Archive for September, 2009

“Honey, can you grab the phone?”

He harrumphed from the other room, “I’m trying to read the paper.”

Hands dripping from the bath water, she wrapped the baby in a towel and ran for the phone.  “Not interested” she said, cutting the sales person off.  The baby started to wail. “Shut that kid up!” came the voice from the livingroom.

“Hush, baby, shhhhh” she crooned, a tear making it’s way down her cheek.  She felt the familiar tightness squeeze it’s way into her throat.

How had it come to this?  Why was he so distant and cold?  She hugged the child to her chest, a little too tightly.  “You are all I have,” she whispered, burying her face in the sweet smell of the infant’s skin.

Where does love go?  How does the sweetness disappear? continue

What is it that makes some women so desirable that every man turns to look when they walk into the room? What is it about Angelina Jolie, Michelle Obama and Oprah.  Why do we watch every move they make?  There you have true magnetism or what we call charisma.  What is the magic and can it be learned or acquired?

I believe that every woman has that magic, the trouble is for many it is hidden deeply within, buried in lost love and disappointment. The reason I am convinced this is true is because of simple biology.  The survival of the fittest drives attraction.  The inner urge to keep the planet populated keeps males attentive to the fittest of the females….both physically and emotionally. continue

I just finished watching the Tivo’d broadcast of the final performances on America’s Got Talent. I suppose there was a time when I would have not admitted that out loud, much less in the blogosphere, but now, reality TV has become a part of my life and is no longer a “guilty” pleasure.

I was recovering from a serious illness during the season that David Cook won American Idol and I still clearly remember the impact of those weekly performances.  continue

“People don’t care about EFT.”

I sat on the other end of the phone, stunned and flabbergasted.  What????

Kevin Nations and Catherine Behan

Silence.

I didn’t know what to say.  I LOVED my work as an EFT practitioner.  I was able to help any and every one who came my way and I knew with every fiber of my being that EFT was the magic elixir that helped my clients in their transitions.  I considered myself an EFT crusader.

BUT and this is a BIG BUT, I was starving as a heart based business owner. continue

“You could always fill out those annoying coupons and subscribe her to fifteen magazines,” Dan chirped in his forever positive voice.  “That’s not helpful,” Molly sniped at him.  He reached over to pull her into a hug.  She was stiff in his arms.  “I just can’t understand it.” she sighed “How can she not have anything good to say….even now….especially now.”

“Come here, darlin’, let it go…let it go.”  In his arms, she let herself soften and receive his love….

It had been a phenomenal day.  Her composition had been selected and she was booked at Carnegie Hall!  The dream of a life time, well at least her life time, she had seen herself on stage at Carnegie Hall, the crowd on its feet applauding like fiends, ever since she was a little girl. And now, after all the years, tears and trauma it was happening.

Molly bought flowers from the street vendor, got an expensive red from the Wine Cellar (her favorite shop) and a couple of beautiful New York strips from the Italian butcher shop.  It was time for a celebration, and she couldn’t wait to get home to tell Dan.

He didn’t disappoint.  “Baby, I am so proud of you!” continue

She slipped off her shoes and tossed the keys into the dish.  Her cat rubbed itself in between her ankles forcing her to stop in her tracks. “Misty!” she grumbled, “Stay out of the way!”  The cat ran off with a short meow.  Gathering the mail and magazines, she poured herself a glass of wine and thought how glad she was that her husband wasn’t going to be home for a couple of hours.

Absentmindedly, she paged through Oprah magazine, sipping her chardonnay.  Her forgiving cat jumped up on her lap and nudged her hand with its head, begging for a scratch.  Once again, she pushed her pet aside, closed the magazine and sank into her thoughts.

“Why is it so hard?” a tear formed in her eye and made its way down her cheek.  “What happened to the us we used to be?”  Remembering the ease of their early days, the romance and passion that overflowed everywhere causing their friends and family to drool with jealousy made the tears fall faster.

She had been sure this time.  Sure that he was different.  Sure that she was ready. Sure that this was happily ever after. continue

To All Aspiring Soul Mates:

There really IS nothing like being desired. When my husband chooses to be with me, whether in the bedroom or  at the beach I love it. I feel genuinely ATTRACTIVE, magnetizing his attention and desire to be with me. What is the magic?

According to Dr. Marta Meana PhD., professor of Psychology at UNLV, being desired is “practically orgasmic” for some women. Knowing a man is desiring you is a powerful and arousing experience.  In other words, Dr. Meana says, “A man overcome with desire is so sexy!” continue

Appreciation is the secret to life.  Abraham Hicks

I could just stop there and post my all time shortest entry, but I will reflect a bit.  If appreciation is so powerful and so accessible, then why are so many people whining about their circumstances?  Why don’t people work at strengthening their appreciation muscles?

No matter what is happening, there is some one else who has it a little bit worse than you.  You know that is true.  If you are like me, though, sometimes appreciation is the hardest thing to find.  I hate going through crud.  You know CRUD:  Challenges-Reversals-Uprootings-Downsizings.  CRUD always sucks. continue

“Side of the hand: Even though I don’t love and accept myself I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

I had enjoyed my EFT sessions before but this time, when the warm and comforting voice had me repeat this particular statement I loved Brad all the more.
The first time I heard Brad Yates he was talking about Success Beyond Belief with Internet Guru Joe Vitale.  I had never heard of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)  before and they were talking about using EFT to attract a new car.  I was fascinated. continue

A friend of mine is just separating from her husband and hearing the fatigue, depression and sadness in her voice triggered this question:

How do you know when it is time to let go of a decaying relationship? The word “decaying” may give you a clue.  If you are miserable, exhausted and disenchanted with your relationship, chances are you are making a decision from a place of anger or fear.

Leaving a relationship is never easy, but if you do it with FEAR or ANGER being your motivator, you are setting yourself up to repeat your pattern with a new partner. continue