh yes, I can remember this from my childhood and passing the tradition to my kids. When snow was freshly fallen, we would fill a coffee cup with the white stuff and then pour maple syrup on it! YUM!

What about you? Are there some Christmas traditions you recall with a smile on your face?

If Christmas is sad for you this year, I am sending a HUGE electronic hug to you. It may sting now but it will get better. I promise. No one can take the sweet memories from you. As my now husband says to me every year…part of your life with your ex was really good. We were all wide eyed and hopeful about our lives. If your marriage didn’t make it, accept it, forgive yourself for your part in it all and reach out to your friends for company.

Remember, what you focus on expands. If you catch yourself moping around, gently remind yourself to focus on something that makes you feel better. It will get easier.

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Be brave and look into the heart of your past.  There are clues to your patterns of attraction.  The Law of Attraction is always at work drawing to you what you think and believe in.  Be mindful of what you are focusing on and choose carefully…your love future is in your own hands.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could start a relationship with a healthy dose of hindsight leading the way?

Now that I am in my second marriage with a second soul mate, I have often thought how lucky I am to be getting a second chance to do things differently.  In my first marriage, I was so ill equipped.  My negotiating skills were non-existent and I lived in a constant state of anxiety trying to keep peace at any cost.

I mistakenly believed that if I could keep my husband from being mad, that I would live happily ever after. Sounds so weak and wimpy now, I cringe at the thought.  But in my 21 year old wisdom (bless me!) all I wanted to do was to live in a home where there was no fighting.  What resulted?

Two people who never talked about what mattered.  Never talked about our dreams.  Never talked about our challenges.  Never talked.  I signed on for this.  I chose to be this way. The Law of Attraction brought me the exact right partner.  I take full responsibility.  When we divorced it broke my heart.  It was then, after my cushion of time to restore my confidence in myself after we broke up that I thought, “Wouldn’t it be nice if you could marry your second husband first.”

It sure would save a lot of time and complication.

Imagine if you knew the pitfalls to avoid. What if you had the confidence to stand in your own power and create a partnership that could withstand the tests of time?  What if you could beat the odds of the 50% divorce rate and create an ideal relationship?  I believe that is possible.  Not only possible, but probable.

Are you still waiting for that True Love to walk into your life?  Do you wish to enter a marriage with a game plan for lasting devotion?  If you are still reading this post, I know there is a part of you who is ready.  Ready to learn how to be a great second wife the first time around.

Take the time to prepave your next year.  Decide to create a list of deal makers and deal breakers.  Find a community of people who can support and believe with you.  The Law of Attraction will faithfully serve you as you come into alignment with your authentic self.

“It may sound odd, but the fastest way to get to a new-and-improved situation is to make peace with your current situation. By making lists of the most positive aspects you can find about your current situation, you then release your resistance to the improvements that are waiting for you.  But if you rail against the injustices of your current situation, you hold yourself in vibrational alignment with what YOU DO NOT WANT, and you cannot then move in the direction of improvement.  It defies Law.”

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex page 66

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Hey Guys,

Have an ex stalking you?

Why is it that a break up is only a break up for you?  Why won’t she just get it and stop texting you, calling you and showing up at your haunts?

There is an important step you can take that will cut off the relationship in a tangible way. Without this step, you just can’t finish the job and move on.  How do I know?

I was one of those very women.  After my marriage stumbled and crumbled, I met a fabulous man who seduced me with amazing skill.  I adored the attention.  He made me feel beautiful and sexy again.  The chemistry was red hot….the sidewalk could have melted under my feet.

We had 6 weeks of passionate and thrilling love making both in person and on the phone.  How much easier it would have been had he simply told me from the get go that he was looking for a sexual partner. Without that important piece of information, I read all kinds of meaning into his attention.  I began planning a future with him.  Big mistake.

He withdrew faster than a shooting star and disappeared.  Ouch.  Neither of us knew the power of the bonding hormones that trigger clinginess in women.  Guys, if you don’t want a woman clinging to you….wait before you invite her to bed.  We ladies become highly future focused after sex.  It is hard wired in us.

I watched my phone for text messages. I sent cute messages to try to attract the magic we had.  I was a pest and a pill. Ouch.  Now that I look back, seven years now, there is nothing left there.  I have moved on, even though it took monumental effort to disengage myself energetically and get him out of my mind.

Could he have helped me?  Yes, I think he could have.  Had he taken steps to cut the emotional and energetic ties between us.  I believe I would have lost interest sooner.

The moral of the story?  If you have an ex-girlfriend who is stalking you, you can do something about it.  Here are three practical steps:

1.  Write her a letter never to be sent. Tell her clearly and firmly that you are breaking the energetic ties between you.  As you write, allow yourself to imagine cutting the ties with her.  Send her good will and appreciation for the part of herself she trusted with you.  Once the letter is written, burn it.

2.  Visualize yourself and your ex separate and happy. At night before sleep, visualize your ex in a city a thousand miles away from you.  See her with another man.  See her happy and fulfilled.  If this is hard for you, it is even more necessary.  Part of you may enjoy her attention and you need to deal with this.

3.  Spend time alone for awhile before starting a new relationship. What did you learn from this ex?  Did she seem to change over time?  Did you?  As you evaluate what happened, you may want to create a new game plan for moving on and into a new relationship.  Learn about women in general.  We don’t mean to be obtuse.  It may be hard to figure us out, but I promise you, it is worth it!

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“You cannot continue to focus upon unpleasant thoughts without keeping the thoughts active within you and therefore holding yourself out of alignment with the solutions and relationships that you really do desire.  In short, you just cannot get to where you want to be by pointing at the evidence of that which is unwanted.  It defies Law….

Many argue that unpleasant things would not be active in their Vibration if other people had not behaved in a way that caused the activation.  And while we acknowledge that it is certainly easier to feel good when you are around good-feeling people, we would never go so far as to say that the behavior of others is responsible for the way you feel, because you have the power to focus, and therefore attract, despite the behavior of others in your environment.”

Abraham Hicks, The Vortex

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It doesn’t rain very often in San Diego.

Winter is also not quite what I grew up with in the midwest.  That’s what makes rainy morning snuggling so exquisite.  Now I know that the special magic of those first few kisses and the electricity of those first expressions of intimacy are breath taking and intoxicating.

But I am here to tell you, when I scootch over and glue myself to my sleeping husband…the spooner to his spoonee, there is nothing better.

This morning I am extra grateful for my sweet heart and it is not just because he turned over and wrapped his arms around me for a precious 15 minutes before we got up.

Lar and I have been through our share of challenges in our short marriage. Both of us have had some health and personal challenges.  We, like many baby boomers, are readjusting our vision and our dreams due to the new economy.

Yes, the first few weeks of our relationship were filled with stolen kisses and passionate embraces and other x-rated fun. But when all is said and done, once our biology calmed itself and we settled into the delicious rhythm of our daily routine, the gentle unfolding of our relationship has brought deep satisfaction.

Don’t get me wrong, the strolls on the Italian Riviera, beach walks in Hawaii and cocktails on the fantail of a cruise ship are beyond fabulous. I am deeply grateful for our good fortune and travel experiences.  However, the best part of my life with Lar is the day to day companionship.

I love how free I am to be myself. I love how I feel when I am with him.  I love planning our days together.  I love how involved he is in his own interests.  I love when I am home alone and he is out and about.  I love when we are on the couch, fire lit, he with his paper, me writing this post.

I love rainy morning snuggling.